My bfriend and I recently broke up after a 7 yr relationship. I am only 21 but still so in love with him. I am normally a very positive person and try to realize that everything happens for a reason.
Ladies, those of you who are experienced, please help me see the positive side of this. Those of you who are 30+, mainly because you might have experience in this. If you could go back to your 20s, what would you have done differently. I want to live my life to the fullest and would rather see something good out of this. Not just thinking that I lost my love & best friend.
2007-04-12 11:08:28 · 7 answers · asked by Elsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take what you have learned from that relationship both the good and bad and apply it to the next relationship, but for now enjoy being single and some time off so you don't end up with a rebound boyfriend that ends up hurt.
2007-04-12 11:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not change anything from my past. Every relationship was a learning experience to make the next one a little better. You are only 21, you have your whole like ahead of you. You will meet many more men, and one day you will realize that you did not know any better, your world in NOT coming to an end. Move on and start meeting new people, you will soon forget.
2007-04-12 18:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that after 7 years you will have a good perspective on things for a while..it means you were together most of your teenage years?..it is difficult to know yourself as a teen much less maintain a relationship for that long..I guess what I am trying to say is sort of 'live your teenage years' now..have fun go on dates and try a few 'different fish' out there...life is short..even at 21 and try to take the approach of O.K. its 'me time'..as a teenager ..till I was 20 I had fun..dated around and yes i did fall in love but I never took it too serious..as you move into my years(husband 3 kids house..) you will be gratefull you took this time to have fun..!!
2007-04-12 18:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by sophia4470 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do nothing different. What I wanted and needed in my 20's is different than what I want and need now. (If your needs didn't change, people would think you were weird.)
When my first husband and I married, we were perfect for each other because of our wants and needs. After 20 years, we wanted and needed different things, so we divorced. We have each found someone that better matches what we want and need now that we are older, and we are all happy. There are no hard feelings.
I don't know if this answers your question. But just realize things are SUPPOSE to change - not stay the same. So you must do what is right for you NOW, just as your boyfriend feels he has done.
2007-04-12 18:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's going to be kind of hard to help without detail's of why you all broke up in the first place.
What I will tell you is, you are young and still have a full life ahead of you.
If he was your best friend , before and during the relationship, he still should be now, a true best friend would be.
Also be patient hun , if you two were meant to be together, he will be back, you all will work it out.
Stay Positive :)
2007-04-12 18:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Esencia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with your friends and be open to casual dates. If I could change things I wouldn't have had serious boyfriends for awhile. And I would have let guys go without a second thought.
2007-04-12 18:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just see it as one of your life long experiences and learn from it.
2007-04-12 18:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋