My boyfriend and I have been together for about eight years and we have a two year old daughter together.While I was pregnant he cheated on me and pushed me away. He was in prison for the first year and a half of my daughters life and during that time i had an other boyfriend. while locked up he begged me to come back to him and give him a chance to be a family. I had moved to Austin and was doing good! when he came out I decided to give it a try and left my bf and moved back to Houston. Now he says he's not ready and he's sorry for having me move back. He says he needs space and he still wants to have fun. I am just hurt to where it's unbearable and I don't know if I should stay and prove to him that I love him or just walk out and leave that behind me. I do love him but he sometimes doesn't come home and a few times he's come home with hickeys on his chest. I know i told him I would give him space... What do I do?
2007-04-12 07:14:08 · 25 answers · asked by DADDYSGAL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you shouldn't stay and try to make it work, because you would be the only one making the effort. You already proved to him that you loved him and wanted to make things work when you had a relationship with him and had his child, even though he cheated on you and pushed you away. You proved it again when you left your boyfriend and the life you had and moved back to Houston to be with him after he begged you to go back to him. You've been proving it to him all along; he's the one who never proved it to you. All he's been doing is taking your love for granted, and cheating on you time and time again. He has made it clear that he only wants his space, his fun, and his women. Best thing is to move on and try to make a new life with your daughter; she should be first priority in your life, not him !! Have some self-respect, and don't let him play you ever again. And make sure you also get child support from him. Though he doesn't want to be true to you; he should at least be man enough to assume his responsibility to her.
2007-04-16 04:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him lots of space.. for example move far far away from him! The relationship is a lost cause on a one way street that is only going to cause more emotional damage to you and your child. You proved you loved him by even giving him another chance, you have nothing else to prove to him it's actually quite the other way around. If I were you I would get away from him while you can and let yourself heal and move on. Yes it's going to be emotionally painful but it sounds like it already is. At least if you move on the pain will become less and less with time. As the others said you deserve better so go get it! Good Luck
T.
2007-04-12 07:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by ThePleasurePlayground.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the old saying "you can do bad by yourself"? Well you've proven just the opposite. It seems to me that you do better without this man so why are you letting him pull you down? Think about your daughter's life, think about your own self worth. I mean really giving him "space" is one thing but to move yourself all the way to Houston only be be told "he's not ready" and have him show up with hickey's whenever he does decide to come home. Please. You better get your head on straight girl and move on. I know it hurts and all, but this guy treated you like absolute s.hit. He's not worth your "staying to prove to him you love him". Try loving yourself! Good luck.
2007-04-12 07:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be ignorant f*cking leave him, you deserve alot better. He is treating you like shyt he can't just walk in and walk out whenver he wants. No offence but your really stupid for even staying and putting up with his shyt especially when he has been cheating on you...
Honey go out and find a good man who will be their for you through thick and thin obviously this man now only want to have fun as so you stated...
Do what's best for you and your DAUGHTER, she doesn't deserve this either and by you doing this she will pick up on that habit and end up staying with a man who treats her like shyt, cheats ect would you want that for your little one?? Naw you would probably want her to be happy...
I would be best if you found someone who isn't a jailbird and someone you can count on and love your daughter like she was their own because your man now obviously doesnt give a dam about her...
If you stay your wasting your time, nothing will change and you will keep getting hurt by this f*cking prick...
Think of what is right for your little girl remember it's more about her than anything..
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-04-12 07:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, let it go. all the pain you will feel for awhile if you leave is nothing compared to what you will feel forever if you stay. there are good men out there (SOMEWHERE, i'm still lookin) serving time has ruined him. let some other woman deal with him. it is better for your daughter this way. dont allow him to be the example in fronnt of her as to what a man should be. walk away and YOU be the example of what a strong woman refuses to put up with.
signed,
been there done that won't ever be back
2007-04-12 07:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Barb P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a bad habit. He is not worth your time at all. He just wants someone to cling on to him without giving anything in return. That does not sound like the kind of person you want your child around whether he is the father or not. Be strong, be a woman, you dont need a man in your life at all times to be happy. You can do you...All by yourself. Take time to get your head together because it doesnt sound like its on straight. Rethink your priorities, which are your daughter, not her loser father.
2007-04-12 07:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 15:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl!. I know your in a HARD situation, but if hes telling you he doesnt want to be with you, then why are you trying to make it work?. Maybe you should give him his space and leave, if not for you do it for your daughter, im in a similar situation and i say RUN!...let him be the "player" he wants to be, cause remember if hes out srewing around he can always bring back a disease to you. You can always find someone who is willing and wanting to be with you....but i know its hard because you love him, but you need to love you and your daughter MORE!...she deserves all your attention instead of him....GOODLUCK GIRLY!!!
2007-04-12 07:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by He's my Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on and get on with your life. He's a major loser who treats you like dirt. I've dumped guys who've acted like that. You and your child deserve to have a better life than that, this way, you can keep your options open and meet new people!
2007-04-12 07:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on it may hurt to walk away but it would hurt more to stay with someone who doesnt really love u just likes 2 play games with ur emotions find someone who can be there 4 u and ur daughter
2007-04-12 07:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by dymme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋