we live in iowa. my son's wife moved to minnesota when his kids were babies. the divorce was final. visitation involved meeting halfway. she moved from minn. to calif. doing this she broke the court order regarding visitation. right? after living in california for 5 months the welfare office came in and took my granddaughter into custody. she is 3. my grandson is in the hospital due to the stupidity of *&%$&* who let him get into a bottle of sleeping pills. he almost died. was in a coma and having seizures. a miracle brought him back! the welfare let my granddaughter be released to my ex-daughter-in-law's boyfriend's parents. there is going to be a hearing this month to try to terminate both the rights of my SON and his ex-wife. petition states that ex-wife used pot, manic depression...... nothing good.... and it states that my son is violent because of the fights him and his ex-wife had in the past. they have not been together for over 2 years. so what do we do?
2007-04-12 12:29:45 · 16 answers · asked by elliemay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Petition the court for them, after all they are your grandchildren. You could get rights to them if you want too. They need some stability in their life. Don't allow someone else to raise your grandchilfren, they will not love and treat them like you would/ Children are precious and need love.
2007-04-12 14:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine the people involved in this case: they finally are doing what is long overdue. They are getting the children out of a dangerous situation. Let's hope that your ex-daughter-in-law's boyfriend's parents have the decency to be an extremely stable couple when they are around these children and give them a respite from what must be a tumultuous life.
Your son may have had some really violent encounters with this wife in the past. The court looks at that and says, No thanks... not for these kids, no thanks to living with a guy who has a temper (I don't care what a piece of work she was!). It doesn't matter that it was over two years ago. You seem to be missing the point: to the court, he hasn't punched her in two years because he hasn't been with her in two years!
Ex-daughter-in-law's a mess. Who knows what her new boyfriend is like. I can only hope his parents realize the gravity of this situation. But you coming in to save the day if what you want is custody is going to be a lot of work for a lawyer.
If you care a lot, let a lawyer go to work on this. But I think you may be perceived as lacking a true understanding of the situation if you think your son is a good thing for your grandkids. He has to be cleaner than clean, better than good, fine and upstanding, excellent breadwinner, pillar of the community - in short, he's got to be a guy who doesn't punch women. Being violent with a woman is a huge taboo for men because women lack muscle and they are supposed to be protected. This is exactly the same reason kids are protected from people with bad tempers, once the court realizes that is possible.
Think of these kids. Does your ex-daughter-in-law have parents? It's a sad situation. But as the proverb goes, 'The road to hell is paved with bad intentions'. Trying to bring your grandkids back to be involved with your son again might be hard.
2007-04-20 11:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the biological paternal grandparents to these children, you could present a case wherein you apply for custody. Most courts will look at the parenting ability of both natural parents, first. If either prove to be unfit, unreliable, or not interested in custody, you can make an application to the court to hear your case. By showing that you are financially able to take care of the children in a loving and safe environment, you've already brought forth half your case. The rest will be up to a capable lawyer, and the court system.
2007-04-12 12:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Paula S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend's parents are not blood but probably were the closest person at the time. Get a lawyer and sue for custody. You might have to agree not to let your son see them, or maybe only in your presence. Get those kids and give them the love and support they need and deserve.
2007-04-12 12:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Your son has shown violent tendancies towards his children's mother the court isn't going to allow him to have the kids. I doubt the courts will allow you to have them because of your son. By taking away his parental rights the courts are telling him he can no longer have access to the children, they will LEGALLY no longer be his children. They will more than likely be placed into foster care and be wards of the court because the court will not allow you to have them since your son would have access to them.
As far as her taking them from minnesota to California, I don't know what the divorce papers said...she may have been well within her rights to take them to California. The papers HAVE to state that she can not take them across boarders...IF that was broken why didn't their father charge her with kidnapping then?
2007-04-12 23:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You higher an attorney to make an appeal for you to get custody. You will have to be able to show that you are able to take care of these children and that you will follow these rules and not allow your son to come see the kids whenever he wants because of his violent behavior. You just need to get a layer to help you.
2007-04-12 12:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can care for the kids then you need to fight for them. i to ended up caring for my 2 granddaughters because they were sexually abused by their bio dad and mom kept taking them around him against court order. so a guardian ad litem talked to the oldest who was 3 at the time and she said that she would make sure the kids never went back to mom or dad. i have had them 5 yrs now. and my daughter recently let me and my husband adopt them. even though my granddaughter was 2 at the time of abuse she remembers everything to this day and she is now 8. i fought and fought to get the kids and would not give up. i suggest if you can care for these kids you fight til you get them. relatives have first choice at the kids if they are removed from the parents. i also did all this with no atty because at the time of getting them i was a single parent. so if you play by the systems rules you will win. just dont give up and pray everyday for them and that you can have them. YOU DO have grandparents rights also. so if someone else has them you can request visitatons for them. BUT please for the sake of those kids FIGHT as hard as you can to get them. they need to be with family not strangers. and if your granddaughter is your sons i dont understand why his ex's b/f has them that makes no sence at all. but i would fight til the day i die to make sure those kids are in a safe place preferable your home. i do wish you a tons of luck!
2007-04-18 18:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get an attorney who specializes in family practice... if you are not in the same state as the case, you will have to get the services of an attorney in that state.
i hope you can get the kids... this is sad. i'm really sorry for those children.
one more thing -- if you do go to court be calm and emit common sense and do your best to be a "lady" -- this will give the judge an idea that you are sensible and have good intention when it comes to those children...
2007-04-12 12:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File for custody before the hearing. Get a lawyer and get those kids.
2007-04-20 11:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think your are your sons parents, and the grand parents should be able to get custody before someone who is not blood related, that just doesn't seem right to me. YOU are the grand parents...good luck.
2007-04-12 12:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋