ok im goin out with a boy but i dont want to hurt him the reason im doin it is bcuz what he told his mom he kinda disrespected her by telling him who ever he is going out with is none of her buiz but i dont like a guy like that but in a way im also in love with my ex and i think being away from him made me miss him soo much more what should i do ?? how can i not hurt him but break up??
2007-04-13 04:53:41 · 13 answers · asked by *W3D@* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
theres really no way to avoid hurting him. unless it turns out that he's not that into you anyway. but if he really likes you he will be hurt and thats life. its especially not gonna help him if you get right back with your ex or anybody else right after you dump him. just be honest with him. dont string him along any further.
2007-04-13 04:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is never painless. Especially if you have been dating awhile. That being said:
You might want to think about whether or not this guy is for you. There is an old saying that the way a man treats his mother is a good sign as how he will treat you. If he bad mouths his mother, then what is to say he won't do the same to you?
If you break up with the guy, this is the perfect cop-out. It is also a valid reason. Just tell him that the way he talks to his mother troubles you.
Of course it sounds to me that you are more into your ex anyways. Unless there was drugs, violence, or infidelity involved, then you should go back to him. Especially if you have more feelings for him than your current boyfriend.
2007-04-13 05:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no way to break up with someone w/o some hurt involved. If this guy is not the one you want to be with-be honest, he'll be hurt, but you will have done the respectable thing and can walk away with a clear conscious. Don't waste your time or his staying in a relationship only because you are worried about hard feeling-that is how long UNhappy marriages start.
2007-04-13 05:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, if this guy has no respect for his mom then eventually his behavior will start affecting you. You can tell a lot about a guy by looking at his relationship with his mother. And two, sweetie follow your heart. Hurry up and break up with him. Don't prolong it. As for not hurting his feelings, there's no such thing as breaking up with someone and not hurting someones feelings. It's just a matter of how severe the hurt is. So when/if you decide to do it, be graceful and kind....good luck
2007-04-13 05:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We in the same boat. But anyways being wit another guy made you realize how much more you bf means to you. you should never leave the one you love for the one you like i always say but since you know how you feel start talking to your ex again and try to work things out. If he doesnt want you back then **** it then you guys werent meant to be. You ll find your one
2007-04-13 05:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by b-boy 128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kind of impossible try breaking up but in a nice way wait 2 to 4 weeks and try to get back with ur ex
2007-04-13 04:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky23 (Barça: Més que un club) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurting someone in a breakup should be a secondary concern and not your primary one. Just tell the truth...that is always the best policy.
2007-04-13 05:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about his feeling's..Anyone that will talk to their mom like that you don't want to be with him anyway.The way they treat their mom is usually the same way that they will treat you..
2007-04-13 04:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to do it now, before he gets in further and gets hurt more.
2007-04-13 04:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Yes Im K.A.B's Mommy :)♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should hook him up with 1 of ur friends...
break-up with him and tell him EVERYTHiNG!!
waiting will only hurt him more....
just say what u feel
2007-04-13 04:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by xosweetdedexo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋