What does my dream mean?

Question

Last night i dreamt that my husband got shot, right in front of me. He was fighting with some guy and i was trying to pull him away and the guy just came up and shot him right in the head. It was very real. Does anyone know what this might mean or am I just having weird dreams

Answer 1

Hi Laura

It means you dreamt that your husband got shot.
But you already know that.

To understand about dreams it is important to remember that periods of REM sleep (which is when we dream) usually last for around 20-30 minutes, yet your description would fill only a fraction of that time. What you DON'T remember could easily be as important, if not MORE important than the little bit you still retain when you wake up.

Anyone with a reasonable imagination could invent a detailed interpretation for your dream, (just look at the variety of DIFFERENT interpretations offered above by people who apparently think they know all about interpreting dreams! but however interesting their interpretation might be, it is VERY unlikely to be true.

Because:

The purpose of dreams, as far as we understand them, is to process the vast amount of information that comes in through your senses each day whilst you're awake.

On this basis the "meaning" of our dreams is simply that we are making sense of information which previously didn't have a "meaning", for us, because it hadn't been processed so as to fit into our mental maps of the world (all your existing beliefs, ideas, values, etc.).

Given this purpose, there will always be something in each dream, though we may not remember it, which ties the dream to recent "real life" events. However most of the things which appear in our dreams may have nothing to do with what has been happening in our life just before the dream occurs. Things can appear in a dream that have been part of the dreamer's memories as far back as they first started forming memories - or anytime in between then and now.

Nor do the things in your dreams have to be obviously related to each other. Like I said, dreaming is a process of finding/making meaning, and the brain can draw from anywhere in its huge store of memories in order to carry out that process.

By the way, there is nothing random about this process, but your subconscious mind can come up with connections that your conscious mind would never dream of (!), which is why dreams often seem pretty weird.

So when, if ever, you happen to notice yourself having what seems like a weird dream in future you can literally rest assured that everything is OK. Your brain is actually doing, with great skill, one of the many jobs it was designed to do

Answer 2

The people that populate our dreams, for the most part, are not really 'other' people but ideas of ourself.

In other words, its not really your father in your dream, its your idea of what your father means to you that is in your dream.

Our mind uses the 'stock' associations of another person because the puzzle we are sometimes being given might be too harsh if we were sitting in front of a mirror and our 'mirror self' would come out and say 'you feel helpless'. Someone coming right out and saying the naked truth can be too unbearable, so our mind tries to find some way to work around the associations, which is where the 'actors' come in.

Also, our dreams run off the experiences, ideas and stimuli that we gather thoughout the day and our life. So, if we see a purple bunny hopping across the tv screen today (and our mind briefly does a 'oh, how cute') the image of the bunny and the association gets stored in the data bank, to be used when/if our brain ever decides it needs a cute purple bunny for something.

Some simple questions can help you as well: has your husband ever been in an arguement like the one in the dream, have you or someone you've known ever been shot, did you see or hear about or read about someone getting shot recently (like on the news just before bed), are you anxious lately, how is your relationship?

How you answer these questions help determine why you might be dreaming what you are dreaming. It could be that you are really angry at your husband and the 'rational' you wants to pull yourself back, but the 'angry' you wants to simply 'whack him good', so he gets 'shot' in the dream (the safest place to act out.) On the other hand, it could be that you are feeling 'helpless' by the decisions that your husband is making, and the violent man is the culmination of all your fears being rolled into one 'bad' outcome. The fact that he got shot could mean that you believe the decision he is making will backfire against him, while you (the survivor) have to deal with the consequences of not being able to 'restrain' him or prevent the 'bad' outcome from happening.

Being shot is usually a sign of helplessness or a feeling of lack of control in our lives. The first instinct, usually, when someone close to us is shot is 'I couldn't stop it from happening.' That loss of control may not always pertain to physical danger within our lives (it can) but to areas where we feel 'vulnerable', like with issues at work or family.

The dream would also depend upon if your husband (or you) are engaged in any dangerous activity, like being a cop or soldier. Being shot in a dream where there is no real-life correlation can often mean something different if the scenario is/was possible in waking. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Well, without the full details, such as "Did you watch a movie or show involving guns prior to falling asleep?" I can only do my best to assist.

As a dream interpreter on the side I believe I can help you. The gun does represent conflict yes. However in this particular case, this is a perception of something currently going on in your relationship. You have an understanding that your husband is battling a very painful internal issue in his spirit. At this point you don't really know how to help him through it, so you pull him away from the issue, believing that ignoring it will be better. But your subconcious is well aware of this, and sais "nope, not going to escape that easily." The ignored issues worsens, and actually ends up destroying your husband on a massive scale. It is metaphorical of ignoring a problem, trying to make it go away, rather than dealing with the problem at hand. You try to protect your husband from danger, but you can't in this case, because this is an issue that he must face squarely on. I would suggest you talk to him about his feelings, and see what is on his mind. But I must forewarn you that this will be very touchy for men, as often they don;t like to explore this darker side of their personality. But are you in this relationship to help each other in every way possible, or not? If he sais he doesn't want to talk about it, try finding a curve around into getting him into talking about deep rooted problems that he is facing. Don't beat around the bush, though, be direct, specific, but don't badger him with too many questions at once... that is of course, only if I am correct.

Answer 4

Shot
To dream that you are shot, represents a form of self-punishment that you may be unconsciously imposing on yourself. You may have done something that you are ashamed of or are not proud of. If you are shot and come back as a different person, then it indicates that� you to start fresh. You want to wipe the past away and literally become a new person.

Gun
To see a gun in your dream , symbolizes aggression, anger, and potential danger. You may be dealing with issues of passiveness/aggressiveness and authority/dependence. Alternatively, a gun can represent the penis and male sexual drive. Thus the gun may mean power and impotence.

To see others fighting in your dream, suggests that you are unwilling to acknowledge your own problems and turmoil. You are not taking any responsibility or initiative in trying to resolve issues in your waking life.

Answer 5

Dreams are just a by-product of random stimulation of brain cells and have no direct psychological meaning. Specific neurons in the brain stem fire spontaneously during REM sleep and the cortex struggles to "synthesize" or make sense out of this random stimulation by manufacturing dreams. There is just nothing else to it.

Answer 6

It could be that you're just having one of those weird dreams, you never know. It could mean that you're trying to persuade your husband not to do something and he's doing it any way and your afraid he'll reap the consequences.... and you feel bad because you feel like there is something more you could do.

Answer 7

the symbol of a gun means that there will be violence soon. your family will experience a feud soon. ur husband getting shot doesnt really mean he will die. your dream is either telling you a near future event or how you feel about your husband. you might feel mad at him and your dream is reflecting it

Answer 8

usually i c people dying in dreams as well (close ones) but it generally means that they will have a long life.........

but one can be careful as well if your sorrounding has some violent issues.

Answer 9

I'd say you think maybe he goes too far in certain things or maybe you're scared of losing him?

Answer 10

You're angry at your husband.