that you never wanted another person so bad you went for it, even if you are married. Live a little life is short take precautions and go for it.
2007-04-12 17:51:24 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You act like a bunch of do gooders. Get real stop acting like everything is so right in your world
2007-04-12 17:53:41 · update #1
that's just it I don't feel bad I'm not a bad girl I just want to have fun before I die
2007-04-12 18:00:14 · update #2
WOW this question got a response I'm glad you all are happy and I'm grown up in my 50's and still look 32 why fight it
2007-04-12 18:04:32 · update #3
yes i will agree with you i have done this more than once to even tho i am engaged to man who i do love more than anything but life is short and u do only live once so y not do it if there is chenistry there then do it i say seriously i have had some of the best sex eposides of my life from someone else when ive been in a relationship these things happen and y not it might show u tht there is someone else better suited to you out there i say go for gold
2007-04-12 18:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did. And I wish I hadn't. It is not so much a regret though. My marriage was falling apart and I went for something I shouldn't have. The reason I say I don't regret it is, that it wasn't until I almost lost my husband that I realized what I would be losing. I am so thankful for forgiveness and I realize how truly stupid and selfish I was being. I only know what I know now because of what I went through, so I have to accept that I can not go back and change things I can only be thankful for what I learned from my stupidity!
The lesson: The grass may or may not be greener on the other side of the fence but if it looks better than your yard it is because you spent too much time looking over the fence rather than taking care of your own lawn!!!
***I never actually went all the way... The person was a friend of ours and wouldn't let me do it despite semi-mutual attraction... I went for it but never sealed the deal...Boy am I glad! Thanks...Just thought I would clear that up!!!
2007-04-13 01:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100% of divorces started with marriage. A higher % of marriages fail rather than survive. You must dwell in the majority. Apparently the trick is to make sure you are never found out... however, in NSW Australia there are now more households consisting of one single person, than there are households consisting of a couple with children... a trend set to rise as the baby boomers go through their aging crisis.... so it seems to me that the "precautions" are in the majority, under achievements.
What will solve this dilemma is less emphasis on monogamy... but that will require serious social re-construction and the abolition of religious ferver. It ain't going to happen. Play your cards as they fall and pay the consequences... but yes, life is short.... and for some people the last 20-30 years will be very lonely without a familiar lover. That's the potential price and the penalty for infidelity... not to mention the solicitor's cut.
2007-04-13 01:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to speak for everyone else but its not that you aren't right about the world but what I think alot of do gooders as you put it realize two distinctly different things
1) The way the world is
And
2) The way the world ought to be based on broad based information about human decency
I think most of us do gooders are just trying to promote number two... one question at a time
2007-04-13 01:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you want another so bad you should end what you have(marriage) and go for it. F***ing around is not that sweet especially when it comes right back around to your door sooner than you expect. You cheat, you will get cheated on and probably end up with every decease under the sun. If you want to be a player, DON'T GET MARRIED.
DO GOODER
2007-04-13 00:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by gazer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my sweetie. Anyone else is second best. Im not worth second best, Im worth the best.
Some punk kid like you cant appreciate that.
Live a little? I already "lived a lot" and real world experience tells me that what I have is rare, and wonderful. Im not a dumbass going to throw that away nothing.
Stop being a punk. So what If I LOVE LOVE LOVE my sweetie and am faithful till the day I die. Thats my heart, and my love to give, not yours. Im happy, and what you are suggesting is heartbreak. You want me to sell my priceless treasure for some worthless tripe? No deal.
Take a hike, punk.
2007-04-13 00:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Curly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right, life is short but i'd rather spend it happy and contented with the person i love and who loves me then spend my life chasing tail, leaving a trail of drama, hate and broken hearts.
It's a real shame that you'll probably never find true love, even if someone did really love you, you'd probably ruin it and throw it away for a short dip and a quick split instead of cherishing it.
I actually pity you and other people like you who have the same loser mentality and who will never care about anyone more than they care about themselves.
2007-04-13 01:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have all the fun you want, just not at the expense of other people.
When you're married and you have an affair, someone gets hurt, and that someone is your spouse (unless you have an open marriage)--a person you vowed to love and honor. But apparently that vow doesn't mean much to you, so maybe you shouldn’t be married. It appears you’re too selfish to handle marriage.
2007-04-13 01:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you grow up (and you obviously haven't) you realize that a committed relationship is the only way to go. When I was younger and much more stupid and selfish, and not married, I went for anyone, anytime, including married men. Casual sex and one night stands didn't bother me at all. This was soooo wrong and I feel terrible about it now. I wish I had stayed a virgin and waited for my husband. But you can't go back so I would advise anyone out there, male or female, to wait and save yourself for sex only after your married. You will be glad you did.
2007-04-13 00:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by CaTcHmEiFuCaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got yelled at for asking a similar question.
Every 2nd question is about being cheated on-so i figure there has to be around the same amount of people doing the cheating?Apparently cheaters don't come on YAHOO!........only cheatees!
For the record-I haven't cheated.I asked my own question out of curiosity.
2007-04-13 01:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋