He just quit his job for no reason, we have kids a mortgage and all that stuff, I work but dont make alot, should I kick him to the curb just for being stupid and irresponisable
2007-04-12 08:50:50 · 17 answers · asked by paula_5150 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know about kicking him to the curb, but a swift kick to the groin is definitely called for!
I've had a spouse do the same thing (twice in fact)! There's almost never a good excuse in my book for quitting a job before you have been hired for your next one. This is especially true when money is tight and you depend on both incomes to live.
I'm not normally in favor of using sex as a weapon, but I'd suggest to him that you won't have sex with him again until he has a job. See if that motivates his lazy butt.
2007-04-12 09:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by peytonbarclay 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him you're angry with him for not discussing this with you first, as you have a family to think of and not just yourselves. But also let him know you'll stand behind him and help him find a new job to keep the family up and running.
Maybe he actually got fired or layed off and is too embarassed to tell you.
Talk to him about it and find out what his plans are.
If he says he doesn't want to work, and he just wants to lazy around all day, then maybe then I'd consider kicking him to the curb.
But definately talk to him first and try to find the real reason he quits. There's no such thing as quitting for no reason.
2007-04-12 08:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Downtown Addiction 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just going through something emotionally. I don't know how old he is but I have learned that young men in their mid-twenties go through an "irresponsible" phase.
Try to hang in there with him. I'm going through this now, so I completely understand your frustration. I'm sure he won't talk about it, and if he does, either gets angry or doesn't say much.
Try to back off, if talking doesn't help, and do your best to maintain the responsibilities. Things will fall through the cracks...and you might even wind up in a situation you don't prefer, but still hang in there.
You did get married for better or worse right?
Good luck!
2007-04-12 09:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry yet you're up the creek and not using a paddle. no you may nonetheless rigidity yet another to paintings. Its incorrect, yet its something you may want to manage and not count upon some different person to foot the expenses for you. IMO if you're able to operating, then you rather might want to be operating. Spousal help might want to easily be for a very restricted time to get a job/skills or if you're completely disabled. Its like newborn help - in the adventure that they don't paintings, it only builds up. attempt legal help and word in the adventure that they could propose you on what you're prepared to do.
2016-11-23 15:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by youngquist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will "kicking him to the curb" solve your financial issues? If your husband is a loser, then consider divorce but keep in mind how difficult it will be to raise your children on your own and pay for everything by yourself. If he is broke, a child support order won't mean shi t because he just won't pay. The worst they can do is put him in jail but you and your kids still don't see any money!
2007-04-12 09:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Richard Hurtz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then support him no matter what. Something will come along I guarantee it. I'm kind of in the same situation. Got fired and I have bills, rent and my account is negative money. My wife supported me and helped me get through it and the same day I got fired, I got an interview for a job making twice what I used to make (yes I got the job), and now I have never been happier, things are starting to look up now.
2007-04-12 08:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by delnquent24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he quit before they fired him.
Get all of the facts, I doubt your life will be any better without him, but if he just lays around the house and won't get another job, give him an ultimatum. Since he is home the babysitter is without a job also. I hope he has a plan.
2007-04-12 08:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...he should kick you to the curb for the same reasons.
Who is dumber? The person who does something dumb or the person who picks that person? You are even more at fault for make the original bad choice. Didn't you say: "for better or worse"...we can see your level of commitment.
2007-04-12 08:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you should be supportive of his decision and help him put his resume together to get another job as quickly as possible. Why would you even ask if you should "kick him to the curb?" That sounds like a very selfish wife who couldn't care less about her husband.
2007-04-12 08:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure that there wasn't a reason?
Point out the obvious to him, and if he doesn't want to get a job.. then kick him to the curb.
2007-04-12 08:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by who?what?when 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋