Is marriage the legal paperwork or the thoughts and intents of the heart?

Answer 1

In todays world getting married ( between financial equals) is stupid. Nearly all the "benifits" of marriage can be established by contract ( wills, power of attorney, advance directive, etc.) By not being married you can protect assets by having some in each name, etc ( the one disadvantage in this regard is the inability to own property in a tenancy by the entireties), you save on taxes, and, if you decide to go your seperate ways, you save on divorce.
I was married once and hope one day to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, but it will be without getting some government to say we can.
I'm a lawyer.

Answer 2

Both. Even before there was legal paperwork to validate a marriage, same type of a social or communial "blessing" was given to the union. Whether it was the consent of the parent(s), a tribal leaders, a religious leaders, etc. This is necessary for the protection of both parties (but especially the woman) and any children that might result. Some type of "record" of the committment was needed so that issues of property, parentage, support, etc. could be dealt with.

If no records were kept, the guy could sleep with the woman for months, get her pregnaunt, and then leave her penniless to raise the child but simple stated it was never the "intent of the heart" to marry to her.

So it requres BOTH an intent of the heart (a private committment between the couple) and a "legal paperwork" (a public record of the committment between the couple) to make them married.

Answer 3

True marriage is a pure union between the sexes (don't be duped by the perversity of the homosexuals). To protect the institution of the family and children, legal documents are drawn up. Marriage has a purpose and is a great framework to live under when the two people are spiritually mature to enter into it with the right frame of mind and intent. Today, people are so corrupted by materialism and sensuality and perversity that not too many have what it takes to discover the meaning of real marriage.

Answer 4

It is a legal binding contract a vow before God and 2 people.What is written should never be taken lightly as when you enter into any legal contract.It should be with the full intention of living it out daily,when the heart does not want to,then one needs to keep to a commitment.Unless the other party is abusing the other or betrayed the other with an affair.One can always choose to brake these vows because just maybe they did not mean it within the fullness it was intended.

Answer 5

Marriage is an act of the will, not a rite or ritual. What makes you married is the act of your will, and the act of the will of your mate, that says to each other, I allow you to come into my life and become one flesh with me. It is the same as when you ask Christ to come into your life and become one flesh with you, in salvation. It does not matter who performs the rite, what matters are the wills of the two participants! It is an act of the will, not a ceremony. A ceremony is usually a part of the process, but it does not complete the action! A couple who is married by a judge is no less married than a couple who was married in a pastor or priest. God is the one who created marriage (Genesis 2:18-25). What matters is your heart before God, not the wedding ceremony itself.

However, no one is married in God's eyes if that marriage has not been recognized by the laws of the land in which the couple lives. God gave the laws and gave the government the authority to determine what constitutes a legal marriage (Romans chapter 13; Colossians 1:16).

Answer 6

A perfect marriage of hearts can lead to enlightenment. It rarely happens.

Generally it starts with an illusion of meeting hearts and thoughts. However collisions starts sooner or later.

Legal paperwork is just recognized branding by community.
It was necessary to avoid getting back in animal culture and helping human to rise spiritually.

Answer 7

Both. If you fail to do the paperwork you lose out on legal rights. For example if your spouse is in a hospital in a coma or something, you have no legal rights without the paperwork and your spouses parents or sibblings can make legal decisions for them, not you.

Without the paperwork you can't put your common law spouse on your health plan.

Without the paperwork there is no statutory inheritance rights.

Answer 8

Well, I think you already know the answer to that one.

I truly believe that the primary obstacle to homosexual marriage is not the vocal right wing but big business. Right now, homosexual employees amount to a windfall: no insurance for partners, reduced risk of having to comply with FMLA. The cost of these things is HUGE and businesses are against gay marriage not on any moral grounds but in defence of their bottom lines. That legal paperwork isn't at the heart of marriage, but it *is* at the heart of rights that straight people take for granted.

Answer 9

Your government demands the legal paperwork.

The joining of two in matrimony is a matter of intents and the heart.

But stay joined except for matters of marital infidelity. Note I did not say "extra-marital sex". There are other acceptable reasons for termination of the relationship.

Answer 10

it's the consummation, that's why the Lord required you not to have premarital sex, because once the bloodshed is on the penis that shows to spirit world that those 2 became one. And now we've taken sex and perverted it and it's not holy any more. That what makes you married, the fact that you sign an agreement, is the covenant you have with both God, and your spouse in saying I will not let this fail, I vow to both you my lord and you my lady/man, that I will give my all and sacrifice myself for you. That's a marriage.