How can guys reclaim their masculinity from metrosexuals who have compromised it?

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And I just wanted to say hi to the 3rd wave feminist in advance who decides to write about how metrosexuality shouldn't be ashamed of since it increases sexual tolerance. The point being made here is that tolerance of this sort only avoids confrontation rather than resolves conflict. I'd much rather see everyone approaching each other for real rather than embracing a masked way of living that's been altered for the sake of acceptability.

O boy. Now do I have to apologize in advance to everyone that says how that's exactly what metrosexuals are trying to do in the first place too? Gimme a break guys. Flip it around. Metrosexuals surrender who they are so they can get along without embracing their manliness. It's pathetic really.

Answer 1

Don't wear makeup
Don't carry a manpurse
Don't get a manicure, and please not a pedicure
Don't look better than me...EVER
Don't have the ability to name designers
Don't even think about wearing a manthong
Never say the two words "manolo blahnik" in the same sentence
Open the door
Don't be a weenie
Does that help some?????????

Answer 2

Did some mean metrosexual take your wee-wee away from you?

Tsk, tsk.

Why do you need to "reclaim" masculinity? How is it that your masculinity is something that other people can destroy just by living their lives as they see fit?

Sounds to me you never had it in the first place, if that's the case.

If conflict is the only way you can deal with women, that may explain why none want to sleep with you.

Answer 3

In Europe, a lot of men have actually always liked to dress well. It's true that, now, more and more men use skin care products, and do their hair. But I guess it's less shocking for Europeans because they've always liked to dress well. Although I have to say that a lot of people do not fall into that category. These are the ones who are called "hillbillies"! Dressing well doesn't mean you have to dress in an effeminate way, you know. I think it's just cultural, although I have to admit that I would find someone who spends more time than me in the bathroom (well, I only spend 10-15 min in the bathroom, dressing up included) a bit annoying.

Answer 4

The only person who's masculinity is compromised is the "metro-sexual"
But what do you consider metro? Wearing hair gel? Dressing nicely? Using "beauty products"?
Here's the thing. There will always be women like my best friend who want a sensitive guy who dresses well and always looks well groomed.
There will always be women like me who prefer a man with caluses on his hands, has a job that requires he break a sweat, and only looks hotter with a bit of 5 o' clock shadow.
But it is the same way with men.
Some guys prefer curvy girls, some prefer stick thin. Some guys like a low maintenance girl who prefers a hike in the woods, while others want a 5 star meal.
It's all relative.
Are you concerned that these metro men are getting all the girls, and you feel that you have to somehow compete with them? Don't worry about it.
I love my metro guy friends because they are fun to dance with, but I will always go for a guy who smells more like man than cologne.
Different strokes for different folks, ya know?

Answer 5

Masculinity is not a tangible thing, it is a concept that changes over time and across cultures and has been doing such for thousands if not millions of years. Masculinity changes as cultures change. Femininity too. These are not biological traits.

Metrosexuality could be considered one of those cultural shifts in masculine identity.

Answer 6

How is it that the way someone else lives his life, affects my, or our, masculinity? Just what conflict do you propose to resolve?

If someone else wants to live the life the way they choose, how is that then a masked way of living?

"Metrosexuality" is just a catchy word some journalist invented; the "phenomenon" didn't exist until the word did, IMHO. That aside, I don't quite understand what your beef is.

Answer 7

Get REAL!!

Metrosexuality has nothing to do with "Manliness" though most if not all Metrosexuals are, indeed, Manly. It has to do with the generally respected ideas and ideologies held by most men and most women in a socially gender based society.

Metrosexuals bend those accepted limits and in fact break the rules of this gender aligned activities. They in NO WAY take anything from their lesser enhanced Male compatriots so there is nothing to 'reclaim'. They are not masked in their lives - far from it! Neither are are the women who accept them. It also has nothing to do with sexual tolerance. It's a way of living far above the generally accepted and peer motivated activities or norms of the male gender.

Masculinity has nothing to do with the accepted lines of social acceptance anyway, and THIS is what the Metrosexual proves time and time again. Being a metrosexual means you know how to cook (not just burn meat on a grill) knows about sports, but does not pay homage to it in some quasi religious celebration every day or every weekend. They are their own person, accepting of their own likes and dislikes, alive in a society which seems to admonish individuality.

Metrosexuals break the rules of your "good ol' boy network' by doing dishes, knowing how AND WHEN to run a vacuum, they may enjoy opera, ballet, and enjoy a good book. They do not laugh at simpleton sex jokes, Non-PC Ethnic Humor or "Redneck Humor". They dress well, in clean stylish (though not overly stylish) clothing. They respect women (and yes, enjoy heterosexual sex with them.) They enjoy vegetables, wine and may or MAY NOT be inclined to drink hard liquor. They are untied to social norms set by their NonMetrosexual counterparts. They are aware of themselves and the world around them regardless of how those other "Non" Metrosexuals grab their crotch, spit on the sidewalk, let the women do the "wimmin's werk", scream for a beer rather than getting it themselves, wear week old clothing, dirty socks and have no idea what a Novel is. They also post ridiculous questions about reclaiming their masculinity when it has never gone missing.

Answer 8

Metro what ????? lord all mighty whats this world coming to ? Reclaim your masculinity sounds like you've spent sometime in a very small cell with a guy named buba. Here's a simple idea put the sex BS aside and just be yourself. People will either except you or they don't. If you can get up in the moring and look at yourself in the mirror and smile thats fine. If you look and say am i man enough ? Go back to bed and grow a pair.

Answer 9

Personally I have no idea how there is so much gay clothing on sale and so little actually manly clothing. The route I chose is to either wear leather jackets or sportswear most of the time. If I go into most clothing stores I have to explicitly tell the person who helps me that no, what they think would look good on me looks gay and find me things that don't look gay only.

Some female retail assistants seem to get offended by this. To my mind an added bonus.

Answer 10

Um . . . so what? Isn't it better to embrace one's true self instead of an arbitrary standard of gender identity?