What is normal for a married couple? How often should they have sex? 2 times a week? 3 times a week? What is reasonable for a husband to expect in terms of intercourse with his wife?
2007-04-12 10:12:22 · 23 answers · asked by gIrLiE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, the "as much as they want to" is an obvious answer.
I think it's pretty safe to say that the man obviously wants to have sex more than the wife, that being said...how often is reasonable for him to expect sex? 7 days a week?
2007-04-12 10:21:09 · update #1
I am the married female and I would say my husband and I have sex on average 3 times a week.
I was telling a male friend of mine that my husband complains that he "never gets any"
I think 3 times a week is plenty. I have a male friend who is married and he told me that he's not even allowed to ask for it more than twice a week!
So for all you men, would you be satisfied if your wife had sex with you 3 times a week, or would it not matter how much she had sex with you, would you always want more?
2007-04-12 10:25:08 · update #2
Ok, for the person who decided to lecture me on who I choose to discuss my sex life with...my male friend is GAY, not that it should matter and he happens to be a mutual friend of both my husband and myself. I also discuss my sex life with my female friends. I am in my 20's, this is what we do...I don't know how old you are, but you must be in your 40's at least. And if my husband wanted to discuss his sex life with a mutual friend of ours, I would be fine with that.
2007-04-12 11:20:21 · update #3
You should never discuss what goes on or does not go on in your bedroom w/another man. It is disrespectful to your marriage and your husband. That is a very intimate conversation and you are well on your way in the wrong direction. How would you feel if your husband had a "lady" friend that he complained to about how you weren't satisfying him frequently enough to meet his needs? That would be inappropriate and open the door for her to make herself appear more desirable. How long would it be before that woman soon used his sympathetic ear to hear her complaints and ultimately be her shoulder to cry on?
What is reasonable is what is mutually acceptable to the both of you. Each couple is on their own schedule and have different circumstances and stresses and health issues that will influence their libido. Including children.
2007-04-12 10:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
look - if your not doing it at least once a week and there are no kids you have problems. my wife only bothers to let me hit it on average 1 time a month before or after her period. I am a 2-3 times a week kind of guy. I am 37 she is 41 i work she is a stay at home mom kids are 9 and 10. she has tubes tied so no more kids possible. ummm guess i am married to the wrong woman i love her but wtf 1 time a month is basically none. I am not looking forward to being older because that 1 time a month i know will end up being 1 time every 6 months. My hand is not a viable option since eveything i make goes to my family. I got more sex when i was single and before kids came in the picture. my advise dont get married and dont have kids you will have more sex that way.
2016-04-01 11:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U of Texas, Men's Health, New York Physician's Hormone Center, and the New England Journal of Medicine all reported recently on sexual frequency of married couples - the average for the huge majority of responses was 1-3 times a week in all 4 studies, with 2 being the most common number.
Is that average? Yes. Is 1 or 2 a number most guys are happy with? Nope. Is that "right" or "correct" or "should"? Only you can answer that.
I can tell you most married guys I have known for a long time get it far, far less than once a week and 3X a week would be friggin' heaven.
Tell him he doesn't know how goddamned lucky he is, living at a beautiful Hilton Sunday Brunch while there are men starving all around him. :-D
2007-04-12 11:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 times a week is probably normal. Especially if you have kids and you both work.
He really should be happy with 3 times a week. Have him ask other married guys how often they get it and he'll see how lucky he is.
Have you asked him if he enjoys it, maybe even though it is 3 times a week the way in which you guys do it may not be satisfying to him. Ask him.
2007-04-12 12:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 times a week sounds good to me! I guess as long as you are both being intimate in some way it is healthy. You dont have to have always have intercourse, theres emotional intamcy as well. My husband and I have only had sex 3 times since Sept 05. Its not the actual bump and grind to see who orgasms first that I miss.... its the emotional intamacy, looking each other in the eye, touching each other in little ways. Heck, at this point I dont even WANT the bump and Grind. As long as you and your partner have a healthy emotional relationship, the physical will fit in as appropriate. Even the elderly who are not always able to have full contact physical intimacy find ways to pleasure each other. The most important sexual organ is NOT the genitals, its the BRAIN.
Best of luck to you. Blessings
2007-04-12 13:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by grapelady911 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The expectations depend on the person. Some people wouldn't settle for anything less than once or twice a day - others are happy with once a month or less. It is very individual, and there is no "right" or "wrong" answer. Ideally, both people should be satisfied with the frequency - if the needs vary dramatically, it will create problems even if neither way is "right" or "wrong".
My husband and I have sex maybe once a month, and we are both happy with it. Married 6 months, together 2 years, frequency has always been this low from the very beginning, this is what works for us. But it won't work for everyone.
2007-04-12 10:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
2 is the norm,
3 is a good week,
4 means you are on vacation,
5 means she is doing some other guy and feels guilty.
6 and your wife is trying to give you a heart attack.
7 times a week, your wife is an alien from another planet.
2007-04-12 13:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by photoguy1967 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What is normal?????? Instead of worring about how often try making it more intimate. Try foreplay!!!!!!!! Try different approaches and see which ones work. Talk to you spose about what turns her on and let her know the same about you.
An open line of communication and a little fantasy can go a long way. It has for me. Expecting it is like forcing her to look at it in a negative manner. Romancing is also foreplay!!! Get creative and see what happens, the old spark may light:)
2007-04-12 10:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by letnjonc 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"I think it's pretty safe to say that the man obviously wants to have sex more than the wife," Maybe in YOUR marriage but that doesn't make you the authority on everyone else's marriage. What is reasonable should have been discussed BEFORE you got married. Now if you're not getting enough you're just going to have suck up and deal with it by hand.
2007-04-12 10:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Every man is different although you are nicer then me - my husband is lucky to get it once a week. Although I keep telling myself that 5 minutes really isn't a lot of time to give up, it's still hard for me as getting in the mood takes me some time and he doesn't need the time or attention beforehand. Sigh:(( Sex is over rated in my opinion.
2007-04-12 10:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋