Guyz (i mean males) HELP me.!!!!?

Question

So i'm directing this Q toward guyz cuz i've gotten soo many replies from gals already...i wanted to hear from you esp. cuz im a girl and need another prespective. Okay the problem is I'm sooo shy and can't get over it. The worst situations take place when I have to be around guyz...i'll walk 50m away from a cute guy if I have to cuz I just feel so nasty(ok ugly), same thing with a pretty girl
(i don't have a jelously problem). I think (ok Im SURE!) I have a confidence problem...long story from when i was a kid. I also get pretty freaked out when I have to eat when ppl are watchin and when there are large groups of ppl. What can I do? On top of that guyz are never interested in talking to me.....im not looking for a bf...but i think it's cooler to hang with guyz sumtimes and get a break from hanging out with my gals all time.Wut can I dooooo...
THANKS SOO MUCH for wasting 5 min of your life to help me. Appreciate it. :)

Can you plzz me more specific with your answers....in 15..i don't drink vodka FYI.

Answer 1

hey there is nothing wrong with you in anyway it's ok to be shy in fact most guys seem to think thats pretty darn well " cute " to see a sweet lady getting all blushy and gigglyaround them. i mean sure some guys might freak out from the shy quiet type but not all of them. now as for the eating thing it's ok to be a little shy there.yes there are a few freaky people who sit and watch others eat when that happens try to make sure and have a table or booth to where you can have your back to them until your finished orr until you feel confident enough with yourself to turn around and face the crowds so to say. now as for the pretty/ugly comment every lady has her beautiful side it's what's on the inside that matters to most men or at least to the respectable ones for that matter. a good guy will love you and want to hang out with you because you are you and not for what you look like.

Answer 2

well I'm not a guy, but I wanted to say that I go through this lack of confidence thing and I'm older than you. Depending on what sort of day I'm living, I can convince myself I'm totally and utterly worthless and no-one could possibly want to talk with me. The trouble is it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, because it is a bit of a turn off to other people when they are confronted by someone so down on themselves. It makes us hard work, other people feel they have to try harder with us and it can be tedious, and we then perceive that as 'I knew it, i was right, they really don't like me' when in fact, they're probably thinking, 'why is she so down on herself? Nothing I say makes her feel better, and it's tiring'
You just have to try and find some confidence way down in your shoes, practice standing in front of a mirror and telling yourself you're as good as anyone else. It's not easy, i know that, but the more you do it, the easier it will become.
If it gets worse, it might be worth spending some time with a counsellor. There is a horrible personality disorder called Avoidant personality disorder, I had a friend with this, 'had' being the operative word because in the end he closed me right out rather than risk rejection, and it still hurts now. he didn't like large groups of people or eating out or getting close to anyone and I can't help feeling if someone had noticed earlier he might not have fallen down that big black abyss

Answer 3

WHAT is your problem? You need to find out why you're so intimidated by such people. You lack confidence, for one thing. Why? What makes you think that those girls are so much prettier? All beauty is not on the outside, you know. And believe me, I've known a lot of beauties that are beastly in the social department! There's nothing to envy them for.
Instead of walking so far away from the handsome guys (same thing applies) you should DARE.
If you're worried about hurt feelings and disappointments you're going to have a rough road ahead.
RX: Dare to try--challenge your habits...either way you have much to gain and little to lose.
Don't be so self-conscious, take a deep breath and eat your food, it's nobody's business.
And it's not that guys aren't interested in talking to you, it's you radiating distrust and poor self-esteem.
Shed your inhibitions if you can. It takes some determination.
Good wishes.

Answer 4

I don’t know what to really suggest here, but do you have an interest in things that might be on the level of a guy? Like hunting, fishing, camping, any kind of sports? Use that as an ice breaker if you do. most importantly be your self don’t try and be something your not because guys will pick up on that.

Answer 5

you answered it your self girlie--you are sure you have a self confidence problem. But also--sound like you are in denial of what you really fear and we all fear this to some degree or another
Rejection. It is easier to walk the other way than maybe possibly feel a little blush of embarrassment. Once I got over my blush problem, it got easier,as even though I'm a guy--I'm like you to a tee, only not so bad since coming out of denial. But as ugly pumpkins go ... I'm envious too of other better looking pumpkins guys or gals!
Oh thanks! you just helped me with my hidden Evy issues--did I help you
I hope so

Answer 6

well for one i am a gurl! LOL! and you're like me. But what i think you should do is come out of that shyness that you have. Because you said you want more guy friends instead of gals, well you need to get out there and express your self more and let the guys know that you're attractive but also shy! and hey if he can't respect your Art he can't have your heart! and never think you're ugly! because GOD! like ugly!!!!!!!!!!!!! BYE!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

hey you sound pretty cool so i think you just need to be yourself around guys (sorry for how corny that sounds)
i was the same way around girls until one day i said screw it and just started being myself not caring what others thought now i have a ton of girl-friends (not a girlfriend though)
hope this helps

Answer 8

just break out of your shell, ur life will be a whole lot better....i was shy, but i broke out of it and life is much more fun. as for the guy thing, just go up to him...if you dont do it u never will, like jumpin into a cold pool, just do it

Answer 9

Try a few swigs of hard vodka. Works like a charm.

Answer 10

be yourself and yes u might be shy and all but hey give it a try and just start by saying hi ....goodluck