I am 26yrs old gal..my working senior is a 40 yrs old married lady..we had been good friends for about a month

Question

I was still new to the workplace and she became my working buddy,teaching and showing me around..Yes everybody knows that i am a lesbian but no,i did not flirt with anyone..we become fast friends and sometimes we do message one another after work..until one day she totally ignore me and avoid looking me through the eyes?at work she totally gave me the cold shoulder and never even reply to my messages..
i send her text messages saying i'm sorry if i've done any mistakes at work..or maybe i've hurt her feelings whatever..but she totally ignore me..until i fall into depression and had to report sick for 03 days..she knew it but never even wished me a get well soon or anything? is it too much to ask for?
I am working in the police department and i hope my condition won't affect me..whatever it is i am sorry if i had done any mistakes..

ps:it is not totally about her i got depress..it also adds on because i was mentally tortured by my senior officers who treat us-the juniors- like a piece of junk..i got shoved everyday,screamed at but nevertheless i never complained..that is why i got so depress.. IN the POLICE department..

Answer 1

You sound a little too sensitive love. You've told yourself a story that she is "mad" at you. You asked her what was wrong, but she didn't respond, therefore, SHE owns the problem now, not you. Let it go. Saying you "had" to take off 3 days of work is like me saying that I had to lay down and die. I suffer from depression as well, and if you aren't getting help (drugs, therapy) it is HIGH TIME to do so. . . . . .

Answer 2

For one, you were going to have problems from the men of the police department anyway. It has nothing to do with you being gay. And two, you working buddy, has been tease about you.
Most likely, she has been teased that you and she has something going on, and for it to stop, she just leaves you a long cold turkey without any explanation, because she feels you already know why she stop dealing with you. Stop apologizing and get on with your work. You messed up when you let it get to you. And I believe you know why she ignores you, don't you. If it bothers you that bad that you gets so depressed you should find you somewhere to work. Just keeping it real.

Answer 3

Here's an important message: DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH YOUR COWORKERS beyond a professional relationship IN THE WORKPLACE.

Your co-worker has been there - you're the new person, and you've quickly established that you're willing to step over the bounds of acceptable office behavior.

I'd do a 180º turn right now and stop sending messages to her, stop apologizing to her, and stop bothering her.

If you can do those things, you MIGHT save your job.

Answer 4

frequently, every person is going to think of you're immature. the only subject i'd problem approximately is that if an 18-twelve months-previous male is extremely going to be dedicated to staying married. frequently 18-twelve months-olds are greater attracted to partying and having a physically powerful time, no longer being in a faithful relationship.

Answer 5

You fall into a depression and miss 3 days of work cuz of it? Boy do you have some serious mental issues. Dont you think you have an important job? Get your head together.

Answer 6

Forget about her she's a married women, plus she's in her forty's in ten years she will be in her 50's. There are attractive young ladies around your age. Like they say plenty of fish in the sea, so why sweat the small stuff there are bigger and better stuff waiting for you. You just have to go out there and look. Try going to clubs thats where you meet people.

Answer 7

maybe she is concerned about your sexual preferences, thats the only thing i can think of..but i wish you good luck any way... now go catch all them bank robbers..