Im 15 and im pregnant and everytime we have a problem about my pregnancy involving me telling my mom im pregnant and i ask him he always says "wait let me ask my mom" i mean i know his mom did say i will help u if u need anything but thats getin annoying because i asked him not his mom...if i told my boyfriend in a nice way i asked you for a problem not your mom is that not right or you agree with me?
2007-04-13 07:10:02 · 18 answers · asked by becca . 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
He's just trying to help. He doesn't know what to do either so he needs to ask his mom. What exactly do you want him to do? Do you just want him to be by your side when you tell your mom you're pregnant? If so, just tell him. If you just want his opinion and he keeps saying "let me ask my mom", then tell him straight up, "I know what your mom said and I appreciate it but what do YOU think personally? In your opinion." Just communicate better.
2007-04-13 07:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Faith98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all this is a big dilema. Wow being 15 and pregnant. Anyways you need to tell your mom as soon as possible because you bf mom already know then your mother will be hurt. The fact that you were not able to tell her. You and your bf are now going to be responsibe for this little baby and need to grow up and figure life on your own. Also I suggest that you finish school because who knoe howlong your bf is going to stick around seen it way too many times. So tell your mom so she can also help you out with the baby you are going to need her help. Like money I am sure you do not have a job. Like I said tell your bf to grow up because you will have 2 babies to be taken care of if he sticks around.
2007-04-13 07:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should tell your Mom rigt way, unless you feel you are in danger from her. Your Boyfriend is, just that a boyfriend. Your Mom/family I hope will be there to help you through this. But they can't help you if you don't talk to them. On a personal note, I am so sorry that someone so young has this challenge in front of them. Your boyfriend should be doing what he can to make this right for you. You need to let your family know what is going on. I am sure his Mom is offering to help, but she should also be an adult and help you talk to your Mom about the situation right away.
2007-04-13 07:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by dayhawk4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's because you're 15 and he's likely not much older. He has no idea what to say about anything. You're going to have to get used to him going to his mom for advice. That's good though. You wouldn't want him to give you some made up advice. Be glad that he actually cares enough to question if he is thinking right. You and your boyfriend should tell your mom together. Maybe his mom can come to the meeting also.
2007-04-13 07:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by downinmn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is young, too, it's probably that he's scared and he's turning to someone he knows has been through this before and has the resources to come up with an answer.
The next time you want to talk with him, tell him you need to talk with him alone, and get his views without his mom's views before he has a chance to go tell her anything.
This is a huge deal as you very well know, and while he may not act frightened, my bet is that he's really nervous about everything. Turning it over to his mom may just be his way of coping.
2007-04-13 07:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by Behaviorist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming he's close to you in age. Boys mature even slower than girls. He's just not ready to make big decisions, he wants his mom's help. . . this is a big thing and he's probably nervous about messing anything up.
He's not doing it to annoy you, he just thinks that the "Right" answer is more important than his decision/opinion. Let him know that sometimes you just want to talk and dont need to get everything perfect.
2007-04-13 07:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's right that the problem is between u and ur bf but u didn't tell how old he is. I assume he's as young as u are. If that's the case, he's too young to be confident/dared enough to make his own decision. It's better to involve adult family in this matter.
2007-04-13 07:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by atm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're only 15, I'm guess that he is still also just a child. Of course he's going to turn to his mom for guidance, he has no experience with many of the things you're asking him. A person who admits they don't have the answers for everything is wise.
2007-04-13 07:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly it form of sounds like a tough undertaking. Its difficult to declare by fact i do no longer understand all the info like why she hates him and if he's older than you. i could say you in simple terms ought to sit down down her down and be basic. Be mature, and tell her what you desire and how your going to shelter it. If she would not different than it there's no longer something you're able to do. you in simple terms do what you need to to shelter this toddler, and confirm it has the two one in each and every of that's parents. you need to probable tell her that besides. a baby ought to be born right into a family contributors. Having a unmarried make certain is hard. i'm hoping this helped(:
2016-12-29 07:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see exactly what you mean but he is young and doesnt know how to answer you. he is not a man he is a child and doesnt know what to do. he is gonig to his mom for good advice. I know its annoying, myabe you could just say "well, you can ask your mom too but I really want to know what YOU think first" but like you said say it nice. He is probably just scared right now.
2007-04-13 07:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋