what is it like to be in a gay or lesbian relationship and trying to adopt a child?

Question

express how you feel and explain how hard it is give all details. explain all the steps. like how much the stress is.

Answer 1

I can't give you all the steps or anything, but it is easier being lesbian and getting artificial insemination.

All the kids I know who have been adopted by gay or lesbian couples turned out fine. They got teased by kids at school, but all kids get teased for something (hair too long, weird clothes, physical disabilities, mental deficiencies, etc.) You can't get away from that.

Answer 2

Well, honestly I can't tell about any kind of adoption for I was very lucky, so there was no necessity of adopting a child. I had a couple of relationships and after a long story I suddenly was single father.
A couple of years later I met my current partner. They accepted each other quiet well, however anytime my daugther understood, that something was wrong, since everyone had a Mum and a Dad, but she had a Dad and a Daddy. When we explained her everything she reacted kinda cute, for she just decided to make my friend her 'mother'. Even today she's teasing my friend by calling him "Mom"

Today she's 14, she knows about her real mother, but right now it doesn't appear that she wishes to meet her. If she does I'll take care of it, no matter what. Yet sometimes I wonder if things could have been the other way around and if it wouldn't be better to have a mother, especially now, since she reached the puberty (2 years ago, but well...). Our daughter has female attechement figures, but that doesn't make it up for a mother. I'm also so sorry for all the problems she had and propably will have due to my homosexuality (she was also teased during school) however I couldn't make a decision or prefer our daughter or my partner.
However, in my opinion, she got very strong by handling insulting declarations (and still I feel sorry for her). Anyhow, today she also has a boyfriend and became an amazing girl and (I daresay) a clever young woman. Things are going quiet well now. Our neighbourhood is more or less tolerant but getting to the point, where we are right now was quiet hard. I think living as a family without getting hurt too much due to intolerance is at least as difficult as adopting a child and we even moved out once, since we were really afraid of the people around us. Our apartment was burgled and threats followed. We got really scared, for a child (6 year old she was back then) isn't able to protect itself. So we moved out once, but now everything's fine and thinking about what took place makes me frustrated somehow.

Answer 3

I only have a link for how the kids grow up http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/publications/lgpchildren.html

Anyhow, I'm in Canada, I think it's a non issue. So long as we're married(it's legal here) for 3 years or more I think, then we can.

Otherwise I'd just adopt from a country where it's more legal, inter-country adoptions are allowed after all.

Answer 4

hopefully it is the most miserable experience of their lives, so they don't go back and try that nonsense again.