Tips for first sex?

Question

I'm 22 and I've never had sex...I'm afraid...I'm dying...I think I cant tolerat the pain of tearing hymen..what can I do?

Is it really painful? how can getby? It's goin to bleed?how much?

Answer 1

Be sure to be well lubricated. Make sure you're with a man you trust and love! Take it easy and slow, and communicate what you're feeling to your partner. Relax, because if you're tense or overly nervous, you're less likely to enjoy yourself and you're more likely to have a painful first time. To help relax, have a drink or two before hand!

If you use tampons, you've probably already torn your hymen. In fact, even if you don't use tampons, you're probably already have torn your hymen. To check, insert one or two fingers into your vaginal entrance, if your hymen is intact, it should be within 2-3 centimeters from the entrance, and you'll feel it. If you don't feel anything, you've already torn it.

As for pain and bleeding, that really depends on the individual. Some girls report excruciating pain and lots of bleeding their first time, and some report no pain or bleeding at all.

Answer 2

The first time isn't easy. If you can learn to physically relax (like when having a pap smear done)it will help. Have some alcohol before hand. Know and Trust the person you are planning to do this with. Make SURE he knows it's your first time. People aren't born knowing how to enjoy sex. You have to learn and it can take years! Your hymen might already be broken. It doesn't take a lot for that to happen. If you are very athletic, there is a chance, it's been broken. If you are afraid, don't do it. Use a lubricant the first time. I like K-Y warming massage. It's very natural, not greasy. Hope some of this has helped. Just because you are 22, doesn't mean you have to do anything your are not ready for.

Answer 3

Relax. The more stressed about it you get the more it's going to hurt. Just make sure your partner knows you're a virgin and make sure you trust them completely. If he cares about you, he will go slowly and take his time. You can also buy a personal lubricant (don't use oil or body lotion, this can give you an infection) to make him entering you easier.

Also, not all women experience pain when they have sex. For some it's painless, and for others it hurts, but generally the pain just lasts a moment. You might be sore for a little while afterwards, but I found menstrual cramping hurt more than losing my virginity did.

Just relax, take it easy and make sure the guy you pick is really special and cares for you. Even if he's a virgin, too, you can both be gentle towards each other.

Answer 4

Stop worrying so much. The more you worry, the more it is going to hurt when you actually do it because you are going to be tense and your muscles will be clenched. There is a very minimal amount of pain involved when your hymen rips. If you are well prepared for sex, you should barely notice it. Foreplay is key, it will help relax you and get your natural lubrication going. Take things slow, make sure you are ready, and you will do fine. Don't rush yourself, and don't let the guy rush you.

Answer 5

It's tough to say if it'll hurt for you or not since it's different for everyone. For me it did hurt and there wasn't too much I could do about it while it was happening. Ask your guy to be gentle. If he knows it's your first time and he's not a jerk then he will understand. If it causes you a lot of pain, I suggest to stop and take some tylenol. Wait a few days for the pain to go away and try again. It helps to stretch your vagina because your vagina isn't used to having something large stuck in it to say it bluntly. It may hurt even your second or third time. Pretty soon it'll be better though, I promise.

Answer 6

it's likely that even tho you are a virgin your hyman is no longer intact. by the age of 16 a girl has usually torn it anyways even without having sex. LOTS of things tear a hyman. bike riding, exercise, and sometimes heavy flow of the period.

i would make sure you are in a very committed relationship (maybe even marriage_) before you have sex for the first time b/c you will want a man who will be very sensitive to your fears.

Answer 7

You may not feel anything. I was filled with the horror stories of my friends before my first time, but I had no pain at all. Expect some spotting for a day or two.

Answer 8

you wont be thinking about it all that much when you are in the mood!! and maybe you will bleed and maybe not . i didn't! it does hurt but not THAT bad! all you need to do is relax... make sure you aren't dry down there when you do do it because it will make it more hard to go in!!

Answer 9

If you have ever used tampons you already tore your hymen. You could have also tore your hymen by doing other activities like exercising, horse riding, stuff like that. My first time didn't even hurt.

Answer 10

At 22, you really should experience no pain at all. Just do LOTS of manual foreplay to get ready, and go slow. No reason for tjhe first experience not to be great.