I'm almost 17, and still a virgin. I don't have any problem with this at all, and even though I've dated guys, I don't feel the need to go that step further, for my own protection, both mental and physical at this age.
I'm not religious, and my parents would accept my decision if I decided to, as long as they knew, so it's not a matter of fear of being caught or anything.
I'm not a prude, and open to expressions of sexuality etc., and quite a few of my friends are still virgins, but sex still seems a massive step to take, a pretty scary one. I'm not ready yet, and may not be for a few years, to mentally prepare myself for it, so I'd actually rather wait until marriage, or at least until I was in a stable relationship.
Does anyone else feel this way? Am I "ok" in thinking this wat?
2007-04-12 19:54:29 · 12 answers · asked by Bryantpark1 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Oh, and about the "asexual" thing. I'm not saying sex is something I'm against. I'm certain once I find the right person, I will be able to have a great sex life, it's more a question of wanting to WAIT for that right person :)
2007-04-12 20:08:14 · update #1
Sweetheart, you are taking the very best road. Trust me, I know someone you don't know, when I say you will never regret waiting. Sex is a very special thing that you give to someone else. It's a special part of your being! You are on the Right Road to a very health relationship with that special person in your future.l
2007-04-12 20:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely up to you when and if you have sex. People are different in how much time they need to feel ready for the first time and then in how often they want it and also their needs change during the course of life. My advice is to begin exploring your sexuality on your own by yourself at first to find out what your likes and needs are. Later, when you find a partner, try not to choose someone who needs a lot more sex than you do, because that person will probably suffer in a relationship with you and there are plenty of low-appetite or even asexual people in the world, they just sometimes have trouble finding each other.
2007-04-12 20:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Feet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let anybody pressure you into anything you are not ready for. When the time is right, the time is right. I was 29 before I lost my virginity. I wanted to wait until I felt ready, and was with somebody that I was willing to take that step with. I'm glad I did, because my first time was with a very caring lover, and made for a very memorable experience. You are completely normal to be thinking the way you are. You are not letting the peer pressure get to you. Good for you.
2007-04-12 21:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You are who you are and no one can tell you differently. Many people feel the same way and it is totally okay for you to feel this way. If someone tells you otherwise, don't listen to them. Be yourself and don't let anyone pressure you into thinking and acting differently than who you want to be because it will only cause you regrets later. This has happened to me. Learn from my mistake.
2007-04-12 20:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Go Bruins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm proud of the way you think and you should only have sex when you ready so that you will not regret it later in life
2007-04-12 20:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by queen lalapalusaoflalapalusaland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're doing great! so, keep it up and you'll get all you want one day! don't be pressured into doing something you're not ready to do, and that's a great thing to have (willpower) because it will help you in so many aspects of life!
take care!!!
2007-04-12 20:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by thundakat312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bravo!!!
Don't let anyone push you into doing it.Wait till your ready,wait for the right guy.
Your doing good.Nothing wrong with that
2007-04-12 20:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by Snake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY NORMAL!!!!!!!!
THAT IS REALLY GOOD THAT YOU ARE A VIRGIN BE PROUD OF YOURSELF. THERE'S SO MUSH FOR YOU TO DO RIGHT NOW WITH YOUR LIFE AND HAVING A KIDS WILL NOT LET YOU DO ANY OF THAT. IM NOT SAYING ITS BAD TO HAVE ONE OF COURSE NOT BUT AT YOUR AGE IT'S NOT TO GOOD. I HOPE WHEN MY LIL GIRL GETS OLDER SHE WOULD THINK LIKE YOU. YOU MAY NOT BE MY LIL GIRL BUT IM VERRRRRYYYYY PROUD OF YOU, NOT MANY GIRLS YOUR AGE THINK LIKE THAT.
2007-04-12 20:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by tracy c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need a donging. Did you write this so that we would all praise you for being a good girl?? Get over yourself.
2007-04-13 11:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sara B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you are kk cuz if ur not kk of having sex it doesn't matter make sure that he uses a condem b4 u hav sex
2007-04-12 20:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Nikky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋