My boyfriend Jeremiah and I have been dating for about a year and a half now. I haven't asked my dad yet, but I'm sure he'll say now. How could I convince him that I'm responsible enough?
It's not till July, and it would be for the whole month.
Thanks!
2007-04-13 08:23:01 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend Jeremiah and I have been dating for about a year and a half now. I haven't asked my dad yet, but I'm sure he'll say now. How could I convince him that I'm responsible enough?
It's not till July, and it would be for the whole month.
Thanks!
EDIT: I'm 15 years old. But I make straight A's and am in ROTC. I consider myself pretty responsible for a high schooler. =/
2007-04-13 09:04:57 · update #1
You don't state your age, but if you need to ask then you already know the answer is and should be...NO! you can't go.
2007-04-13 08:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Really ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you want him to realise that you are responsible enough for this there are a couple things that he is going to be worrying about. First where are each of you going to be staying, if he is as traditional as my dad, two beds and different rooms is a must. Second hes going to be concerned with what you are going to be doing there. Thridly, he is going to be considering the financial situation of the trip, are you going to be paying for this, does he have to provide most of the money for it. Places like LA are really expensive to visit.
If you want him to think that you are responsible you need to have every single angle planned out and have an answer for any question he might have. This will show him that you are serious about this and are approaching it like an adult. I dont know how old you are, but i am 19, and know that my dad would seriously have questions if i was pitching this idea to him.
Have everything planned out
accomodations, food, plans, whos around who you know, what would happed while you were there.
whatever you pitch to him will have to be what you do, you want this to be a trust building thing rather than something that divides you.
Also, if he says no at first, dont have the usual reaction. Ask him to lay out his concerns for you and then address them one by one. try and keep the conversation without tears and yelling or whining, i know i would do that if my dad said no, which is probably going to be the most difficult part of this.
He might also ask you to chip in some money for the trip, so if you dont already have a job, you might want to consider gathering some money somehow... babysitting etc.
hope this helps!
2007-04-13 08:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by ELgrande 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this all depends on how old you are.
your dad is only wanting to protect his daughter remember, you're very important to him plus he knows what you'll be getting upto which isnt a nice thought for fathers.
sit him down and explain everything in detail of where you're going blah blahblah
and if he says no right out dont scream and shout because that just proves you arent grown up or responsible enough to go, just say ok i respect your decision, but couldnt you at least think about it please?
then leave it a few days and ask again, dont keep pushing though because he'll get fed up.
good luck xx
2007-04-13 08:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by mowgligurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably concerned, because you might not be old enough. Are you over 18? Dating for only one year is not really long enough to Really know each other. If I were you, I would wait until you are absolutely sure about each other. Dating near home does not necessarily mean the date will be the same away from home, away from people that know you. Get my drift?
2007-04-13 08:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding and if I was your parents I would not even allow you out the front door cause in a situation like this I am an over protective mom. Futhermore going that far away and if I was to allow it, I guarantee I 'll be taking the trip with the two of you as well. Huh.
2007-04-13 08:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows? your dad could say yes but first you have to prove to him that he can trust you. only you know how to do that. your dad is just being, well, a dad. they all do that. all parents worry about their children being alone with their boyfriends for an entire month. can you see why it might make him nervous? secretly, parents dont want their children to grow up. also, it makes a difference if you're 16 or 17 then if your 12 or 13.
2007-04-13 08:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okey! if you are living with parents, that means that you are still under your parents rules,if you want responsibilities start with finish school ,get job , apt ,pay bills ,all before you get pregnant. and if you and bf are going away for a month,he must have alot of money to burn,and i believe that the man should ask! yeah let your boyfriend ask
2007-04-13 08:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by wisper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Under 18. You should be concentrating on your studies instead of a guy. Over 18, just go.
2007-04-13 08:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off there is no way to convince your father....im young and dont have any kids yet but you can make certain when i do they wont be going on vacations with the opposite sex or anything until they are in college......Your dad knows what will happen on that trip....thats one big sex fest and its his duty to keep it from happening...
he wants better for you ,...he wants you to go to college and make a better life...not make a baby.... i know the temptation to go off with your boyfriend to Cali is great ...i was just there a few years ago in your shoes only it was with girls.......my parents were strict about things too.....Im glad they were.....
2007-04-13 08:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by camden 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
If you're 10, I think you're probably out of luck.
If you're 18, the issue is moot (your father has
little voice in the matter).
How old are you?
2007-04-13 08:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋