My husband and I been married for almost a year. We knew each other for 2 years before he perposed to me. So you can say we know each other very well. But now i'm pregnant and we a physced. But the thing is I don't know if he is willing to put up with me for those 9 months. I never been pregnant so I have no clue on how I am going to be. Will he still love me? And help me through this?
2007-04-12 07:56:29 · 12 answers · asked by Hillary J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's normal to have these insecurities. Wait until you're bulging out 2 feet! You'll go through different stages. Some days, you'll feel like to most attractive woman on earth and others you'll feel fat and ugly. What will probably not change is how your husband feels about you. I'm not sure what it is with men, but when their woman is pregnant, they fall more in love with her everytime they see her.
The other consideration is while you're insecure about your attitudes and mood swings, your place and security in his eyes, and his attitude toward the pregnancy, he has a whole different set of worries. Will you still find time for him? Will you love the baby more than him? How is he going to support you and the baby and how will the baby change your everyday lives?
Both of you will go through a roller coaster of emotion, but believe me, it is WORTH it. Your new bundle of joy will be just that. You are about to experience the ultimate intimacy between a husband and a wife, a mom and a dad. Go with it! Enjoy every moment. Good luck.
Oh - and include him, by the way. Invite him to the maternity appointments and to espically the ultrasounds! Men love that and it makes it very real for them.
2007-04-12 08:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw. Congrats!!! He has some knowledge of whats pregnancy is like from stories, tv and stuff like that, so I'm sure he'll be there for you. Talk to him and tell him you don't know how you are going to feel through this, and that you need him to be there for you. If you are married and know each other for this long, of course he will still love you. Bringing a child into the world is something sooo special and will be a great experience. Good Luck and congrats!!
2007-04-12 08:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Beanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has more to "put up with" than you think...it's not easy,these 9 short months...but if he loves you and his little one he will get through it...you didn't get pregnant alone so no need to put it on your shoulders alone...my husband went through 4 pregnancies and 1 miscarriage and was he "always" Mr. perfect? No, far from it...but he did the best he could...and the 9 months is the easy part!! lol
You married him because you love and trust him, right? Well, have faith. Don't worry, it's not good for the baby.(I had to throw that in because I've heard that line forever!! LOL)
Congratulations!
2007-04-12 08:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by mrs O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any reason to think otherwise. I mean it's not like you guys met last week and then the next day got married and 3 days later pregnant. And you are carrying his child.....of course he will still love you. If you are that concerned I'm sure that they have parenting classes or seminars that you guys can take. Or....they have a book I think like the "What to Expect when you're expecting"..I believe they have it for a father to be. This would be a nice gift to give him. Also, tell him that you're scared....it's a natural feeling :)
2007-04-12 08:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by ljoc421 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that your guy isn't so shallow as to desert you during your pregnancy. Goodness, what would he do with the actual child raising years! The two of you should have had many conversations on this in the 3 yrs you have been together. You certainly should be sharing your thoughts with him now.
2007-04-12 08:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found in most relationships, this brings people closer. Things might change a little bit. But im sure if he loves you, he will understand you can't help your mood swings. Just don't worry. I'm sure everything will go great. You will flip out on him, he will get over it. Because he knows in 9 months your gona have his baby.
2007-04-12 08:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by Deziix33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases, pregnancy of your wife, makes men more attentive, more respectful, and more appreciative of them. That's THEIR baby you're carrying. Relax! He's going to be a great husband....and Daddy!
2007-04-12 08:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well thats tough.if he's understanding,careing,and in love with you he will stay.if he's non of the above well thats even tougher people are people and have their own thoughts.and i cant nor can anyone eles judge him.i do hope things work out for you and yours.and congrats on the baby
2007-04-12 08:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he will deal with you. But try to be easy on him too, pregnancy is a hard thing to deal with for a man..Alot of emotions from us women.
2007-04-12 08:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 04:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋