She treats my boys like crap. Half the time they go down there, they end up coming home early because she finds something to flip out about. She is constantly interfering with their relationship with their dad. She never gives them any alone time and even turns off his phone so the boys can't call him. He tries to make things right, but everytime he does she threatens to take away their 5 month old. What are his chances of getting custody? She has to be medicated so she doesn't flip out all the time and she also has a 5 year old that she shipped off to her moms a couple of months ago because she "couldn't handle her".
2007-04-12 12:33:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do have a BIG problem. But you can't let this slide idly by. Your boys are in vovled. I would first start with a reasonable conversation with their father. You can't go in sounding like you're the jealous ex - you have to have some support about what is happening - what your boys think and have said and what they feel. I would write this information down - if nothing happens after that - I would try and talk to the woman in a resonable manner. Write that day and time down. If that doesn't work - you need to investigate an attorney Your boys future and their emotional and mental stablity are involved. You can't have a woman who is doing these kinds of things to continue to be a force in their lives. You are their mother and you must take a stance. Good luckl
2007-04-12 12:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex husband seems to have made a very bad choice. the woman is a real piece of work, isn't she?
i can't think of anything, short of supervised visitation, as in visitation without her around, but i think this would be difficult to arrange.. you'd have to go through the courts, etc.
if you and your ex are on speaking terms, can you call him sometime when she's not around to discuss this (calmly)? let him know how you FEEL about her effect on the children. It's very unfair to your HUSBAND and you as well the kids... perhaps if you pointed this out, he will take some action.
hopefully, he will get rid of her? and stop looking under that same rock if he decides to date again?
i feel for you.. i know you have your childrens' interest at heart.
if all else fails, perhaps you can talk with a therapist or minister -- someone who has experience in dealing with tough issues like this.
take care hon.
2007-04-12 12:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what that other person was saying, they were talking out of there butt. realistically his chances of taking custody sucks. everyone is telling you so far to kick her ***, really how would the courts view that? as justified as it seems to beat the crap out of someone for hurting your boys, it will hurt your situation as well as the boy's. stay strong, do things right. if there's no order to let him see them try letting dad take them alone to dinner or a ball game ALONE. make that a stipulation. she sounds like a real piece of work. good luck, hun!
2007-04-12 12:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by cassie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your ex's problem not yours. He has to find ways on his own because he is the only one who can solve this since he is the current husband/partner. As far as you are concerned, just explain to your boys what is happening so they will understand that their father loves them and wants to be with them. The woman your ex lives with obviously has mental/emotional problems and your ex can capitalize on that condition to gain custody of their child.
2007-04-12 12:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by Batman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And he's with her WHY?
If your ex can't wake up and smell the coffee, it's time for you to start brewing.
You need to keep those children out of there, your concern is for YOUR children, not the one he has with that woman.Get temp custody, stating reasons why--it's cleary an unsafe and neglectful environment.
Maybe that will get your ex to wake up.
2007-04-12 12:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, yet none of you comprehend what marriage is, nor do you comprehend what a courting is. Your first mistake develop into bringing a 0.33 guy or woman into you marriage. once you married, it develop right into a dedication between the two one in each and every of you, and you need to have caught to that dedication. Secondly, you had an affair to which your husband frequently occurring, and you anticipate him to proceed to be honest to you? Wow the seeds we sow!
2016-12-29 05:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Custody..that could be one route, but to be honest, if you ex doesn't step up, the children will one day regret the fact that they were treated so poorly, and not want anything to do with this possessive person..sorry, sounds sad.
2007-04-12 12:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he likes to be controlled.So if I were you have him go to your house to see the children I would NEVER leave my children in a environment that someone always flips out.
If he is there and not with you he must like it.
2007-04-12 12:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by dalejr8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this poor guy is in the middle of "the battle of the b i t c he s". The both of you need to get over YOURSELVES and start thinking about the CHILDREN.
2007-04-12 23:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex needs to step up as a parent. Those are his kids she is mistreating. As for his baby with her she can't keep the baby from him. shes unstable. tell her to smarten up but you need to ask yourself why your ex allows this to happen? his kids should come first not that nutcase of a girlfriend.
2007-04-12 13:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋