Went out on a date with this guy, it went well, we had things to talk about, I'm a really shy person by nature and it takes me ages to open up to anyone. I was willing to give him another try, as there weren't major sparks and I think another date would really show who I really am. But he hasn't contacted me after a week. I can only put it down to the fact he doesn't like how I look, or my shyness. But it just irks me that he doesn't even make contact at all, I'd be glad if he just told me upfront that it wouldn't work out, but why this silence?! Especially when he seemed so eager to meet in the first place (met on a dating site) I'm sure this is a common problem, but I just want to know why guys?!?!
2007-04-13 00:33:36 · 12 answers · asked by pinkscooterchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not necessarily. If he had nothing worth saying, why should he call? Girls and boys/men and women think on entirely different levels. It's hard for us to communicate with someone we don't know that well...sometimes.
Why does this guy have to be "obligated" to call you?
You said that you're shy, but it went well. Maybe he didn't get that impression. You may have given him the impression that you weren't that interested in him. Why is it "his fault" that he doesn't call you after the date? You could call him, ya know? Let him know that you enjoyed his company.
2007-04-13 00:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl, not a guy, but this is what I think. You met on a dating website, and he's probably been on dates with many more people. It's not that you're ugly, or that your shyness if off-putting, it's the fact that maybe he doesn't think you're his type! For going on a dating website, you get really excited at the first person who shows any interest; but let me tell you this - play around a bit, date more guys; until you find the right one. He's not calling you, probably, because he's as shy as you; but just remember this; if he doesn't call; don't get desperate? Have you been elaving him messages all the time? Long ones? Stop it! He's going to feel tied down. Find someone else, he's not worth it. You may feel like that now, but when you find your one and only; then you'll be laughing!
Good luck anyway
Marshmallow
2007-04-13 00:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww I'm sorry to hear that! Guys can be rather rude when it comes to the phone... What has stood out to me the most from your description is the fact that you met on a dating site... I know this may sting even if you dont have any real feelings for him, but he is probably just too wrapped up in trying to date every woman he can get, and is totally oblivious about your feelings, as well as simple courtesy. If i were you, I'd just send him a message on the site asking what his intentions are of seeing you again - short & sweet. Good luck!
2007-04-13 00:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its anything you to do with the way you look or the fact that you are shy. i am quite a shy person myself but if i was with someone i feel at ease with then i would come out of my shell quite easily and the convo would flow. i mean you said it urself, there weren any major sparks so maybe he felt that too and hasn contacted coz he doesn what to send out the wrong message. having said that i think a guy should call regardless after a first date and thank the lady for her company even if he doesn make any more plans to meet up. what can i say some men are just jerks!
2007-04-13 00:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by snowflakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, I could disagree with you. If human beings do no longer exhibit their emotions. How are we meant to understand others point of view. some human beings, could be recommended their impolite. to help them understand, what to look out for sooner or later. I actual have advised human beings their impolite. In guy or woman, and on the solutions section. i'm a guy or woman who does not tolerate rudeness. So I call it like I see it.
2016-12-20 13:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has only been a week give it a chance. Then again, since it was a date through a dating site, he may be going out with several women to see if one clicks. Who knows. It would be very awkward to call you to tell you he doesn't want to date you again. I don't know too many men that would do that.
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2007-04-13 00:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he could have called or texted. It might not be down to looks or shyness as you said yourself there were no major sparks...
Plenty more fish in the sea, some ya win and some ya lose...but don't give up trying...
2007-04-13 00:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, he's not that into you. Move on and forget the guy. And if you do decide to call him and he makes excuses then he's not into you.
Don't take it personally, guys are just like that. You probably thought you connected... the thing is he didn't. I don't think its rude unless he promised to call you.
2007-04-13 00:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by polkadotmoma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say .You we're willing to give him another try as no major sparks.Your put out because you blew it not because he made no contact.You think wedding bells are going to start ringing after one date?Get real.
2007-04-13 00:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Butt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People just dont always gel,its just the way it is.
Men are a bit pathetic at being able to speak straight out,he's probably hoping you can take a hint
2007-04-13 00:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by Pat R 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋