me and my ex had been together for 2 years before i drunkley slept with some1, she didnt find out. i drunkley kissed someone a few months later and she found out about that and we spent several months trying to regain the trust and we managed to just about gain trust again when one of her friends told her about my drunken night of passion and the trust was broken, we again spent a few more months trying to work things out, we still went on dates and kissed and did everything couple did but about 4months ago she got a new job and took her some place else, she then told me she didnt love me anymore and i still tried to make thing work but recenlty in past couple of days she told me that she has found someone else, she told me she wished i hadnt cheated beacuse she still deep down loved me and wish we could end up togther but she hadnt been happy in a few months and she was finally happy, what can i do? try and get her back? let her be wit someone else? move on? she's my everything.
2007-04-13 03:20:20 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she was ur everything you wouldnt of cheated on her... TWICE! i say move on no offence but shes better off with out you. when u get ur next girlfriend u should try to lay off the boozing so much
2007-04-13 03:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she were your everything you would not have been drunk and sleeping with or kissing other women. If she were your everything you would not have lost her to total stupidity.
Not to be rude, but you earned your current situation. You made your own bed, now lie in it. You have lost her and she will not come back and she should not come back to you.
The best thing you can do is to learn from this experience and treat the woman that you love with respect. If you say you love someone and that she is your everything then treat her that way. Show her how much you care, rather than cheating on her and trying to hide it even after you got caught.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Next time prove that statement wrong.
Take care,
Troy
2007-04-13 03:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the time being I would just let her be and move on. She is hurt by what happened, but she is happy about the new job. If you are meant to be together it will work itself out. Give her some time to get comfortable with her new job and new arrangements. Then maybe send a email letting her know that you are thinking about her and wish her luck with the new job and go from there.
To be honest if she was your everything you would have never cheated on her drunk or not.
2007-04-13 03:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Important 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to let her go, if not u just bejng selfish...she already told u that she s not happy lately after knowing all what u did to her...just let her go n move on...obviously she cant forgive with what u do even she still loves u n that is bad for ur own future, cos both of u cant be happt together until she forgive n forget...but honestly what u did is really hurt her heart badly since she loves u sincerely... well, learn from the mistakes n try not to do the same thing to other girls
2007-04-13 03:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats very normal ,this happens to many in love.you are not the only one nothing to worry about it.its just cool
So the moral of the lesson is that-
look back your failure as a lesson
you can take it as a learning and avoid falling in to such tragedies hence forth.think twice before every act
become smart grow up!
all the best for your new love life
2007-04-13 03:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have learned the first time you 'drunkley' cheated on your g/f. Im sure you can try and get her back, but you'll probably be wasting your time. She's probably found someone that will give her the respect that she deserves. And if she was your 'everything' then you wouldn't of done what you did. Good luck in your journey bro.
2007-04-13 03:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Troy Mac 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's moved on, you should too. When she says that deep down she loves you what she means is that she'll always care about you--she can care about you and be with someone else. He's the one she comes home to, not you. Next time, don't drink so much that you make bad decisions.
2007-04-13 03:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Harry if she was your "everything" you wouldn't have thrown her away by cheating on her TWICE - kissing someone IS cheating - whether you were drunk or not. Men use being "drunk" as an excuse as if that makes it any better. What bulls.hit. You are lucky she was stupid enough to try and work it out BOTH times, now you've just plain lost her. Give it up.
2007-04-13 03:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Brandy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts to hear someone say they don't love you anymore and it hurts even more to hear them say they have moved on.but for your sake let her go.. you will survive .sometimes you will be in so much pain but everyday will get better .one day you will wake up and think wow I made it !find other things and people to fill your time up with .don't focus on her or her moving on.focus on your future.there is somebody out there that will love you so once you've healed a bit start looking ! good luck buddy !
2007-04-13 07:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it so many people blame their actions on alcohol? That is one of the stupidest things I ever heard of! As far as I'm concerned, if I make stupid choices while under the influence, I should be held doubly accountable. First of all, I made the choice to drink. Second of all, I made the choice to do whatever I did that was stupid. You made your bed. You must lie in it. She's moved on. Leave her be and continue on with your life. You might want to analyze your drinking habits, though.
2007-04-13 03:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard pill to swallow, but thereis a lesson to be learned from this. Hopefully you will not make the same mistake again. Trust is a very hard thing to regain.
2007-04-13 03:33:57 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋