Well, we were originally to be married in like 3 months but then crazy things happened and then i found out i was pregnant and decided i didnt want to have a wedding right now. All throughout my family, the women always believed that a child should get the mother's last name if not married. Should i stick to this or give the child my partners last name??
2007-04-13 04:08:39 · 23 answers · asked by missdarkstar 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
we still plan on getting married.
2007-04-13 04:23:08 · update #1
we still plan on getting married...
2007-04-13 04:28:19 · update #2
I gave my son his dad's last name when he was born. I think you know if that is the right decision, we did not get married till our son was 3. I knew he was the right one and we were commited to eachother and marriage would happen. If you don't think the realtionship will last and do it to try and keep the guy then of course that is not right.
Do what you feel in you heart, if you are going to marry him then give your baby his name.
2007-04-13 04:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by schell_75 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I would suggest:
Give the child your name for now. If you two do not get married but split up instead, you will most likely retain primary custody of the child and it might be difficult for you to have a child with a different last name than yours.
If and when you do get married, you can change the baby's last name to your husband's last name. If you give the baby his name, and change your mind later you will need his permission to change it and he probably won't give it.
I gave my son his last name, and we're no longer together. I go back and forth as far as regretting that choice. Most of the time, I truly wish he had my last name. I don't want to change it, however, because I don't want my son to feel like I think he came from "bad people" that needed their name removed from him. I just wish it was my name from the beginning and it wouldn't be an issue. His dad is long gone, and I doubt he'll ever know the people he got his name from. It's sad.
2007-04-13 11:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by robin0408 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first question is do you still plan on getting married to him? If so, then you might want to stick with your boyfriend's last name or it'll cost you some money after the wedding just to change it legally. If you don't plan on getting married to him, then that's a different story. Before you do anything, think hard about what you want to do first. I know how it is. I had to deal with the same situation.
2007-04-13 11:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know all the details of your relationship. But I think you should keep your last name in case you don't end up getting married, and then you can always change when you get married and have to change your name too. If you change it and then something happens where you don't get married would you still want it to be his last name? I mean it's really up to you. Whatever your comfortable with. It really just depends on the situation.
2007-04-13 11:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Beach bum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, i am a very family oriented person, and i was always taught that a child should have their fathers last name..
this applies especially to u considering u gonna get married soon, but check this,....
married or not,....
if u r having a girl and he will be in his childs life, by all means, give the girl his last name,... if u feel that he wont be,.. keep her name as yours,.. when she gets married (and her name changes), she will start a tree for her husband anyway and her fathers (in a sense) will be cut off.... that will be the start of her husbands/boyfriends family tree......
on the other hand...
if u r having a boy and he will be his childs life, its most definate that he has his fathers last name! your son will continue the legacy of his father and keep his bloodline going,... this is how men keep up with their heirs. all men should have their fathers last name. its more pertinent in men than women....
hope this help u out a little...
GOOD LUCK!
2007-04-13 14:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by almostthere$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both plan on still getting married I would give the baby his last name. Even if you decide not to give his last name you can always change it once you guys get married.
2007-04-13 11:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he is going to be in the babies life and be a good father whether you guys get married or not the baby should get his last name. If it was a case of a one night stand and he would be a worthless father and not be involved in his childs life then I would say your, but that doesn't sound like the case. Why give him your name to only have to switch it later.
2007-04-13 11:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by baby1august 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should hive the baby the father's last name. My boyfriend and I are not married, and our daughter has his last name. I think that a child should have the father's last name automatically at birth, and then steps can be made to change it to your own later. Especially if you two are still going to be married, the baby should have his last name.
2007-04-13 11:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by rachel l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your priorities are pretty messed up. Get married now. Forget the stupid wedding. Plan on a 10 year renewal of vows. You need to focus on making a stable life for this baby.
95% of couples who are unmarried when the baby is born, split up before the child enters school.
2007-04-13 11:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The baby should have his/hers fathers last name. Especially if you still plan on marrying him, then you will all have the same last name. Congrats on the baby!
2007-04-13 11:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by Tamra 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋