Child Support??

Question

Why are women always crying about Child Support? In my opinion it takes two people to make a child, and TWO people to support a child. If anything it's more a responsibility for a woman to MAKE SURE she takes care of herself so that she don't end up pregnant. If the dad leaves, oh well your better off without him, your child doesn't need that kind of person in his life anyway. Why can't women have more confidence in themselves to make a life for themselves and their children without relying on a man to give her "Child Support"?

No your not lettin this guy off easy by letting him move on without a worry trust me Karma is a B**** and it will get him in the end, but thats for God to judge not us.

I fully respect and admire the women that do care and provide and find ways to do whatever it takes for their children. I do have a child and have had to go through the struggle but when my daughter smiles its all worth it!!

Answer 1

Most "mom's" DO NOT depend of childsupport, like me I received every 2 weeks child support for my daugther but it goes directly to a savings account for her future... that's why I work hard to give her all the things that she needs.. I don't care about the money I would rather fro her to be happy and wish that her dad will look for her more it has being 6 months since she saw him the last time.. but like you said I aslo believe in Karma and on the saying What goes around comes around good or bad... But most "mom's" DO depens on the child support and they are just waiting for it to arrive and give their 2007 car payment and they are the kind of persons if you pay you will see your kid if not you will not see or talk to your child and it is not fair bacause it is not the kids fault that their parents are always figthing for nothing!!! !

Answer 2

What an ignorant thing to say. Even in your 'question' you say that it takes TWO people to support the child. For the woman to work she'll have to fork out $400-$500 a month to daycare- shouldn't the father help with that??


And why are you making the assumption that just because the parents get divorced that the father is a loser and the child doesn't need them anyway? You must have grown up in a broken home or something. You sound very bitter.

My parents are still together. I was married to my husband for 10 years before we had a kid together so most likely we'll always be together so hopefully I'll never face this problem but yeah- women or men raising the child deserves child support.

Answer 3

Oh yeah, let Karma catch up with him... that will really put food on the table or an education in your childs pocket. Get real. You are talking about letting a man get away with making babies by not supporting them. Let the government support them, I bet that is your solution. It has nothing to do with confidence it has to do with responsibility. As for the men who desert their children - those mothers learn to get along without the support anyway because those ARE deadbeat fathers. Children need both parents in their lives physically and financially and this question is just a cop out for parents who want to move on and not make their children a priority. This is very sad...

Answer 4

In some cases, both partners made a conscious decision for the wife to stay home with the kids rather than work. If the marriage than fails, the woman can find herself without current marketable skills or recent experience that can get her a decent job. This compounds the simply fact that in most careers, women tend to earn up to 15% less than a man with the exact same level of experience and tenure. Single mothers often have to select jobs based on issues other than simply salary..things like sick leave, insurance issues and the availability of child care can make it much harder for a newly divorced/single mom to find a job to meet her families needs. Plus, in some cases, the husband's earnings (even if the wife did work) may have allowed her and her children to live a certain way...private schools, live in help, etc...that a single salary can not support.

I firmly believe that any man who has knowingly had sex and that act resulted in a child should be expected to provide some level of financial support IF the mother of the child is willing to allow him a share of parental rights. In the event of a divorce, there is no question that the man will take responsibility for the family he chose to make. Women who make more than enough to support thier families can always bank the money for the children's education (or ask the father to do so) or allow the father to use the money for activities he does with the children. However, the simple truth is that the father of the child is legally responsible to provide some level of financial support to his children until they reach the age of majority. And most Mom's need that money to make it. Confidence in oneselve is not always enough to overcome the factors listed above...and it takes two to make a baby and both partners have options to prevent it.

Answer 5

Raising a child is not cheap. I have two kids and my childcare is almost half of my pay. Add to that the cost of clothing, food and medication, it adds up. Unless you are one of those people that milk the system and have babies just to get more money from the government and the fathers, it is difficult to survive financially.

I have two kids and I do not live off of credit; however, I still need the child support to help ends meet and provide them with what they need.

On the other hand, there are those girls that have babies just to get money from the father. They pawn the child off onto family and friends, so they go spend the child's money on themselves.

Answer 6

That's right, we are not the ones to judge. You can't judge all single moms based on a select few. I for one AM supporting me and my child alone. I DO have the confidence, and the ability. However, it is extremely annoying in situations where the father doesn't just all out leave, but wants to be involved when it's convenient, and chooses not to help out in any way still. Trust me, I'd never ever ever complain about not receiving anything if someone could promise me he'd stay out of the lives of me and my child forever. Not that I cry about it now. I am the kind of person who realizes that I have no choice but to do it alone, if he's not gonna help out. Then at least I have pride in myself for it. Not all of us rely on a man financially in any way.

Answer 7

Women should be able to raise children without child support, but it isn't always the way...some just can't do it. You say it takes 2 to make a baby, so it should take 2 to raise it. I certainly don't see why the guy gets let off teh hook...he's just as financially responsible as the mother.

Answer 8

You have obviously never had money problems. And don't say - yes, I have. No, I mean money problems as in - crying after you tuck your children in bed because you don't know how you're giving them dinner the next night.
And you already answered your own question "it takes two people to make a child, and TWO people to support a child." That's why there's child support. What else are you asking? Child support does not 100% support a child. In my case, I get $40 a week for child support. I pay $100/week for childcare. $30 a week for diapers. $50 a week for formula. Do the math.
I have confidence in myself, but like you said - two people made the child - two people to take care of the child.

And, on your God note - he doesn't put food on my table. Never once have I come home to find diapers and food from God. Only my paycheck.

This is THE most insulting question to women I have seen on here.

Answer 9

You should not rely on Child Support, because the amount the courts determine, is only half the amount they think it will take to support the child. Mothers should definately be forsed to support their children, but fathers shouldn't get off scott free just because they didn't have the child or aren't raising the child.

Answer 10

Because it takes TWO- why should the woman have to support the child all by herself? There's a difference between getting child support and leeching off child support. If you're a single mom, you should be doing everything you can for you kids, and that means getting your own fat **** up and getting a job- not sitting back and just sucking up dollars like an old grimy sponge. But even a single working mom might not be able to cover all the expenses of raising a child on her own- putting child support money towards things it's SUPPOSED to be used for (like daycare and clothes and whatnot).

My mom worked everyday, 9-5, to make sure I had food, clothes, and an education. She still got child suport to help cover that little bit extra.