the first couple of years i wanted to marry him, the next couple years i spent wondering why he didnt want to marry me. now that im newly engaged, ive gone crazy, im going out everyother night, staying out ALL night, never invite him, i just want to get away, anybody know what i mean? anybody know why? im meeting new people, and having too much fun. i feel a little bad, but a big part of me just doesnt even care.
2007-04-12 14:43:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him goodbye, looks like youre moving on. His inattentiveness and inaction is to blame, nothing else is at fault. Enjoy your new life.
2007-04-12 14:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you really want to marry him. I have a theory about guys who wait too long to ask a girl to marry them (I've been in a lot of long term relationships) my theory is that if it takes them longer than two years to realize they want you, it will end up making you resentful and you will realize that there are other people who would give their left arm to marry you. My husband asked me after three months (an though that seemed a little soon ) I felt that there was no doubt in his mind that I was the girl he wanted to be with... none of this waiting around to see stuff...
so I think you probably feel taken for granted and you are out looking for someone who will make you feel like the amazing girl you really are.
My advice... end the engagement and keep looking. And good luck!!!
2007-04-12 21:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by katiebug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are going through a stage.....You are worried that you have missed out on all the fun you could of been having while you were waiting and spending your time with this man. If this man is truly special to you, and you know he is who you want. Then don't let it go. The single life isn't always what it's made out to be. And a good partner is hard to find. Just remember this....the grass is not greener on the other side, it's only green where you water it.
Good luck!
2007-04-12 21:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are freaked out. Marriage is scary - it means a whole new, different life for you (sort of, since you've been living together). Take a spa day, then talk to him about how you are feeling. Chances are he is just as freaked out and having the same feelings...
2007-04-12 21:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you've waited so long, that now that you got the "rock", you're just like whatever... I think I am in the "why doesnt he want to marry-me" stage. Maybe you need to see what you want, 1. to settle down with this man or 2. after waiting so long, leave him and enjoy your freedom.
2007-04-12 21:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by Miss. Coco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best time to marry is when you've been together at least a year and not more than three. You've been with him for seven. Your chance of lifelong success here is now damn near zero.
2007-04-12 21:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years of waiting I was so hurt I just dumped him.I dont regret it. He disrespected you for so long now you got the ring but it doesnt mean a thing.Why do we wait so long?Any guy who makes you wait that long is a dud.Move on.
2007-04-12 22:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's time to break up....especially if you don't even care.
perhaps the engagement was a wake-up call and you've discovered you're really not prepared for marriage or a serious relationship.
look into yourself, and figure it out. do what's best for you.
2007-04-12 21:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a guy really rocks your world you would feel this way towards him. If you have to wonder it isn't right.
2007-04-13 01:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by jmartinez562 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up and move on before you create a real mess...
2007-04-12 21:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋