i've been with my second husband for 5 years now & we often lay in bed & tell each other about our past sexual experiences. my husband is always fascinated by one particular story of mine that was very surreal & out of the ordinary involving me & total stranger(no details,its too naughty!!) & this really turns him on but if i ever mentioned my sexual past with my 1st husband he would go ballistic.
are you & your partners open about your pasts??
2007-04-12 20:37:09 · 27 answers · asked by debbie b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have told each other everything..and often talk about it.we've been together for 11yrs and know each other inside and out.
2007-04-12 20:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by tanny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I first got with my husband we lay in bed one night doing exactly that-I told him pretty much everything. He loved it. Then I asked him some intimate questions about his first wife..why I don't know as I didn't like her at all and was in fact stupidly jealous of the years they were together. Being a typical man, he gave me an honest answer,an answer i couldn't handle((cringe)) and we ended up having a huge big row,but he pointed out 'don't ask the question if you don't want to hear the answer'. Although we are separated now,I do think back and wonder why I was jealous in the first place and why i couldn't handle hearing about my husbands ..limited...expolits.
Love is weird!
2007-04-12 20:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, what happened in the past stays in the past!!! I've told my partner how many men I've slept with (not many) but I've never shared my stories. My partner & I have been together for nearly 3 years and neither of us really care about our last sexual encounters. I say let it stay history. End of story!
2007-04-12 20:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it depends on where you are from and how much you value good living. Life is not totally about sex or sharing sexual experience. One is can be open to one's partner about past sexual experiences but I believe it does not benefit anybody.
To some sexual play are very intimate and sacred and past experience might not augurs well with good family living.... it can lead to unnecessary tension and doubts about almost everything later on ....Just enjoy your sex with your spouse as clean and as fun as both of you can ....let the past go ....leave it alone....
2007-04-12 20:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by dzulkarnain amir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good place to go. Leave that side of your past in the past. A man on here said he couldn't forgive his wife's past and it haunts him after many many years of marriage. It was really causing him a problem. So my suggestion is - don't bring up what can later be used against you.
2007-04-12 22:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by 2dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 01:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past is past...
if it helps you deal with the here and now, great...
i only bring up other partners, if i'm asked...
makes no odds to me whether the other person has had previous partners or not...
sounds like your husband likes to fantasise about the complete stranger... maybe he wants to get involved in something like that... :D
2007-04-12 20:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have done and immediately regretted it. i regret it to this day. its had a very negative affect on my relationship as my fella is convinced he doesnt match up. we argue about this all the time and cant seem to resolve it and it looks like we'll end up splitting up over this which is horrendous as we both really love each other. i think it depends on the type of person your with. i will never ever ever do it again tho.
2007-04-12 22:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i am always very open and honest in a relationship and due to me being open they have been too i think your partners maybe a little jealous of the relationship you had with your ex husband
2007-04-15 23:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by bubblesno11979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby had quite a erm, fruitful past shall we say? and he prefers not to discuss it with me, not that i'm bothered! and seeing as i only had one other partner before him i'm kind of limited! also the previous partner wasn't exactly awe inspiring so its more like an ego boost for him to hear that!
2007-04-12 20:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by Andromeda Newton™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,not that it turns me on.My girlfriend told me about all her past sexual encounters for several hours one night.I think I fell asleep after about the 3rd one.
2007-04-12 20:45:00 · answer #11 · answered by shiela R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋