i falling in love with a married man, i date with him almost 4years, but some of my friend all mention to me his not really love me, he just want to fool around, but no matter what they people say i don't care, cause i believe in he and me, but what about you?
2007-04-13 00:16:26 · 12 answers · asked by douglasss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. You can believe he loves you. Just because he is married does not mean he cannot fall in love with you. You've been dating for four years so he is more than fooling around. He really values you. BUT...you must realise he will never leave his wife for you. He might love you and cherish every moment with you...but he will always choose his wife before you. It's possible he loves his wife as well and would never want to hurt her. Or loves his family life and doesnt want to leave it, or loves his wife adn family life, but enjoys loving you as well. Some men are like that. Even if he's unahppily married, he will have a committment to his marriage..and would be terrified to move out of it - regardless of how tempting you may be. I hope you won't be hurt too much. Its so easy to fall in love with a married man and so hard to give them up...but if you want to spend a life with a partner who is really with you, maybe you should give him up now before you waste more time. A lifetime of waiting for him to be available to you, is not a good thing. You deserve much more. As I said, he can really love you, but he will not choose you over his marriage. He can't help it. Good luck.
2007-04-13 00:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm.. im sorry to tell u, but ur friends are right.. if he loved u, he would be getting a divorce to be with u, and he is still married.. he tells u he loves u cause he knows u love him... so that's how he keeps u in da palm of his hands, dont be a fool u deserve much better than that.. u aren't a part-time lover... cause at the end of the nite and on holidays he's with his wife so u need to tell him its either u or the wife, cause u can't go on like this.. ur friends are right, even thought u dont care, love urself enough to know what's right for u, and him putting u 2nd and telling u he loves ain't love.. cause u would be #1 in his heart and it will very much show in his actions by getting a divorce..
2007-04-13 00:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mrz`J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 20 the guy is more than a cheat, he is a creep. But, I think the same rules apply to married guys having relationships with boys or men as they would to married guys having relationships with women. He will never leave his wife for you - especially after four years. If for some reason his marriage did split up, he would probably seek another hetero relationship because he obviously wants the social acceptance it affords. But, you can never trust a guy who was not faithful. If he cheated on her he will cheat on you. And, if he really loved you, he wouldn't put you through this. He is probably just using you to fulfill some desire or need of his - but he sounds like a selfish adulterer. For your own sake, get out of this exploitative relationship and seek some counseling.
2007-04-13 00:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Stephiony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy will do anything and say anything if he thinks he is going to get some. Has he left his wife?? If not, then I don't think he loves you. If he did leave his wife, are you really sure that you would want a man that has already cheated on you and his wife. The reason why I say it like that is.. I'm sure that he is still having sex with his wife and she has no idea that he is having sex with you. The both of you are being cheated on. Is that something you want to love you??
2007-04-13 00:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this man loved you.
than why is he still Married?
This is the oldTake ur Cake an eat it 2
Its been going on for years.
He has his security an he knows .
If it dont work with her than he has you.
Man have been using women for Centuries .
What makes u any Different.
Put a seperation like a month or so than see where ur Heart is.AN most of all if he really loves u he will get get a DIVORCE its not fair to u or the other person.
2007-04-13 03:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Soften 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confusing??? You sound like a female, but have a male avatar??? Sounds like he is just using you. After 4 years, if he was serious about you, he would be getting rid of his wife. A lot of men (or women) seem to like the adventure of cheating. Personally, I would not go there. Just me.
2007-04-13 00:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being played, and if you want to be so naive to believe that he loves you, or will leave his wife for you, then you are truly pathetic. What about his wife? Stopping being a homewrecking wh-ore and find a man of your own.
2007-04-13 00:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no he doesn't love you! there is a saying that says what one man will not do another one will. if he loved you he would divorce and be with you. or he could love you but love his wife or husband more.
2007-04-13 00:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by trudy b 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what is his definition of "love" and what is your definition of "love"? the fact that he's married and wont leave his wife means they his love for you and his love for her isn't the same and his love for her is worth more that his love for you. i'd say he loves having you to have sex with.
2007-04-13 00:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by oldguy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
* He doesnt love you , if he did he would leave his family for you , he just isnt getting any at home and found you , you home wreaker !!! Find your own single man and pray that karma doesnt strike you down !!! *
2007-04-13 00:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋