She whines on the way to and from school. She has a whole routine now. She starts with whining about seeing grandma, grandpa, then cookies, then bananas, then dinner...here's what it sounds like:
C: Child
M: mom
C: Grandma!
M: honey, tomorrow you will see grandma
C: Grandpa! Grandma!
M: Tomorrow, not today. We have to go to school today but tomorrow i will take you.
C: banana!
M:When we get home I will give you a banana
C:banana.banana.banana. (louder and louder)
M: I dont have a banana in the car. i can give you one when we get home ok. Can you be a good girl until we get home?
C:yes. ok....banana!!!!
M: Honey, lets sing a song.
C: Cookie!
This is pretty much everyday. She is above average intelligence, she speaks very, very well. She is in a 3 y/o class because she is too advanced for the 2 y/o class. She is potty trained and very independent. I know this is not a developmental thing she is just being really stubborn. Ive tried ignoring her, distracting her?
2007-04-13 04:34:31 · 13 answers · asked by zoey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She just turned 2 in Feb.
2007-04-13 04:35:09 · update #1
BSBE...go find someone else's time to waste.
2007-04-13 04:49:42 · update #2
When she whines for something, ban it for a time.
I.E. "bananna, bananna"
"No bannana for a week"
then stick to your guns. inform the family and teachers.
whineing will soon dissappear if it has the opposite of the intended effect.
If that's impossible (i.e. cannot ban grandma), "no" followed by "stop that" and then punishment.
2007-04-13 04:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Hi, Introduce her to some basic positive words, such as, Look, See, Nice, Soft, etc, at two years old she doesnt have the volcabulary to tell u whats wrong, and its frustrating her, She doesnt seem to need to be consoled, only guided with a new way to express herself, Pls be patient with her, she is just a little child, trying to understand what is going on in her life, Give lots of hugs n kisses , best of luck,
2016-05-19 16:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're over talking and WHINING at her to behave. You're only teaching HER to do so. Stop giving attention to the whining. When she asks give her an answer..."cookie" "no" You don't have to explain or give excuses, YOU are the parent. If she continues you make a simple statement "I already told you no, don't ask me again, I won't answer". And then DON'T. Obviously you haven't tried ignoring her because her behavior continues. In order to ingore her you can not give in at ANYTIME. Obviously you have.
2007-04-14 03:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is consistent discipline important, but a consistent routine. This enables toddlers to behave themselves more easily than when they don't understand what is expected of them. A designated crying place removes tantrums from right underfoot, something most parents would agree is one of the most exasperating traits of the toddler years. Say no and keep your word!
Although these years can prove to be exasperating, having boundaries, consistency and a plan is sure to smooth the transition of toddlerhood during this precious but exhausting season of your child's life.
2007-04-13 05:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by mom_princess77 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've found 2 ideas that have helped me. 1: Whine back. they'll find it just as annoying as you do. or 2. Tell them you'll respond once and then you're not going to talk about it anymore. Then ignore her when she persists.
She'll grow out of it... Just be patient
2007-04-13 06:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by mbbwat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's pushing boundaries. NEVER make a deal "If you're good, I'll give you a banana later." Just stick to your guns.
Also, consider telling her what she's doing and how it makes you feel.
"Honey, your constant whining is not very nice and it's hard not to get angry. Please don't whine like that once I"ve given you an answer."
2007-04-13 04:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
welcome to the terrible twos ...
She is developing her identity ... but be warned ...
they smell weakness and indecision from a mile away!
if you say no ... mean it ... she may try throwing a tantrum ...
when my son (2 1/2 at the time) did that at a department store, I calmly looked at him, said ... "see you later" ... and walked down the aisle. He saw that I wasn't giving in and ran behind me.
The important thing is NOT to go back on your stand ...
Kids learn quickly what they are ALLOWED to get away with.
good luck
p.s. ... that son is now working his way thru college
2007-04-13 04:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by gromit1203 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My son is 8 and I have the same problem with him, except now the questions are more complicated. My advice - get used to it!
2007-04-13 04:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by JANE W 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I repeated that behavior back to my son. Now he tells me I'm annoying.
2007-04-13 21:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by jenshensnest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly who's the parent here........................ she does this because she know you will put up with it! She has you wrapped around her finger!!!!!!!!!!!!
Step up to the plate and be the parent!!!!!!!!!!
She does need attention but right now what she needs more is direction and discipline!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-13 05:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋