we have a child now too so he says it's not the motherly or womanly thing to do, but i hung out with these guys since i was 15 and now i am 23, am i wrong or is he, and what should i do to fix the problem?
2007-04-13 01:28:09 · 9 answers · asked by JACKIE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't really care to hangout with them i know i have bigger responsibilities, but i told them i will invite them to our wedding even and he got all bent out of shape. i also tell him to come with me when they have bbq's and he says no. i don't get it , i tell him how much i love him but he just doesn't think girls can be friends with guys without thinking of sex.
2007-04-13 01:36:53 · update #1
not ur not wrong, all my friends are guys and my hubby at first didnt like it , but i told him my friends was there before u and they will be there after you. deal with them , he now trust all my guys friends. it took him a few years but he is fine with them ..see if ur guys friends like things that ur bf likes . get one to come over and spend time with u and him . take it slow . it will be hard at first but i think if he can trust u he will be fine after a while ..
2007-04-13 04:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is right for him to tell you who your friends should be.
A woman can have children and not be part of the sewing circle.
Friends are friends.
Do you normally accept his decisions about your life that may have lead him to believe that it would be O.K for him to dictate terms to you? Do you tell him what to do and does he do it? Relationships have to be give and take to be really succesful. Sometimes women follow their "man's lead" without even thinking that they are helping to establish a pattern of behaviour that you don't really notice until something like this comes up. I'm not in any way suggesting you are a doormat.
2007-04-13 08:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by cobra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends what you do when you hang out..im guessing you jstu talk, but if you like let them put their arm over your shoulder, etc, even though its just a friendly thing, he has a right to be jealous, i guess..well, you didnt say he was jealous, but it sounds kind of like what it is..
so to solve the problem, just let him know how much you love him, and that youll only love him etc, and that these guys are important to you as your ...childhood friends...^^ good luck~!
2007-04-13 08:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by abc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its alright for you to hang out with your guy pals but just remember that all men are really insecure so you should limit yourself. he's probably just afraid of losing you to one of them. try and make them know each other better. and talk to your partner about how you can still hang out with your friends while he is ok with it at the same time,dont be defensive!and good luck with it.
2007-04-13 08:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by ms_tarryfic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are important but at the same time don't spend too much time with them...
You need to talk to your fiance about this...so he feels comfortable...
2007-04-13 08:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just listen to him cause you must understand that there was a time to hang out and now you have responsibilities and you must asssume that.. you cant be doing things you were doing 8 yrs ago
2007-04-13 08:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by nap11t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on HOW you hang out with them..when you get married you have to sort of give up certain things...go for counselling
2007-04-13 08:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he has a low self esteem or confidence or something and no its not right
2007-04-13 08:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by john b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's wrong.. to distrust your partner is wrong
2007-04-15 21:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋