Age 11. In order to do any homework, he must be have an adult - help him although it is more like we are doing it. It doesn't matter that his group in class will get less points since his part is not done. It doesn't matter about anything! We've tried niceness, bribery, meanness - denying priviledges, ransom, taking away computer and games....everything! He will just do the 'grounded' time and go on with life, without homework obviously. Any suggestions?
2007-04-12 18:22:10 · 17 answers · asked by sandi4990 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would have him reevaluated and talk to a child psychologist for suggestions. If he is taking medication, tell his doctor your concerns, and maybe he can be prescribed a different medication. ADHD children have a hard time concentrating on tasks for a long period of time and prolonged homework may frustrate him. I would suggest maybe doing a little homework at a time and take breaks in between. Have you considered tutoring for him? There are different type of tutors to fit a child's special needs. I think you are a great person to be concerned about your grandchild. I will pray for you and your family for his success. May God bless you and take care.
2007-04-12 18:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best suggestion I can give, and I'm ADD, is you grandson's level of success in anything he does, will be greatly affected on how much he enjoys, or is interested in the work that he he is doing. Try to pique his interest by suggesting an alternative application or benefit beside the obvious of getting good grades. Chances are he's very intelligent and the subject matter simply doesn't interest him. Maybe work an angle that challenges his intellect. Also, consequence, in my case, most always proved non motivational. Negetive reiforment was most always matched with negative response. Challenge him, see what he's got, I think your in for a suprise or two. Most important, always positive.
Also, meds should be a last resort.
2007-04-12 18:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the meds but its not for all children my cousin male also has ADHD and when he was on meds he just could not function he just sat there they had to pretty much let him grow out of it and he did at about 13. My sister has it and she is on meds and it works for her but sometimes he just wont do her work either she just likes getting the attention from it she is also 11 and really could be a great student but she wont even try its like she just does enough to get by and get people off her back. I think that the thing that worked best with her was taking away what she loved most which was spending time with my kids so now she cant come see them until her work is done. You just have to find that one thing that will get them most. Good luck!!
2007-04-12 18:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by serenitydaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADHD does not exist when you were a child did you hear any kid say they had adhd no they were told to pay attention and study harder. My basis for this is I am almost positive your grandson can play video games or hang out with friends on hours on end and recap what happened. Why can he do this but not study its not a matter of a disease people tend not to pay attention when bored. Doctors have made the mistake of diagnosing boredom as adhd. You simple need to find a way to make homework interesting and threating to send him to military school if his grades do not improve.
2007-04-13 01:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by tom s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son has ADHD; I can identify with the difficulties you're having. The best thing that ever happened to him was a second-grade teacher who recognized this, and the school counselor who urged us to talk with our doctor about appropriate medication. I really don't care what other people say about medicating children with this disorder; for my son, it worked very little short of a miracle. He went from Cs and Ds to As and Bs. That was almost 20 years ago; he will probably have to be on some kind of medication for the rest of his life, but there are many conditions in this world for which that is true. He is now a successful mechanical engineer with a promising future, thanks to the medication that he takes. I urge you to talk with your doctor to see what sort of treatment might be appropriate for your grandson, and work it out for yourself; do not let the nay-sayers tell you what is right for YOUR situation, but get a doctor who will work with you to find the best answer for your grandson, whatever it may be.
2007-04-12 18:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little brother exhibited similiar behavior, but we never went and had him diagnosed with anything. What we decided to do was get him involved in an activity that would help him divert his excess energy into something positive. He chose football. But the catch is, he has to keep his grades up to stay in it, so he did his homework becuase he really enjoyed it.
You may try a similiar approach, and see what different kinds of activities are offered at his school for the younger students. There is also the possibility of tutoring programs that might be able to offer some advice on how to work with him as far as different approaches are concerned.
I would also like to suggest that you talk to one of the counselors at his school to see if they have any additional information available for parents and guardians of ADHD children.
I wish you the best of luck in your endeavours.
2007-04-12 18:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by gothvamp313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then sit him down and walk him through it.
My son has ADD. He described as being in a room full of radios. All of them tuned to a different station. After he started taking medication, he was an adult at this time, it was like turning them all off except for one. His thoughts were profuse and many all at the same time.
ADD and ADHD victims have extreme trouble focuses on any one thought or activity.
If your grandson is not on medication for ADHD Please PLEASE consider getting him on medication. It make the world of a difference. I so wish I had made this an issue for my son while was still a child. It could have made his childhood much better.
2007-04-12 18:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not already in counseling, get him some. He may need to be on some medication but talking to someone other than family may help. If the counselor (psychologist) feels he may benefit from medication he will recommend seeing a family dr.
Good luck. I know how grounding and taking away privelages just doesn't work with some kids.
2007-04-12 18:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by PK211 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he take meds? maybe he needs meds to help him focus after school. if he ytakes them in morning they might be worn off by the time he does homework. u can talk to his dr and get a low dose for after school to help him deal with homework....the reason he likes the computer games and vidio games is it keeps moving. that keeps his mind going. not that hes being lazy. he has adhd it means he cant stay focus on 1 thing to long and the games are changing. watch how well he does on the games. my son can sit down in a day and start a game and have the whole thing completed in a few hours...
2007-04-13 01:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can he "do grounded time" then "go on with life" if he still has not done his work?
You will have to train his little mind to complete tasks.
I have a severe case of adhd and odd in my son, and let me tell ya, he goes on with life when I say he can. Gettting up in the morning and getting ready for school, making through the school day, afternoon when the focus meds wear off, bath, supper, homework, bedtime...none of it is easy. He is one of 4, but I have to be strong and firm.
2007-04-12 19:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by mudcat_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋