I'm curious, I personally dont think it's a choice. There was a recent event that took place in our city and a few comments were made about the person deserving what they got because they choose to be gay....
2007-04-12 11:17:38 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't think I chose my sexual orientation. I believe that it is genetic. People who say that if it's genetic then how are gays still here since we don't reproduce...we do reproduce just not with eachother (sperm doners for female couples and some women will carry a baby for a gay couple). If it is genetic then the gene would be resessive which means that it might be in a person and it might not. It's just like if one parent has blue eyes and the other parent has brown you might have children with blue eyes and some with brown and they can pass either eye color to their children because of the resessive gene that they carry. If I were to choose to be exciled from my family, beat up, have the chance to be fired from my job or discriminated against on a regular basis then I would be an idiot but I didn't choose it, who would with the chances of all that happening. Also, if being gay is genitic then so is being a child molester and murderer, well how can you compare me to that? I am not doing anything illegal and right now if I wanted to kill someone then I would choose to do it. But me being with the woman I am with right now sure I chose that but to be attracted to women and men I didn't choose that I love the person I am with and am attracted to her in the same way I would be attracted to men. The day I chose to be gay is the day you chose to be straight.
2007-04-12 11:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jayelyn 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That is a good question. I started off my answer, it is a choice, and my reasoning was, I choose to have sex with a women, and a gay guy chooses to have sex with a guy, but then I thought about it, what made me choose to pick a woman over a man? Well, I can say it might have been how I was raised, but I am sure most homosexuals were raised the same was as I was, so I guess its not really a choice. Its normal to be with a girl, for me, so I guess it would be normal for a gay guy to be with another guy. I might not agree with two guys being together, but I can say that its not a choice.
2007-04-12 11:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by George P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Brilliant question - and a really tough one to answer!
I do not think homosexuality is a choice. It is something which you have no control over.
You can choose to follow a homosexual lifestyle; but you cannot choose who you feel attracted to. So even if you suppressed your homosexuality and lived a 'straight' lifestyle - the homosexual feelings would still be there.
Saying that homosexuality is a choice is like saying that a straight person could *choose* to be attracted to any member of the opposite sex. It's saying that you can choose who you are attracted to.
When straight people have affairs or fall for someone who is wrong for them, it is always said "you can't choose who you love". This is completely true in my eyes.
To any straight person reading this who believes homosexuality is a choice - ask yourself this: are you saying that YOU could *choose* to make yourself attracted to a person you find unattractive? That old, overweight, smelly guy in your office? You could just flip a switch and make yourself attracted to him? I doubt it!
There is absolutely no reason someone would 'choose' to be homosexual, considering all the heartache, problems, exclusion and judgement that still comes along with it today.
The only people who are really equipped to answer this question (in my eyes) are the ones who have been through the experience. If you haven't felt that overwhelming, terrifying realisation that you are not actually straight, then you are not equipped to say that homosexuality is a choice.
As for the fact that homosexuality can't be inherited because we can't reproduce.... many homosexual people have children and get married because they are trying to force themselves to be straight. There are also bisexual people who reproduce.
xx Emmie
2007-04-13 00:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely not a choice. I agree with others who have said this answer. People would not choose a homosexual life. They are given what they got, they take it, but they choose whether they will live a gay life. People will always be gay if they are gay now. They could live as a straight person, make love to people of the opposite sex, but will not be attracted.
2007-04-12 11:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by t_dildine2000 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A sexuality is never a choice. Sometimes people pretend to be another sexuality or experiment because they are confused or trying to be popular, but everyone has a programmed set of characteristics, and doesn’t it make sense that sometimes it wouldn’t be the “norm”? I’m asexual. I don’t have sex, I’m not interested in it at all. It’s not a choice. It’s also not a disorder…not a hormone imbalance or anything else, just like homosexuality. Some people I’m sure fool themselves into thinking that they are straight, gay, or bi to be “cool” or fit in because these things all have social groups, BUT I wouldn’t doubt for an instant that there are genuinely homosexual people out there. It’s like left-handed people. No one REALLY knows why they are that way….It’s not NORMAL….but it’s the way they are and it isn’t hurting anyone. ^_^
2007-04-12 11:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Spork5000 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There is certainly a big debate on this topic. Ask most straight people and they say its definitely a choice... ask people who are gay or lesbian and it isn't quite so clear anymore.
I know guys who are gay, who have gotten married and fathered a child or two. Then I know of others who are positively repulsed by the idea of being intimate with a female.
As a straight person, I honestly can't put myself in their shoes. All I can do is listen and attempt to understand something that I might never be able to understand.
The only clear choice, as I see it, is to simply be willing to accept people for who and what they are and not worry so much about other people's personal business.
2007-04-12 11:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by Su Z Cue 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that's a bit harsh...they deserve what they get because they choose to be gay? Why should anyone be treated different because they choose something other than the norm?
No i don't think homosexuality is a choice...i think a lot of them have a hard time accepting their fate....you are what you are at the end of the day. So people should really butt out or accept!..simple!
2007-04-12 11:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think its the same reason we can all watch a really good movie with a happy ending, some cry and some don't. We all have our own opinion, desires and choices. We weren't all made the same otherwise there would not be a menu at restaurants. It is what we choose, what we like.
People make homosexuality such a big deal when really it is so harmless. What does it really matter who a person is attracted to and feels love towards?
2007-04-12 11:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by imissrascal 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I dont think in this world someone would choose to be homosexual.
With the bias towards that group of people--why would anyone choose to be it?
You can choose some things about yourself, but no matter what, deep down, you are who you are and you can cover that up--but eventually the real you will shine through.
A choice? Nah, it's a natural thing.
2007-04-12 11:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by rockerweenie 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You can't choice what naturally you like. For example: if you like chocolate, or if you hate beans. It just comes. But you can choice to eat or not the chocolate or the beans. You don't choice if you are gay or straight, but you can choice to practice it or not. You can choice to be lonely your live, or built a healthy and lovely relationship.
2007-04-12 12:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Pato FV 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋