Shes okay to leave the house, but when we are ready to leave say the grocery store, she stiffens, screams, cries, and I can barely get her in the seat. Sometimes we have to sit there for 20 minutes or more trying to get her to sit in the seat. Distractions dont work, toys, food, its getting frustrating. Very rarely will she just get in and let us go. Other moms have the same issue?
2007-04-13 07:37:50 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda8419 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I let my little ones "help" buckle themselves in. (I always double check everything and make sure to tighten straps, etc.) Also, if they are about age 2 or older, they understand the word "safe", so I make them "in charge" of everyone's safety, AKA the Seatbelt Police. ;) They get a kick out of looking around at everyone's carseats and seatbelts (we have a large family, so lots of sibs to be "in charge of" for a nice change), and telling people to buckle up. I help out by suggesting whose seatbelt/carseat the toddler should look at next, so everyone gets in on the act of telling them "I'm buckled" or "I'm all safe now!"
For the odd occasion that my youngest still resists being buckled (she's almost 3 now, so it's very rare), I don't play around with it. Buckling in is NOT a choice. I give her the choice to help me buckle herself in, or I will do it myself. She almost always chooses to help, because being buckled in forcibly isn't much fun at all.
Best of luck!
2007-04-13 08:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by LaundryGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son was the same way from 9-10 months... thankfully that phase didn't last long. I just continued on my way of putting him in the seat. If he was really fighting me hard and pitching a fit, I just stopped touching him and stood there quietly while he sorted himself out. Once he calmed down and sat right I continued on with what I was doing. The solution to any undesired behavior is to simply ignore it. Once they realize that what they're doing doesn't get ANY reaction, good or bad, they will find that behavior to be useless to them and they'll move on to something else. Ummm playing and not wanting to leave is a totally different situation than your child fighting you when getting in the carseat, diaper changed, getting dressed, etc. And yes, ignoring bad behavior is what works to stop it in pretty much all scenario's. You can still physically remove your child from the playground without causing a scene or feeding into their temper tantrum.
2016-05-19 17:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sit there for 20 minutes. Or don't take her to the store with you. Find someone you can leave her with for the time it takes to go to the store. Yes it IS an inconvienence...but what is your alternative, to allow her to have her way and not get into the carseat? Simply tell her that IF she wants to go with you she will behave and get into her car seat without a fuss, IF she fuesses it will be the last time she goes with you and follow through.
2007-04-14 03:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you given the carseat a really good inspection lately? My daughter was hating her car seat and when we took it out of the car, stripped it of its cover, and tried to clean it, we discovered that there was a book (one of the toddler board books) that she had slipped behind the back cushion that was poking her in the back when she sat down. It was concealed by the cover pillow, but as soon as we removed it, she relaxed.
My daughter also went through a phase when she wanted to get into her seat all by herself. She wanted to do the buckle and everything, and would have a total fit if we tried to help. I finally convinced her that it was "the law" that only Mommies and Daddies could buckle carseats and that the police man wouldn't be happy with us if we let her do that part herself :)
You might start by taking the whole seat out of the car and checking it over (including making sure that the straps are in the right places on your daughter's shoulders) and if nothing is wrong, see if she enjoys the challenge of climbing in all by herself.
Good luck!
2007-04-13 07:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Aubrey and Braeden's Mommy 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem with my 5 yr old when she was 3. I found that I have to be very ruff with her. I would loosen the straps of the car seat and belt her in any way I could and drive off. Once she knew that I was not taking no for an answer the issue seemed to drift away. I know it seems a little unsafe but its safer then no car seat at all.
Also as soon as I got out of the store I would put her in the seat first before I even got the groceries in the trunk. Because by the time I was done she had calmed a little and I could re-tighten the straps.
Hope this helps!
2007-04-13 07:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 3 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Yup! Been there, done that. Not often, but yes, more than once definitely! Nothing works, except that after awhile she will finally give up and just sit there and cry a lot, so you almost feel bad cuz of the way she's crying. All you can do is keep trying to get her sitting and try to get her buckled in. It's just one of those things I guess...
2007-04-13 08:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We have the same problem with my boyfriends 2 year old. You have to show her who's the parent. You are obviously a lot stronger than her so you know you have the physical power to get her in that car seat in about 3 seconds if you wanted. You need to get emotionally "tough" with her. Tell her you are the mommy and mommy will always win. Don't yell but be stern so she knows that you mean business. Once she knows that throwing a fit is not going to work and she's not going to get any extra attention (good or bad), she should be calmer in the future about getting into the car seat when she's supposed to.
2007-04-13 07:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by ntemp01 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
yeah, my daughter wanted to do it herself so I let her and it worked. Of course I had to help some.
my son sometimes just did not want to get in it. I just ignored his screaming and held him in the seat and did the straps anyway. it only took a minute. try the distractions and talking and letting her help if she wants but if that dont work within 30 seconds then ignore the tantrum and make her get in and just do it fast and get it over with, dont let her take 20 min of trying to get her in, just make her, you call the shoots!
best of luck
2007-04-13 07:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by Emily 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and he always has to get in his brothers door. uugh. We pretty much just wrestle him in. Also try to make home sound like fun (we hear a lot of I dont wanna go home - he's 2 1/2 and has fun with the older kids at daycare/and they have an awesome swingset)
2007-04-13 07:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah my daughter does that too. I just tell her no and that will give her a toy from out of the vechile if she stops it works every time,,
2007-04-14 01:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by cmg_tweetybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋