My boyfriend for a year told me that he only loved me 51% and the rest of him wanted meaningless relationships and because of that he broke up with me twice in the lastr month and then wanted me back, and I can't have a guy like that so I broke up with him a week ago and then he wanted me back and now he doesn't anymore but now it's started to hurt like hell. And I really do think I want him back (he sounds like a jerk now but we've had so many experiences together) and I can't imagine ever wanting a different guy. He says he wants to be my best friend but I don't think I can do that, because I can't stand seeing him and reminding myself we're broken up. I truly love this guy and I don't want him out of my life forever, but I know we won't get back together, and even if he wanted to, it wouldn't be a good idea. What can I do? I'm miserable.
2007-04-13 05:15:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't want to be your friend, he is just saying that to keep you available for when he wants you. Don't be his friend unless you like sharing him with other girls. He is not being honest with you, just using you as he has always been doing.
2007-04-13 05:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Renee. The fact that he loves you 51% tells you this is a no no. At least appreciate he has been straight by letting you know that he also wants meaningless relationships. From your description sounds like he's already treating you like a meaningless relationship. Your heart is in this big time and you are already hurting. Loving him will not change a thing because love is a function of acceptance. You can survive such a relationship by the way but you seem clear that you want a committed relationship consider you will not get it from this guy. Just allow yourself to hurt and yes stay away from him and then move on believe me there's someone dying to meet you
blessings
W
2007-04-13 05:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by zhebabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyones response will be take things one day at a time or something like just give it time but that's easier said then done..I know your heart is not trying to hear that because right now it feels like time wouldn't even stop the pain.. I know I've been there. It sounds like he knows he has you were he wants you and that he's your weakness so he's playin off of that. Guys aren't dumb, they know when they have a girl totally head over hills for them and instead of appreciating it they totally take advantage of it...it's an ego thing. Pretty much what will happen is you will be like this for awhile..letting him play games with you until one day you wake up and snap out of it. You have to really be prepared for what your going to put yourself thru..your mind..your body...your health...cause even that starts to go down hill when your expierencing heart ache. Get ready cause it's going to be a rough ride. I would say this guy isn't worth it and why would you want someone who only loves you..ummm what was it 51%??? you need someone to love you 110%. Guys don't know what they have until it's gone...give him a taste of that cause right now he doesn't see you going anywhere. Oh and theres NO WAY you will be able to be friends with him. I know you want to be though cause that's a way to keep him in your life but it's only going to make things worse. So god bless and good luck....
2007-04-13 05:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by justbeingme_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution is simple. Don't go back to him! You only set yourself up for more heartache and disappointment b/c who says they love someone 51%??? Really. if you give yourself to someone completely, then it should be they love you 100%.
You deserve what you put into the relationship and by what it sounds like, you are the one who deserves to be happy and be with someone who makes you happy all the time. HE pops back in and out of your life when whatever he was pursuing doesn't work out or got bored with it. NOT fair to you. I know you think there isn't another guy out there as good as him, but there is. Just gotta look a little deeper.
Do yourself a favor if you want to keep him in your life. Be friends.
2007-04-13 05:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by bearito99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know leaving the person that you love is difficult, but you already know is not a good idea for you guys get back together. So, why don't you just take a break before you make any decision. Time will help you see things clearly. Loving someone, doesn't mean needs to be with him. Good Luck
2007-04-13 05:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by BiBi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold up...
so after a year of u 2 dating he only loved u 51%?! thats really mean, for him to say that...especailly putting a percent on it. and if he wants meaningless relationships, gurl....just forget about him...b/c if after a year he's not TOTALLY in love with you and feels this way...what makes you think that any more time will change anything?! your right that he sounds like a jerk, b/c if i was ur friend, i'd prolly slap him for you. that's just horrible, i'm sorry. it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants...give him time to think about it. but honestly, i wouldn't waste my time on him...he says he wants to be your best friend...and thats all he prolly wants outta u is a friend (with benefits). you need someone who will love you completely and truely....just do your best to forget about him. have a girls night!! or go shopping...that always helps me, and *oh* it doesn't help to flirt either, b/c i guarentee once he sees you flirting w/other guys, he's going to realize what he lost...
good luck!
2007-04-13 05:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like a jerk he is a jerk. A guy like the one you describe I wouldn't even be friends with. Cut him loose the guy is a user/player. Sooner or later your bound to meet someone new. And with him as a back stabbing friend it'll just mess it up.
2007-04-13 05:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a break from each other will do ye good but if you still have the same feelings after a couple of weeks you could talk to him, also the break might have given him some sense!!
2007-04-13 05:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Eriec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him ONLY one more chance then if he messes up pack up and leave
2007-04-13 05:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by hotsuya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just 'walk away, Renee" ....
2007-04-13 05:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by mnencefront 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋