How can I get my step-son to pick up the dog poo,when my wife is buying him a new dirt bike?

Question

He is one suspension away from expulsion. We got him a new quad for Christmas, two years ago, and he flunked 7th. grade twice! I know what really needs to be done, but the Do-Gooders of the world would have me put away. Help!!!!!!

Answer 1

I hate to say it but your wife is as much the culprit here as anyone. You really need to have a good heart to heart with her about this. Tell her your concerns and your reasoning behind it. It sounds like she's trying to compensate him in some way and if she keeps it up she's going to have a really bad out of control kid on her hands.He's maybe 13 now? You really don't have much time left to get a handle on this. Stop buying him things all together and make him earn the things he wants. Restrict his free time and what he does with it. After you talk to your wife and come to an understanding I think it might be a good idea to sit the son down , showing a united front and lay down the law. When he disobeys act on it immediately and stick to your guns. You'll be doing him a favour in the long run. Don't forget to say and show how much you care along with the new rules. Try and spend more time together as a family to tighten your bond with him. Do some things that he likes to do with him so that spending family time is something for him to look forward to.
Good luck to you and your family .... I hope it all works out : )

Answer 2

What do you need her to understand? That you loved your dog Simba and he was very important to you and you cherish his memory? I don't know you at all and I understand that part. Maybe she isn't a dog person or never had a dog, so doesn't understand why it's so important to you? Or does she come from a culture where dogs are not treated like family, as they are in the US? One word of advice: remember that the new puppy is a completely different dog than Simba was. It might have a totally different personality so don't be upset because of this. Enjoy your new puppy and make new memories with your wife, and hopefully she will understand. Very best wishes to you all.

Answer 3

Since public school isnt working too well, I suggest a personal tutor that goes with him in all his classes and comes home with him to make sure he's done his homework.

Or you can have him homeschooled.
Either way, the child needs to know that if he does not pass his school, he will not have a future.

You also need to make it aware to him that you will not always be there for him and someday he will need to buy his own things, but without schooling, he wont have a good enough job to buy anything.

Also you need to discipline the child. No more extra accesories or toys till he starts getting passing grades. No seeing friends or going on the computer. No tv.

You need to be serious with the child otherwise he will walk all over you for the rest of his life always asking for things and not giving you anything in return.

Answer 4

Haha, flunking 7th grade? Twice? He is clearly mentally disabled. Put him in a special school and let him ride the short bus. Even children with behavoural problems that barely even show up don't flunk the 7th grade once let alone twice. He probably isn't mentally capable and all the beatings in the world won't make him intelligent. Just be glad he isn't really your son.

Answer 5

Think about your stepson's future and to Hell with the do-gooders, they don't have to smell the dog poop. Rewarding sorry behavior is not doing that stepson any good. Kid needs some "tough love" so do what needs to be done and give it to him.

Answer 6

You and your wife need to work as a team on this one. You also need to work on bonding with your stepson so that he learns respect for you, i know what you'd like to do, but burying him in the backyard and piling up the dog poo ain't gonna cut it, or you could start a secret war with him and tell him everytime you have to pick up the dog poo, you will be putting it in his bed! he he he

Answer 7

YOU NEED TO PUT HIM IN MILITARY SCHOOL AND THEY WILL STRAIGHTEN HIM UP FAST HE'S HEADED THE WRONG WAY NIP IT IN THE BUD LET'S SEE HE FLUKES OUT OF SCHOOL AND HE GETS A BIKE WHAT'S WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE I CAN SEE IT IF HE BROUGHT A'S ABS B'S HOME SO HE THINKS HE CAN GET ANYTHING HE WANTS NO INCENTIVE HE DOESN'T TRY TELL HIM HE CAN HAVE THE BIKE IF HE BRINGS HOME GOOD GRADES AND PUT IT IN STORAGE TILL HE STRAIGHTENS UP DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO GIVE HIM $5 DOLLARS FOR AN A $4 FOR A B $3FOR A C NOTHING FOR THE REST

Answer 8

Sounds as if your wife is the one who needs discipline. She is rearing a very irresponsible son. Get ready to have him living with you and the wife forever. He will never finish school, never get a job, and never move out. Why should he when she rewards him even though he does not earn it. She needs to get a grip as she is rearing a big spoiled brat.

Answer 9

STOP ENABLING HIM you keep rewarding him he will continue to be a F-ck up. With no respect or responsibilities.
Put the dirt bike up and so what if he is mad, who is the child who is the adult somebody get a spine for this boy blows up a school one day

Answer 10

Take away his quad, and dirt bike, the toys he enjoys, and tell him to straighten his act or he is not getting them back. Explain to your wife, that his behavior is unexceptable, and that she needs to start makin him mind, because you are not going to go on catering to his wants and needs..