He is mad because I didnt get a abortion at 6 months?

Question

I got pregnant in September and at first me and boyfriend agreed on a abortion but I didnt have the full money I asked him to give me the money and he never had it. when I finally got my half of the money I was already 6 months and he is mad because I waited so late now he said I messed up his life I told him just forget about us and I will take care of my responsabilities wheter he choose to be there or not . He said he already got his kids and he cant take care of nomore and I am stupid to want to bring a baby in the world without a daddy. What do you guys think about the situation and what would you do. I couldnt kill no baby at 6 mths because it's just not right but he is only thinking about himself and worried what his other kids mother going to think.

Answer 1

One word. Adoption.

Answer 2

First off, you cannot have an abortion that far along in the pregnancy, so you did the right thing there.

If you feel that you cannot care for this baby, then adoption is the only way to go at this point. There are TONS of families and couples who would be happy to adopt and love this baby, couples that cannot have kids of their own.

Its not stupid to bring a baby into the world without a daddy. A little more difficult without dual incomes, maybe. But people do it ALL the time. Do you have friends and/or family that are willing to help you?

He is just thinking about himself. Who cares what his other kids mother thinks? This is about your life, and you two have a baby now! And regardless of what he wanted you to do, he has no legal authority to make you have an abortion. There are, however, laws requiring him to pay child support!

I wish you nothing but the best. In the future, proper contraceptives need to be used!!

Answer 3

Number 1, he should've thought about raising more kids when you two were doing the horizontal tango!!! he needs to get a vasectomy! Those aren't that expensive and he won't have to worry about anymore kids. As for you, you have two choices at this point. You can keep the child raise him/her, or you can give the baby up for adoption. If you think the baby is better off in a home with two parents who can afford to take care of him then I think you should do that. If you think you can afford to take care of a baby on your own for the rest of it's life then keep it. Don't use it to get money or try and get your boyfriend back. Make sure you make the descion that is right for the baby! There are plenty of people who want to adopt a baby, he won't go without a home. Honestly because you sound like you really aren't ready for a baby but at the same time you care because you wouldn't have an abortion so late in the pregnancy. I honestly think you should give him up for adoption. It will give him a good life and let you get on your feet so when you are ready you can have children with someone you really love and want to share that miracle with.

Answer 4

He is only truly thinking about himself.

If you don't feel you are up to having this baby in your life adoption is always an option. Though if you decide to keep the baby it might be best to realize and plan for the fact that the father may not be in the child's life *not that it sounds like he wants to be nor deserves to be*

If he is not wanting anymore children he should stop having sex. Or at least be more careful, and realize that even with being careful there is always a chance of pregnancy with sexual intercourse.

Perhaps a Vasectomy is in order.

You are not stupid to bring a baby into this world without a father. You are not the one keeping the child from having a father, he is.

Good Luck to you. If you have the strength the raise the child on your own then more power to you.

Answer 5

For one I do not believe in abortion unless you are raped... So abortion is not the answer.. If you make the mistake you need to take care of the responsiblities and there are a lot of babies that come into the world without a daddy. You can find a daddy later on it life right now you need to focus on yourself and that baby. If he does not want a part of the childs life then dont worry about him and if he is so worried about what his other children think or the other mother thinks why did he do it??? You do the crime you do the time... Which in this case is taking care of your child... Do NOT have an abortion... That is WRONG!!!! You can make it and you can get help with your child... And there are plenty of men out there that will treat you right and treat the baby right.. Good luck

Answer 6

I think you made the right decision in not getting an abortion. I didnt even know that drs would do an abortion that late in pregnancy? I agree with putting the baby up for adoption if you feel that you couldnt give the baby the life it deserves. My friend ended up in sort of a similar situation and she sees her daughter once or twice a year. She knows that her child is being raised in a better environment than she could ever give her.

Answer 7

I dont wana sound like an a@@ but if you had no money for abortion how will you get money to take care of the baby. If i were you id give the baby up for adoption, forget about ur boyfriend dont ever call him, move on with ur life. I know here in chicago you can take the baby to hospital or firehouse 3 days after the baby is born and give it to them with no questions asked. I know it sounds horrible but think about it once you have it will you be able to take care of your self and the baby. good luck

Answer 8

Next time he tells you you are stupid for bringing a baby into this world without a daddy tell him "I can play mom and dad and with your money WE will be fine!!!" You are right for not killing the baby. If he wants to be selfish let him. You need to think about what is best for this baby. BTW.. I think even if you wanted to you couldn't have an abortion now anyway! Good luck!

Answer 9

I couldn't kill a baby at all whether it be 6 months or 6 days. That is just disgraceful. If you put yourself in the position to have a child then when you do get pregnant unintentionally then you need to take responsibility for your actions. If you can't care for your child then put it up for adoption. There are many families out there who are just waiting to adopt because they can't conceive. However, if this was me this is what I would do just out of my own "plan" of action. I would, as you did, tell him he could forget about me and the baby and that I would handle it all by myself. Although, of course I would have to ask a friend or my MOTHER for help a little here and there but I would make sure he knew that I didn't need him and I could do it on my own and forget him. Because I know that I was the one who made the choice of having unprotected intercourse therefore my child shouldn't be punished for my wrongdoing and I would bust my @$$ and do everything in my power to give that child everything he/she needed in life. Then, one day when I was old and grey I could look back at my life and see what I'd accomplished. I would have raised a daughter/son all on my own and he/she would accomplish many things to. *No one shouldn't get a chance at life.*

Answer 10

I agree with you and that person who just said to put the baby up for adoption is stupid. You have all the right to have that baby. Don't worry about having to do it all on your own because God will provide all your needs and in the end every time you look at your child, you will know that you made the right decision to have him/her. He is the one that ends up losing, not you. A man like that, that only thinks of himself, does not deserve to have any children.

Take care n God bless.

Answer 11

First off, Planned Parenthood would have helped you with the financial part so you would not have had to wait so long.

Second, have you had any prenatal doctor appointments? You can still put the baby up for adoption.

Your BF sounds like a prick. If he (or you) didn't want a kid he should have wrapped his junk! You need to find a better quality man, not just some boy that will pump anything without protection!