What about him? Did he able to go around with your family? Did he enjoy what you likes? If he don't, why he insist that you have to? relationship is a two ways process, it's will not last if it's one way.
2007-04-12 15:01:48
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answered by Tan D 7
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So what if you don't speak Spanish... does he speak English? Then the language shouldn't be too much of an issue.
So what if you don't like his music... I've been married 7 years, and there's music that my husband likes, but I refuse to listen to it. I've explained why I don't like it, and he's ok with that. He plays it on the radio when he's driving alone.
Although I agree with the part about you not going around his family. Family is pretty important, and if he's feeling torn between time with you and time with his family...
If he did talk to you about these issues, then why didn't you take a Spanish class? That could have solved at least 2 of these things- 1) you'd know Spanish, 2) you'd feel more comfortable around his family.
Looking forward, I see 2 options that you have. Ask him point-blank if he was rationalizing. Are these things ideas that just recently came up or has he been bothered by them for a while. He's going to answer one of two ways...
1) Yeah, the've been bothering him for a while.. Resond with, "Then why didn't you talk to me about it?... why didn't you suggest I take a Spanish class?"....
2) No, he's just tired of you and wants a new girlfriend... Chances are that he won't actually come out and say this, but hopefully you'll be able to tell that this is how he feels. If this is the case, find the silver lining to the cloud. Find a way to get over him and move on. He has, you need to as well.
2007-04-12 18:27:20
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answered by Yoda's Duck 6
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well, first off, things will get better. I'm guessing this just happened really recently. All of your emotions are fresh and raw and hurting right now so don't do anything drastic. Give it a few days or a week. Time is important. I'm also guessing that he didn't give you any kind of hint that you were even close to breaking up. When the time comes, let him know that. Let him know that you had no idea any of this was going on and if you had, you would have make an effort to change. I believe he should give you another chance but I can't promise you that is going to happen. I wish you the best.
2007-04-12 18:13:49
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answered by Joy A 3
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its time to move on. i' sorry.... a lesson for him is you can not be in a relationship and think you can change someone.. a lesson for you is after 5 yrs you needed to show some interest in his family and culture to make it work. His culture is very important to him and asking him to ignore that or just not addressing it is a bit of ignorance its asking him to shut off a part of his identity. Latino family culture is very very strong. I used to live in new mexico and my one sons father is mexican. If you expect to be with someone of another culture you have to learn to live it. He could have been a little more open with you though and understanding you are a different culture. the thing is this most likely at this point just will not work out. 5 years is a long time to invest and not commit. I would challenge somewhere in this relationship were some real commitment issues as well.
be thankfull for the wonderful memories. take away the good you shared and try not to see him as the all bad guy either. and move on... its time....
{{hugs}}}
2007-04-12 18:16:21
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answered by Pazzionflower 3
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I once read that it takes one month for every year of relationship, and I know nothing can ease the pain but soon you will be past it.
Dating somebody from a different culture is always an effort, now if you really tried and he brought that up it may be he was looking for something to break up about.
If you decide to work it out cool, but if there is to be a break make it clean and move on. Too often people become stuck in these back and forth break up-make up relationships and time keeps going by.
Good luck to you!
2007-04-12 18:10:07
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answered by mitchell2020 5
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hi. i don't know much about losing a boyfriend permenantly, but i thought that my boyfriend was cheating on me. i was completely heartbroken, and my life already sucked, so i was really depressed. but then i found out his kid sister plotted the whole thing b/c she was jealous of me. but if this guy isn't willing to help you with spanish and praise you when you get something right, he doesn't sound very nice. if he doesn't believe in you and makes you feel bad about yourself, then he needs to work on his people skills. take some time being single and then try other guys, like through your friends. blind dates can be fun!
2007-04-12 18:17:53
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answered by claire_bear_zizzy 1
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It doesn't sound like it was meant to be. You'll find the right one, just give yourself a chance.
2007-04-12 18:08:14
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answered by Julie S 3
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you just got out of a 5yr jail sentence,enjoy celebrate
2007-04-12 18:31:49
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answered by siaosi 5
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he gave you 5 years to overcome it, but you still act that way?
pfft.. he was generous, id have dumped you along time ago..
you blew it
2007-04-12 18:09:47
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answered by chumpchange 6
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Gosh, we all answered this this morning. Same answer, dump him and get a real man.
2007-04-12 18:08:07
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answered by Anonymous
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