2007-04-12 10:49:53 · 24 answers · asked by blue_eyed_sweetie1982 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The "honey moon" period usually lasts about 3 months or so. Maybe he needs to get out and play basketball or do some other "guy" junk. I'm sure he loves you and is turned on by you, but check it out, men need to be men. He's been infatuated with you for however long, he just got married 4 months ago, and there's the long-shot possibility that he just needs to relax, regain himself, do some hobby and then he'll get back to
KNOCKIN' BOOTS!!!
I'm sure everything is fine, just relax.
2007-04-12 11:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What else is going on in his life? Is he in school? Is he working to support you both? Is there a baby on the way? All of these things can give a guy a ton of stress and that alone could kill the libido. Ask him what's going on in his world and let him know you are there for him. If that doesn't work, you may want to just meet him at the door in some lingerie and ravage him after work. If nothing else, he'll have a great watercooler story!
2007-04-12 17:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be depressed, working too hard and is dead tired, gay, or he is afraid he is going to get you pregnant. You should talk with him and find out. Another idea may be he is afraid he is going to get pregnant. Are you on birth control? Have you bragged to friends that you want to get pregnant? That could be your answer. He may realize that at being married for only 4 months, that is way too early to introduce a baby into the family when you are just getting to know each other as a couple.
2007-04-12 17:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he want to have sex before marriage, and all of a sudden stopped wanting it after marriage? Or has he never been that interested in sex? Some guys are just not into it, believe it or not. Take him to the doctor and have them check his testosterone levels (it's a simple blood test). Low testosterone can cause low libido as well as other health problems; there are treatments for it. If it really bothers you, you two should definitely seek medical advice.
2007-04-12 17:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you should have thought about your different sex drives before you got married. This is what you signed up for so either accept it or get divorce. He is the way he is and isn't going to change.
Either he doesn't care for sex, finds you repulsive or is getting it else where. Problem is none of those things makes a difference. Either you want to live this way or not...choose.
2007-04-12 17:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do u know hes not cheating? Hes at his prime! 21yr. olds..thats all they think about! SEX, SEX and more SEX. maybe he is cheating. confront him ask him if theres anything new u guys could do. Youve only been married for 4 months! Its the honeymoon stage! and hes 21!! Theres something else going on.
2007-04-12 17:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by Naomi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's either cheating after all or has a medical problem or he's gay....something is definitely wrong if he's only 21 and not wanting sex!
2007-04-12 17:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by rugbee 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, not all men want sex. you see, marrige isn't all about sex! in fact, some people aren't even in it for sex! marrige is being commited to the one you love truly and dearly. if he does not was sex, don't push him to do it. let him make his own choices. many people just don't like sex at all! you have to see that marrige is not at all about sex. you have to understand. if he loves you for you, then that would be awesome. don't push him and make him have sex. that can push this matter into divorce. never force a boy to do something unless he wants to. i once broke up with a boy because of that problem. he was so obsessed about sex. i don't even understand the point of having sex. yeah, i've seen it in movies but its just lying in bed naked and touching each other. ther's no point of that. as long as he loves you can cares for you, you have n reason to push him into sex. if you really want sex, then i suggest that you find another man or wait until he feels ready. let him understand that your marrige is not about sex. let him understand that you love him and he loves you. let him know that you wll do it with him when you are ready. just don't push him. that will make him feel uncomfortable. good luck.
2007-04-12 18:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kiera Bruce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk to him about it? Marriage is supposed to be forever so if you guys are having sex problems already I would try to work it out asap! Honesty is key for both of you because although the truth may hurt, lies hurt more down the line. Good luck!
2007-04-12 17:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by jennifer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because he's not too attracted to you anymore? Have you gained some weight? No offense. Or maybe he's too stressed out from work and problems. That's my problem I'm 20 and I have no desire to have sex with my bf either, but it's from stress and work.
2007-04-12 17:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by kati 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋