Is there life after hell?
2007-04-12 09:49:52 · 25 answers · asked by TIFFANY B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES!!!
Just because you were in an abusive relationship for years, does not mean that you can't find your true soulmate.
It happened to me. I was abused for more than 10 years, and believe it or not, I found my soulmate (husband) on the internet. We have been happily married for 5 years now.
I'm not suggesting that you go online to find someone, however, if you give yourself some time to heal emotionally, you will eventually find some one to share a happy life with.
Good luck to you, and remember that you are entitled to a life of love and happiness.
2007-04-12 09:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jacqueline B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope so. I have lived a lie for 40 years. My ex husband cheated on me from almost day one. He was a liar, a thief and a cheat. He only hit me twice on the second time I told him I would lock his *** up. He put a gun to my head , I went to the law they did nothing . That was in the 70's I told him the next he better make it good or I would lock him up. He was good for a little while. I never told the children he gave me and STD, I never told them he lost two jobs for stealing. I hide all the pain. I don't think I will ever trust anyone again., but I am starting to trust and believe in myself. It takes time. it has been 4 years since he moved out and 2 years since the divorce, there is still so much pain and bitterness because of all the years. I know it is going to take time. Just take one day at time and smile and remember where you have been and where you are going . It has got to be a better place. Loving after all this will take a long time.
2007-04-12 16:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After many years of alcoholism,mental/emotional abuse...I finally left for a life of serenity. For almost 2 years now I have been searching for my lost individuality, and it's finally arriving. Take your time with your "new you", get to know each other, cry if you must, laugh REALLY hard, and remind yourself that you are a truly deserving person. You have survived an awful injustice to not only your physical being, but to your spirit.
Will you love again? Once you realize that only you can "love" yourself, the rest will fall into place. It all starts with forgiving yourself and realizing your worthy of "loving" again. Best of Luck to you!! I've had the same ? running through my mind lately too.
2007-04-12 18:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pixie48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not real love, what you have is a need to be loved by this person that was abusing you, thats all you ever wanted, but its in vain, one sided love is not good for anyone, its a terrible thing to stay with a person like that no matter what, how can you be happy living what you know is a lie? and yes, there is life out there, as long as you choose not to go back to the abuser after he convinces you hes sorry and will never do it again,
2007-04-12 16:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by sofmatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I believe it's very possible to love someone after being hurt/abused in previous relationships. I do think it takes some time after being hurt, because it's hard to trust again. I do however think, in time you will come across someone who you feel is worth your time and getting to know and you will once again build that trust with him/her and that will allow you to take down your barriers or walls and trust that person. Sometimes it's hard because you will want to compare that person to the old person who did hurt/abuse you but in the end that will only hurt you because you may miss out on someone who is a really great person. Just give yourself time and take it slow, and you will know when you are ready to give yourself fully again.
good luck.
2007-04-12 16:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...........but remember that men can tell if you have been abused by the way they act, so be careful you don't get played by another abuser and keeps you into control again!!
I think you should attend a supportive group and have a counselor to help you with your self steem..........make sure this counselor is the same sex as you so that there is no provabilities of this person taking advantage of you and also when you meet someone make sure you keep attending with them to the counselor so that you can really tell about their intentions with you!!
Don't worry this world have nice people tooo and although hard to find they do exist!!
2007-04-12 16:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course.......If the situation was on the other hand and a man was hurt and betrayed in his past and you know that you are a loving, loyal, and trusting woman, would you want him to sterotype you for the wounds of his past? Of course not because you know that you shouldn't be responsible for the pain and hurt someone eles caused him. Everyone is different and if you were hurt by someone who didn't deserve you in the first place then the person you meet after him is blessed for having that opportunity and he is the luckiest ONE******
2007-04-12 17:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can Love someone and not be able to live with them. There is Life after Hell. Just stay away from Hell and things will be much brighter. (Not Hotter) Good Luck
2007-04-12 17:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Get you well first. Make yourself happy by going after your own dreams and finding out what it is that makes you tick. What are ten things you love about you? What are ten things that make you happy? Once you are well, you will have no problem finding love and living the life you should with the one you deserve. Get good counseling and get on your feet. It all gets better from here.
2007-04-12 16:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course there is, it just takes time plus the right person. you might not find love straight away but think of every new relaionship you enter as stepping stones towards your true love so if they dont work out just say hay thats one step closer to my true love and when you get there you will know you love that person without having to ask wether it is possible or not. try to get strength from the pain you felt,and you will grow strong and confident in you relationships. good luck
2007-04-12 17:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by traceyandjames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋