I would just like to explore this question further
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqMXrNmg71SXoH4MEx6D7VDd7BR.?qid=20070413055913AAyuqP7
If the answer to his question is both. Marraige is a matter of where your heart is, and the legal joining of two people, please tell me what you think of this
If A & B are legally married, but they are not emotionally committed to this relationship, are they married?
If C & D are emotionally committed to their relationship, but have not gone through they aren't legally married, are they married?
2007-04-13 02:17:35 · 8 answers · asked by Sister blue eyes 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Please assume that these couples are male/female couples.
2007-04-13 02:26:39 · update #1
I do not mind your copy and pasting your answer Not Godzilla. It fits the question.
2007-04-13 02:28:58 · update #2
I have wandered this as well. It does not say in the bible what God considers the starting point of the marriage to be. Adam and Eve were joined together in marriage because they simply chose each other as a mate. There was obviously no minister or ceremony or legal bindings there. Marriage in today's society is meant for legal purposes only. But what does the Bible say about when the marriage begins? It doesn't. So honestly from a religious perspective, I don't know. But personally, I think it has more to do with the heart and that commitment. That's the more important thing, not what some papers say. There's alot more to it than that. But those are just my thoughts. The paper work is what man has created for legal purposes in our society. So if there is ever a divorce, things can be done fairly for each individual, that's all.It's a society thing.
2007-04-13 02:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, when my wife and I 'got together' we never intended to marry. We knew how we felt and that was enough.
However after our daughter was born it was clear that the only way that she would ever be a bridesmaid would be at our wedding! Plus there are (still) some legal benefits to being married. And after nearly 20 years together neither of us felt so strongly about the issue.
So we got married four years ago. I don't think it changed anything really. We had a nice enough ceremony at the Registry Office and then took all our friends out for a pizza.
So I think 'marriage' is a heart/head thing. Not a piece of paper. If you're committed to each other the paper isn't going to make any difference. And if you're not committed to each other, the paper isn't going to make any difference.
So to answer your question, both couples are married. But only C&D have a 'Marriage'.
Just my opinion of course!
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2007-04-13 02:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Nobody 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A & B are married but they probably do not take their engagement seriously anymore.
C & D are not married obviously. To be married requires an engagement. The "piece of paper" is everything. It proves that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make the marriage work. It proves that your are serious and that you are willing to stay with that person until death. It is a contract.
The ONLY reason I can think of for two people not wanting to get married is to bail out in case there is a problem. If you are serious about your relationship, why wouldn't someone get married? There is no reason except that one of them wants to get out easily in case there is trouble.
2007-04-13 02:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by Gui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only comment on Christian marriage,`And for this a man shall leave his Father and Mother and be joined with his Wife and the two shall become as one` therefore A&B are C&D are living in a state that is opposite to the law of God and therefore not married.
2007-04-13 02:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perspectives take shape on this question I think. Such being the case then it's fair to script in my mind that both scenarios are equally married but committed in different ways. Funny enough I'm in both of these situations at the same time, how's about that!
2007-04-13 02:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...they are married. Anyone can say they are married...
After-all, marriage by law is only a piece of paper added to the equation.
2007-04-13 02:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Afi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A&B are married; C&D are not.
Addition: I am assuming that A&B are 1 man and 1 woman.
2007-04-13 02:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ab yes. cd no. Marraige is a contract. Whether legally or in front of your religion's deity(ies).
2007-04-13 02:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋