i know my husband is cheating. he is having affair with his coworker. but?

Question

how can i get a proof without spending so much money. one of my friend told me that she saw him with a girl.. he abuses me everyday. he doesnt talk much . i m beautiful now how can i get a proof

Answer 1

If he is abusive that is reason enough to leave anyway. However, if you want that type of proof, follow him and get some pictures or videotape. You may also want to consider a private investigator but they do cause money.

Answer 2

Instead of spending money on obtaining the "proof" which you already know in your heart is fact, use the money to get to a counselor. If your husband is abusing you everyday, that should be the number one reason to remove yourself from the situation, regardless of the extramarital affair. You say that you are a beautiful woman, although beauty is not only on the exterior, it comes from within, and obviously, you are not holding yourself up to the standards to which you should be treated. Do not torture yourself with seeking hard evidence. All the evidence you need you already have. Find the proof from within yourself, knowing that you deserve a better relationship that the one in which you are currently involved. Build up that beauty on the inside, leave this relationship, and work on yourself. Learn to be confident and strong, demanding to be treated in a way that is respectful and caring. You honestly deserve so much better, and by staying and searching for proof that you already know exists, you are just prolonging your heartache. Take a step back and look at the big picture. Define the type of relationship you want, and eliminate the negative things in your life preventing that from happening. Believe in yourself. I understand it will be incredibly difficult, but change is never easy, but usually necessary. You already know the road you should travel, just reach down within and put one foot in front of the other. May you find the inner beauty and confidence you deserve.
Jenna

Answer 3

What do you need proof for? Just leave. If you decide to divorce him, most places have a 'no fault' divorce system which means that any proof you may have that he cheated and is thereby at fault for the breakdown of the marriage is irrelevant.
If you want proof for your own need for closure, then maybe get the friend that saw them together to provide it. But if he 'abuses' you, perhaps it's simply better to forget all about the proof and get out.

Answer 4

Ok, there are two major issues here. If I were you, I wouldn't even worry about him cheating as much as I would his abuse. I would get my ducks in a row and prepare to leave. You don't have to discuss things with him whatsoever. Start saving money if you can, look for a new place to live, and try to keep everything to yourself. Open up new accounts in your name like savings/checking. But not at the same bank you have now. Give work # if you have it or cell # if you have it if companies need to get ahold of you while you're planning to leave. You don't need proof he's cheating. I honestly wouldn't care if he was. Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 5

A detective is expensive, but worth every dime. Get a GP unit and put it on his car it will track everywhere he goes and how long he has been there. Get a small tape recorder and put it under the seat of his car and retieve it late each night . Reset with new tape. Get the voice actived recorder about $25.00.
If you think you know where he is going. Get someone with a picture cell phone and have them get a picture of them together. What you being beautiful has to do with this question I do not know. Men cheat, whether you are ugly , thin, fat or pretty.

Answer 6

Have your friend & network of people who might see him carry disposable cameras. Or, hows about this: if you are confident in this fact, then JUST LEAVE HIM. Go to your mom's or a friend's until you can get your belongings out safely. Whyt in the hell do you need proof when you evidently are already convinced yourself? And even if he WASN'T cheating; HE'S ABUSING YOU!!!! Don't continue to let yourself be a statistic, GET OUT NOW regardless of the reason. You deserve better. Call a hot-line for battered women; go to a friend's or your parents where you'll know you'll be safe & get a police escort over to the house to get your things if need be. Bottom-line: GET OUT. You deserve BETTER. You don't need proof, he's already proven to be unreliable & a complete F-ING loser.

Answer 7

Beautiful women get cheated on everyday, if you don't believe me ask Halle Berry.......If this man abuses you and treats you like crap , why would you go through all the trouble of trying to keep him, you need to seek therapy for this because its not healthy. You deserve better than this, let her have him he is not worth keeping. Get in a program and build up your self esteem and move on to someone else that will treat you like the queen that you are.

Answer 8

Have your friend who has seen him get some pictures of them.Get some money together and start packing your stuff move things out a little at a time and talk to your relatives and ask to stay with them untill you are able to get on your feet then file for a divorce you deserve better and there is alot better in the world.

Answer 9

In the middle of the night while you are sure your husband is sleeping. you run away and go to a police station tell them he abuses you and cheats on you. Tell them that you want to have a divorce. Would you rather have no money in the bank or be abuse everyday.

Answer 10

Why wait for proof? If it's an abusive relationship you need to get out now - proof or not!