Is it normal to want a baby and be extremely scared at the same time?

Question

I'm 26 and think I would like to have a baby. Even though I think I want a baby, I am extremely scared at the thought of becoming a mother. Sometimes it really freaks me out. Is this normal?

Answer 1

YES... But you can't let it get the better of you. You will be as good a mom as you want to be and work hard at being!!! It is not an easy job, but we all know that the best things in life aren't free or easy for that matter...That makes motherhood one of the best things to work hard at because it will reap many rewards!

Just be sure you are prepared, by being somewhat financially stable & preferably out of debt, and have a loving stable relationship with not only your significant other but also your families as well. Having a good support group is wonderful, and can keep things less stressful!!!

I think I drove my husband nuts for the entire 41 weeks with “ will I be a good mother?” questions…Just relax, get some good books about pregnancy and childbirth like: The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer or Pregnancy, Childbirth & the Newborn by Simkin, Whalley & Keppler. Both of them are really good informative books. As well as books on parenting… Concern about being a good parent is not only normal but also a good sign that you care enough to be concerned for the child’s sake. You will do fine, just don’t drive yourself crazy on the way!!!!

Answer 2

I'm a little bit younger than you but I know exactly what you are talking about. I want to have a child but I'm scared to death at the same time. You're probably worried about all the things that could go wrong like, will I be a bad mother or will I teach him something that others will disagree with. That's perfectly normal because you want your child to have the best possible life. Its also normal to be afraid of something that you have not done yet. This would be your first child so your expectations are completely based off of others interpretations of the subject rather it be through your mother, a friend, or a book, its all the same someone else's interpretation. Not being a hundred percent sure of what to expect, that uncertainty, is plenty to be afraid of. If it is really what you want you'll find that a lot of your fears will resolve themselves the further you get a long. Good luck and remember that fear is normal so never be ashamed of being afraid.

Answer 3

I think it's normal. Are you scared of the responsibility of having children? Or scared of the pregnancy itself? Scared you can't have them (if you haven't ever tried)?
I think you need to be sure it's what you want before you put yourself through anything like that. It's certainly no bed of roses. If it's what you truely want then GO FOR IT! If it's not what you want yet then leave it alone and revisit the issue in another year or so. You're 26 there's no rush.
In the meantime, hang out with other new mothers. You'll see that everyone is pretty much working it out as they go. No big deal.
Once you're sure, and if you have a baby, you'll see the reward of motherhood first hand.

Answer 4

Is totally normal to feel scared about wanting a baby. I'm a mother of three and #4 on the way in a few weeks. I was scared the 1st time, 2nd, 3d and for this one I'm still scared too. Its a good feeling though. I guess we get scared because of the responsibilities. A baby depends on their parents to nurture them as well as money wise, we have to make sure our kids aren't in need. When you're about to become a parent for the first time, I admit is scarier than the others because through your whole pregnancy you think about ( am I going to have a healthy pregnancy, am I going to have a good & normal delivery, try to get things together in trying to figure out what baby is going to need for its new arrival, how is the baby going to be like, is it going to be a healthy child, etc.) If we didn't get scared of things like that, then we wouldn't be considered good parents. Good parents care & get scared. I suggest that you try to conceive if you are prepared, there's nothing more beautiful than being a parent, and having to care for someone that comes from you. That little life you created will bring you many joy.I hope this info helps...

Good Luck!

Answer 5

It is absolutly normal to want to a baby but be nervous at the same time. This is a new experience and for the 1st time you will be responsible for another human life besides your own. You will have doubts and question whether or not your cut off for motherhood but thats totally normal. motherhood is a learning process. You have love to give to a new life to kiss and hold and comfort its only natural to be afraid. Its human nature. The fact that your already concerned shows a good mother. :)

Answer 6

Yes it is a big change and you are afraid that you might not know what to do and that you are not ready. I am 25 and just had my first and I was very happy but yet so scared. It is a very scarry thing bringing a new little person into the world but yet such a joy. Once you have them you can't remember life without them around. It is all worth it and it really isn't that scary once you have them in your arms.

Answer 7

Welcome to being a woman. I think that every woman goes through it. I'm pregnant now, and still worry. I keep thinking, Wow, now I am responsible for another person. For the next 18 years, I will be second. (Please note that I already have a son, he's 8.) I stress about money, and college, and teething, and... You get the point. What really makes the difference is knowing that you will do anything to raise a healthy child. You will know when the time is right!

Answer 8

Yes it is perfectly normal to be feeling that way. Most mothers feel that way at one time or another.

Answer 9

Its normal for you if that's the way you feel, parenting is a hard job and also rewarding

Answer 10

very normal. yes and it's okay. It's a very big step in your life but you will be so happy. You will never regret it.