Is it wrong for a mom to go out , and leave her 11 yr. old to watch kids overnight?

Question

Is it wrong for a mom to go out , and leave her 11 yr. old to watch the 9yr.old & 2yr. old late 4her 2go out? Or tell the 15 yr. old babysitter downstairs to go ahead and lockup once they fall asleep and go home. The 11 yr. old woke to find that they were alone and called her cell at 4am just to be told she was drunk and couldnt drive home. c-ya in the morning. Help please. I dont know what to do? My brother "dad"
has been going due to fear of her leaving them-to watch them everyday and it seems she does it more. They are divorcing due to mostly his faults and he feels that its his own punishment for cheating so he runs although he fears her threats of calling cops on him if he shows when not wanted are too confusing. But we have to check on them. She was a great mom and now the clubs is all she lives for. The kids suffer and tell us everything in fear.

Answer 1

Get help for the kids. They should not be left alone at all, let alone over night. It's a sorry world out there.

Answer 2

It is wrong and against the law, it's not the 11 year old or the 15 year old downstairs responsibility. Mom needs to be mom and make arrangements one night a week to have an adult babysitter so she can go out and stay out over night if she must. It will catch up with mom and despite being a good mom in the beginning the children will never forget what's happening now. In fact they may end up in trouble with the law, involved in drugs, pregnant (or get someone pregnant as a teen). God forbid, but honestly that is what happens when children are left alone. The local child protective services should be contacted and so should the police if it happens again. The children would be safer with someone else who will give them the love, nurturing and guidence they need and deserve. Mom needs to wake up before it's too late!

Answer 3

you need to document every time this happens. Also, the next time the mother leaves and the 11 yr old wakes up with no sitter then the child needs to call 911 and tell the police that he (or she) is alone and their mom is out drunk and wont come home. Surely there is someone else that can take custody of these children. It sounds like being ANYWHERE ELSE would be better for them than being there. An 11 yr old is way to young to be left with a 9 yr old and a 2 yr old. If there was a fire or any kind of accident, these children wouldn't know what to do...

Answer 4

One of these parents needs to stop with the selfishness and be an adult. Both cannot act so stupid. No caring mother in her right mind would EVER leave an 11-year-old all night watching the younger kids. If neither parent will step up and be an adult, then someone else in the family (grandmother/aunt) should take responsibility by reporting the mother and father to DHR and letting DHR know that they(relative) can and will be responsible for these children. This is a scenario where something bad cannot help but happen and it will to one of these innocent children if some adult does not step up. Someone responsible in the family needs to "do what needs to be done" to make sure these children are taken care of properly.

Answer 5

I don't care how mature some 11 year olds can be, it is defenitely irresponsible of a mother to leave her children alone at night to go out drinking at clubs. In the State of Illinois, children must be at least 12 years old in order to babysit. This is morally wrong. What if one of the children became ill in the middle of the night or what if there was a fire in their home? I feel sorry for single parents who work two jobs and who have no alternatives other than having their older cjildren take care of the younger ones, but there is absolutely no excuse for this woman. Someone should report her..

Answer 6

In most states, a babysitter has to be a minimum of 12 years old, and there is a limit to how many kids/ages of kids that said 12 year old can stay home with. I also think that overnight is not ok until a later age.

Check with your local authorities, there's a good chance she is breaking the law and endangering the children, therefore giving dad all the right in the world to step in, regardless of her "preference".

Answer 7

It is called childrens services thru the State. If someone calls them and reports this, they will have to look into it. I would call the police if I knew the children were home alone and I would positively believe that they would go to the father if he isn't doing the same sort of things. She needs a wake up call and now! How about if someone brought up the fact that if the house caught on fire and all of her children perished.........she would definately be brought up on charges. She is just trying to make herself feel better and still has it going on in the attracting men stage. All the children would have to do is talk to a child services worker and then what? Does she want to lose her children......does she want Dad to have custody.....does she want to punish her innocent children for the sins of their father? It isn't fair and they deserve a stable, SAFE home. Help them get one....don't end up regretting that family didn't keep them safe.

Answer 8

I hate it when people want to have kids but dint want to be parents. The father has a right to see his kids unless he had been found abusive or neglectful. Why would he worry about her calling the police unless she has a restraining order against him. I would encourage him to take notes of the neglect, times she leaves them alone and how long.Who goes in and out of her house,any drug use including alcohol. Just because he was a crappy husband and cheated it has nothing to do with the kids.You have to be proved unfit for him to lose his rights. A trip to the courthouse to get proof that there is no restraining order against him should help.And as said by so many, call the police and meet them at their house for the police to record the incident.

Answer 9

The mother should not be leaving a 15 year old to babysit overnight and gettting drunk and not taking her responsibilites as a mother. And then have a 11 year old with younger siblings left alone. Anything could happen fire, break in, etc. call someone.

Answer 10

Your brother needs to discuss this with his lawyer. It is not right to leave an 11 yr old to watch the siblings.

If something serious happened while mom is out partying social services could become invovled and take the kids away.l

Mom is probably trying to console herself about the end of her marriage. But she is not being fair to her children they should ALWAYS come first. No matter what.

Answer 11

Someone needs to call social services on her. 11 is MUCH too young to be left home alone with a 9 and 2 year old even for 10 minutes