why do people only care for appearances?

Question

isn't what's on the inside that counts the most!?

Answer 1

Painting a broad picture.

Of course people care about appearances. I wouldn't have gotten together with who wound up becoming my husband if I didn't like the way he looked. But I never would have married him if I didn't like the person he is.

Answer 2

We as a people, a culture have never been able to look past the the heart. We judge people from the outside. We only acknowledge what we 'see' and if we don't have a good opinion of what beauty really is, then we fall short in the category of being able to have solid relationships because we have based them on the outside of a person and like you said - not the inside. Unfortunately, it takes a long time to truly see the inside. That's the part that people hide and hide so well. For example, you can be a beauty queen and a man will desire you for your outside beauty and you could also be a demon on the inside, uncaring, unfeeling, but it might take a while before he sees that because men look on the outside. On the other hand, you might be a plain looking girl, no frills type, but the kindest, most gentle soul and a man would pass you by and probably miss out on the best love of his life because he was judging you by the physical. So what do we do girls? We dress ourselves up. We put on that makeup and we do our hair and nails and wear revealing clothes to get that attention. And sometimes we get what we ask for by the way we dress, and sometimes we don't. Choose your mates with caution. Sometimes make up and outside beauty can cover up a multitude of faults. Trust your heart.

Answer 3

The simple answer is natural selection. The things we find attractive are those which offer the best prospects for survival and success in potential offspring. Many of the factors which go to make up (at least a mainstream conception of) what it means to be attractive are just the things which indicate health (skin tone, eyes, hair) child bearing capacity (figure) or survival prospects (height, muscle tone, physical fitness). Of course that is a broad generalisation- all sorts of people find all sorts of things attractive, but I think it is a fair description of the average.

It is for exactly the same reason, however, that we frequently grow to find people more attractive, endearing and personable the longer we spend with them. Often we come to care rather less about looks. The devotion and single mindedness of being in love serves a useful purpose from an evolutionary standpoint, because (historically at least) parents who stuck together stood a better chance of raising children who would themselves live to reproduce.

Answer 4

People don't ONLY care for appearances and, certainly, what's on the inside of the package counts most ... but you must remember that a product which is attractively packaged will naturally tempt the closer look!

Answer 5

Take the "only" out of the question, and you put a different slant on the question.
OK, some people are as shallow as a ten-day-old light crude oil slick, but most people notice appearance first, and react to that.

The initial appearance is the advertisement, but like all ads, you have to look deeper to get an appreciation of what's underneath the packaging.

Answer 6

Because some people are shallow. They are only aware of what they see. However that doesn't mean one shouldn't have some pride in their appearance. How u look should be an expression of what is going on inside.

Answer 7

Not to me! I care about my outside most! It's the inside that counts but u know people want to look cool!

Peace!

Answer 8

You're sweet and probably very young. Yes, what's on the inside does count the most.

Answer 9

Both are extremely important, for example if u went up to a fantastic looking guy in a club and he said to you... 'Hey sweetcheeks you have an enourmous bum, but come home with me and i will sleep with you anyway...' you wouldnt really like him would u? But at the same time if mr spotty ugly pants came along, you probably wouldnt give him a second look. In a job, in particular, people will judge you on your ability, not looks, and in uni and places like that you will get judged by what comes out of your mouth rather than what it looks like/what colour lippie you have on/ if you have a trout pout or not. People arent as het up as all that on looks, and half the time they dont care - so dont worry !

Answer 10

It certainly is but sadly people are concerned with appearances and peer pressure to make their judgements based on looks alone.
I think we tend to do that when we are younger and when we get beyond our twenties we tend to make judgements based on the personality and spirit of a person as opposed to their looks. After all looks will fade with age but what it inside just gets stronger and stronger.