really weird dream about birth?

Question

i had a dream a few nites ago thats been bugging me. i'm a 13 year old female. this is the dream:

i'm in the last stall right in front of the mirror with the stall door open in my school's bathroom for girls. i'm giving birth, and i think my friend is there, but i dont remember who it was. i dont literally see a baby in my dream but when i come out, there's a coil wrapped around my ankles and lower shins and my crush and a few of his close friends are standing in the entrance laughing and pointing at me. i keep thinking it was my crush''s baby.

What does this mean?

Answer 1

Hi Katy

It means you dreamt about an event that took place in the girls' bathroom at school which MIGHT have had something to do with giving birth, and when you went out of the bathroom your crush and some of his close friends laughed at you.
But you alrady knew that.

At 13 that seems like an entirely reasonable dream to have.
And to fully understand about dreams it is important to remember that periods of REM sleep (which is when we dream) usually last for around 20-30 minutes, yet your description would fill only a fraction of that time. What you DON'T remember could easily be as important, if not MORE important than the little bit you still retain when you wake up.

Anyone with a reasonable imagination could invent a detailed interpretation for your dream, (see the variety of DIFFERENT interpretations offered in reply to most questions about dreams in this forum) but however interesting their interpretation might be, it is VERY unlikely to be true.

Because:

The purpose of dreams, as far as we understand them, is to process the vast amount of information that comes in through your senses each day whilst you're awake.

On this basis the "meaning" of our dreams is simply that we are making sense of information which previously didn't have a "meaning", for us, because it hadn't been processed so as to fit into our mental maps of the world (all your existing beliefs, ideas, values, etc.).
(This has NOTHING to do with how old the dreamer is.)

Given this purpose, there will always be something in each dream, though we may not remember it, which ties the dream to recent "real life" events. However most of the things which appear in our dreams may have nothing to do with what has been happening in our life just before the dream occurs. Things can appear in a dream that have been part of the dreamer's memories as far back as they first started forming memories - or anytime in between then and now.

Nor do the things in your dreams have to be obviously related to each other. Like I said, dreaming is a process of finding/making meaning, and the brain can draw from anywhere in its huge store of memories in order to carry out that process.

By the way, there is nothing random about this process, but your subconscious mind can come up with connections that your conscious mind would never dream of (!), which is why dreams often seem pretty weird.

So when, if ever, you happen to notice yourself having what seems like a weird dream in future you can literally rest assured that everything is OK. Your brain is actually doing, with great skill, one of the many jobs it was designed to do

Answer 2

The 'baby' in your dreams are all the 'hidden' ideas/fantasies/emotions you have about your crush. That is why you think it was 'his' baby. Your friend is there because she is the one you have been telling about your crush, the one whose been helping you 'carry' this burden. The door is open because, although you are trying to keep your feelings hidden (because you are afraid of what your crush will say to you if you tell him everything) you are afraid of wanting to finally 'reveal' yourself to him.

The 'giving birth' is your idea of what you think the moment will be like when you do finally 'reveal' everything to him. Your mind, insecure in your feelings, will feel 'trapped' and unable to move (coil wrapped around your ankles, making you unable to move) while the crush and his friends will simply stand there and 'laugh' at you and make fun of your 'feelings'.

In other words, you really really REALLY badly want to tell your crush about how long you have had a crush on him (seems like forever), but you are totally afraid of what he will say/do.