im always insecure about my husband and our marriage,so i asked him right out if he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, he couldnt answer and said i put him on the spot and wont answer because it s a stupid ? is it or do i take this as a sighn to throw in the towel?
2007-04-12 13:13:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you should consider throwing the towel just yet over a question, however, i do believe that he should have answered that ? without hesitation b/c that is a no brainer if he really loves you. You need to have a serious talk w/ him b/c his response and reaction to your question might indicate that maybe he really isn't happy or feeling the relationship anymore, which could lead to seriouse trouble!!!!!!
2007-04-12 13:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it as a sign to throw in the towel. Explain to him that you are feeling really insecure in the marriage and you really want an honest answer from him. Tell him why you feel insecure. I asked my husband the very same question, when I was feeling insecure in my marriage. Fortunately he was willing to give me an answer. Does he usually speak freely about his emotions? Ask yourself if this is out of character for him. I mean is he the type of guy to tell you "I love you" for no reason. Don't let your insecurities push him away and end your marriage. Good luck and God Bless
2007-04-12 13:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by BROWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and wants to be with you for the rest of his life regaurdless of whether he felt it was a stupid question he should been able to respond the way you were hoping he would rather than the way he did. like he has never asked you something you felt was stupid or making you fell like being put on the spot. and lets guess here and say that even if he did you didn't let on you played along. I wouldn't give in just yet express to him how you feel and see how he reacts to the idea maybe leaving if things didn't change and that is where you will find the truth. but make sure you are up for it and are willing to accept the worst.
2007-04-12 13:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There must have been some sparks....you are wife and husband.
If my husband asked me that.......I truly think he would not respond.
Why are you insecure? He must be doing something, or are you
just thinking...maybe. No one can read your thoughts, you have to come out and say what is on your mind.
Have a heart to heart talk with him. If you love him, and he loves you I am sure it could be straighten out.
It's only my opinion, if you are always going to be insecure.....
that would cause havoc on a marriage. Best just get a divorce,
and find someone that makes you feel secure, wanted and loved!
2007-04-12 13:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't throw in the towell over something like that, but Hon...your insecurities can drive a wedge between you and your partner that will eventually lead to destruction.
Why are you so insecure with your relationship? He married you,....he didn't marry someone else.
But...on the other hand, his answer..."you put me on the spot", wouldn't be good enough for me either.....I'd find out why he said that...how he feels......and why? If you love him, you can work through this, and your insecurities....
2007-04-12 13:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you feel insecure in your marriage and you need to examine if it's him or you who has the problem. Asking him questions like this without explaining why you felt that way is not the way to communicate. You can't blame him for thinking your question is stupid. You are essentially telling him you don't trust his motives for being with you.
If your husband hasn't done anything to make you feel insecure then the problem lies within you and you need to work on whatever it is that's making you feel that way.
2007-04-12 13:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he does want to spend eternity with you; He is basicly telling you he doesn't know what the future will hold. Enjoy each other now, and don't worry about tomorrow. You even said you are insecure about your your husband and marriage. Why not work on that, be positive about your relationships and enjoy each other. Be happy. I asked my husband sometimes if he is happy with me, and he would just give me a face, like why do you even ask. I just do that to aggravate him.
2007-04-12 13:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by heavenlyours2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a question that should've been answered before you ever got married! Since you did ask him though, there honestly should not have been any hesitation in his answer.
My husband and I have our little spats but I would never doubt our marriage or if either one of us want to spend the rest of our lives together. Pray on it and put it in GOD's hands.
Always remember this; It's never truly over until you give up and stop trying!
2007-04-12 13:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The questions should have been ask before the marriage
took place. You are married now and you should just put your
energies into making the best marriage that you can. Wondering and worrying will only make you look pitiful so buck up and show him you are a woman to be reckoned with.
You are you know, You just need to recognize that!
2007-04-12 13:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"im always insecure about my husband and our marriage"
Maybe that's why he won't answer you. It gets old dealing with a person who needs constant reassuring. Especially after he went as far as GETTING MARRIED TO YOU!
It is a stupid question. He answered it when he said "I DO".
2007-04-12 13:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋