My boyfriend says he wants to be number one and that my children dont love me or respect me. Is he jealous or possessive? It makes him mad if I do anything for them . Anyone familiar with this?
2007-04-12 12:32:25 · 45 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get rid of him. Children always come first. He sounds like a real loser
2007-04-12 12:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by charkeyp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sound like he has controll issues.He should not make you choose between him and your family.If he can not share the responsibility of you in the mother role maybe he is not the best choice.If your family is haveing problems get family counseling.Strenghen the structure of your family and be carefull who you let in.In the end you will see it is much more important to build a strong family structure.Teaching children the basics respect compassion love and to work hard for whatever there dream is It will last a whole lot longer than this selfish man, It is better to be a single mother who teaches strong values and character to her children than to tolerate the wrong man being in her families life(to have a man just to say you have a man is not a good reason)
2007-04-12 13:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, he needs to understand his place and lay his pride down for a second. Until he's your husband, he has no say in how you raise your children or treat them really.
If he can handle that then good, if not then maybe he needs to take a break. He wanted to be with you, kids and all so he needs to live with the way you are as a mother.
All this is gonna do is drive a wedge between you and your children, put them 1st and you will always get good karma. Kid's are a blessing...
Also, your kid's won't respect you if they see other people disrespecting you (example-this boyfriend)
2007-04-12 12:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is just being possessive. If your boyfriend is really worth much, leave your children, but if your children matter more to you then leave him. And your children must love and respect you if you are doing things for them. Don't make your boyfriend the number one person in your life. Focus on your children. You are the only one they have, so if you leave them then who will they have left?
2007-04-12 12:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by jazzyc27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is manipulating you. think about it. no man should come before your children. they are number one. only a man who can respect the commitment and responsibility you need to have for your children should ever be in your life. if he says the children don't respect you then you should take a look at that. but....if you let your boyfriend treat you badly how else are your children going to treat you. he should be setting an example and raising you up not putting you down. he should support you, not confuse you. if he supported the kids being number one then the family unit would fall into place.
2007-04-12 12:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not right, you could try talking to him about this. and if you have to choose, you choose your kids, really why should it bother him if you are doing something for your children. He is being possessive and jealous. Maybe you need to ask him why it makes him upset and why he dislikes your kids so much. Say if he can't accept your family and who you all are then he can't be with you anymore. Your children are probably to young to really know what respect is and to give it, and they will always love you, I mean you were a kid, no matter what we all still love our parents. Hope it helps.
2007-04-12 12:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious...good golly OH mighty...
This is a joke right...
And to think he has you manipulated without you knowing...
Do you love your kids..? Okay then another man should love them the same....
I can't get over you actually even considering this a question..
Who cares if he is possessive....inconciteret...selfish...childess...moran....
That should never be a thought in your head your kids come first they will always be there and by the sound of it who knows if he will even be around for much longer.....................
You should be MAD.... If your children don't respect you then maybe you should take a look how you are NOT respecting yourself by letting this "so called man" disrespect you..........
In order for your kids to respect you...YOU have to show them what it is to love and respect yourself..........................................
Do you feel your "boyfriend" is respecting or disrespecting you AND your children by even having the testicles to say such nonsense ..? EXACTLY..and I am sure your kids see it the same way...........................................
2007-04-12 13:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he jealous or possessive? Both. And not worth your time. Sorry, but you gave birth to your children, not him. Both of you need to get your priorities straight.
Your children rely on you for love and support. It is not right of him to ask that you put him ahead of the kids. He needs to grow up and realize this, or find someone that doesn't mind him being the child in the relationship.
2007-04-12 12:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Paula S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wo dump him ur children always go first and if he has a problem with that hes not the guy for u that is very wrong of course u should take ur children just think its either me or ur children....yea that doesnt sound right just tell him that they have the same blood as me and if u got a problem with me loving them then im not going to see u anymore u deserve better then him dont stand for this any longer he is a self centered jerk im not trying to be mean about this but he is do the right thing if u love ur kids!!!!!
2007-04-12 12:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by Celestine K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your children will ALWAYS be there in your life. Your boyfriend may be the next thing to blow away with the wind. Respect from your children is important although not the most popular. They need to be #1 and if he can't accept that, then he is not worth keeping.
2007-04-12 12:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by boaterj1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have to choose between your kids and your boyfriend. it is compleatly wrong for him to ask that of you. he is being jealous and possessive and you should get rid of him. You are a single mother I assume, and as such you are probaly a strong woman. You are surposto do things for your kids, its how things work. If he has a problem with that then he needs to leave. I think its time to give him a reality check and send him packing! Good luck, I'll keep you in my prayers.
2007-04-12 12:41:31 · answer #11 · answered by Aztrik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋