Am I dying?

Question

Hi everyone,

I am shaking asking this and I know it might sound silly, but I am terrified. I'm preganant with my second child and have a three year old son. For the past couple of weeks I have been getting this horrible feeling that I am going to die. I don't know who to talk to. I don't want to talk to my mum or boyfriend because they'll get really upset.

I have heard people say that you do get a feeling like you are going to die before you do. I'm scared for myslef and my children. Has anyone ever had this feeling, is it just anxiety or could I actually be dying?

I'm sorry for being so morbid, but I didn't know where else to turn!

Please help, x

Can I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for answering so honestly. I'm going to relax, call my mum and phone the doctors in the morning.

I am going to go to work tomorrow and enjoy my weekend at fun world with my family. Before reading these messages was seriously considering not going outside my front door.

Thanks

Clare x x

Answer 1

Yeah, the weirdest thoughts and fears use to go through my mind when I was pregnant and I would have such terrifying dreams also. Talk to your boyfriend or mom. You would be surprised about how much hormones can affect you. And remember every pregnancy is different. These things are normal. Just relax and stay calm.

Answer 2

It sounds more like anxiety than anything else. I had a morbid feeling that there would be something wrong with my baby all the way through my third pregnancy - was like that right up to when I had my son (and he is perfect). Speak to your GP or midwife as high levels of anxiety can in the long term have an adverse affect on your health. Good luck, don't bottle it you'll just feel worse x

Answer 3

I think you should try to relax. Pregnancy can sometimes be such a stressful thing we woman go through and I think its just your hormones. If you and the baby are both healthy then there is no reason to question yourself about dying. Usually, people who are sick and in a state where they feel death is a possibility then yes sometimes they feel that emotion. I don't think you can just tell from within when its your time to die and you shouldn't even be thinking about that. My personal opinion is that its your hormones and the more you feed into these scary thoughts the more you will feel this way. You only feel as you think.....If it sounds any better speak with your ob/gyn doctor and make sure everything is fine with you and the baby. Best of luck*****

Answer 4

Hi Clare
I really sympathise with you because this happened to me alomost 10 years ago now. I was absolutely convinced I was going to die, it was the most horrible feeling in the world, I really thought that it was going to happen. I also started having pins & needles in my hands, feet & lips, a tight chest, sweating, a feeling of detatchment (like I was me looking in on myself from the outside). I was so scared that I told my Dad & Step-Mum who took me down the doctors, who then referred me to a psychologist. It was the best thing I ever did as after talking with the psychologist I felt so much better & he explained that I was suffering with anxiety attacks & although I thought I was going to die (which is apparantly very common to think when you have these attacks) that I really wasn't. He made me see things from a different perspective to the point that in the end I could actually laugh at myself. Once you know how to control & deal with these attacks you'll find they lessen then disappear completely. Touch wood, I haven't had one since. I'm 27 now, I was 18 at the time.
You really need to tell someone like your Mum & then make a doctor's appointment. You'll be surprised how much better you'll feel for actually telling someone. As you're pregnant it could well have something to do with your pregnancy hormones & i would get it checked out.
Good luck honey, I wish you well.

Answer 5

I would go and talk to your doctor, it's totally confidential and ou don't have to worry about upsetting them. I very much doubt that you are going to die, but the stress of feeling this way is not going to be any good for you or the baby. I have never been pregnant and am not any kind of mental health expert but this does sound like pregnancy related depression/anxiety to me. Please go to your doctor, I'm sure you are not the first person who has felt this way and if the doctor does not take you seriously go and speak to another one. Whether or not your fear has any grounding, it is genuine to you and therefore needs addressing by someone who can help you work through it. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you. Oh and never apologise for how you feel, it's how you feel and you have every right to express that and be taken seriously.

Answer 6

Now now Clare, you are making yourself worse by not doing the obvious thing. What is the Doctor for? In your shoes, though I am a man, I feel you are just worrying without cause but, because you are pregnant, the health of your unborn child is most important and that visit to the Doctor is the best advice anybody could give you.

Do it!

Answer 7

OMG I totally know what you are talking about. I have 3 children - 4,2,1 y/o. I was convinced I was dying and had even diagnosed myself. Well I went to the GP exp[ecting a confirmation of this and was told much to my joy I have only anxiety and will live. So you are so normal to feel this way. I have panick attacks worryijng over things like this too.

Go to your doc or call them first thing in the morning and get help. They can help you. I am a new pewrson. I laugh and dont even think about dying like I did before.

Answer 8

I think it is very brave of you to ask this question. I sure didn't. What I did was set my life straight, see the doctor, and I wrote letters, to my husband, children and unborn. I cried the whole time! Then I wrote a short story about it . . . Now my baby is 8. In the later stages of pregnancy, anxiety over the future is pretty normal. Talking to a doctor and another woman (mother) you trust is helpful.

Answer 9

Of course you are not dying. It sounds like you are anxious and stressed. I don't have children but a close friend of mine became extremely anxious and panicky on her second pregnancy - perhaps deep down without realising it, you are worried about the extra responsibilty of having two little ones!. You will be fine - take some deep breaths and relax. You must talk to your mum and boyfriend - they will want to know how you are feeling so they can help you. If you really feel you can't talk to them, can you perhaps discuss this with your gp or midwife. Anxiousness is so common - you are definitely not alone - us girls often get panic attacks and anxiety - I am convinced it's our hormones! Take care, look forward to your new arrival and enjoy the experience. xx

Answer 10

turst me you are not going to die it's just your hormones that make you feel so emotionall!! just yesterday i was thinking the same thing omg what if something happens to me or my baby!! what will it be like when i am gone? and guess what it was all in my head! i also have a 3 year old son and am pregnant with my second still early though 9 weeks!!! so what i would suggest you do is talk with your boyfriend! i tell everything to mine! i let him know what i am feeling even though sometimes he looks at me like i am cooky!!! but he knows it's just the hormones!!! so hang in there and express your concerns with other people you are not the only thinking this!!! trust me! good luck and congratz!