My cousin is fixing to back to Iraq for 18 months neither of them was planing to ge pregnant now. They just got married are young like me early 20s and She's really in shock still over being pregnant and she's really sad down in the dumps because now he is leaving and is gonna miss it all. So I was wondering what are some ideas yal have to cheer her up. I know it must be hard but she really needs not to stress so much with being only 8 weeks pregnant
2007-04-12 07:14:05 · 7 answers · asked by Sondra 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is awesome for her to have someone like you in her life. It is challenging to moms to go it alone. I was by my friend's side for her pregnancy while her husband was out the state for military also. The biggest thing you do-if you can- is to be there for her-go with her to the docs-hang out with her. Let her know that she doesn't have to do this on her own. Understand that what she is feeling normal-but family and friend support can bring up her mood.
2007-04-12 07:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by TerWii 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she needs to talk to other mothers like myself and others that are near her base. I went through all three of my pregnancies alone, my hubby was deployed and now I am pregnant with twins, he will be here for the birth but leave soon after. There is no way to cheer her up per se, she just needs to adjust to the information, this could take a long time, she needs to search out her FRG group and make friends with other military moms, if you find the right ones, they are supportive and since pretty much every single one of them has been there, it starts to seem less horrible after a while. You see that they not only did it, but are alive and happy, they give you tips and it makes it seem more doable. IF she wants to she can contact me, My name is Barbara I am currently at Fort Huachuca Arizona and will be going to Fort Riley Kansas in Aug or Sept. Have been to Fort Stewart GA, Fort Sill, OK and Redstone Alabama. Hope she gets to feeling better.
2007-04-12 07:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While you love her and want to help her she may need support that you cannot offer. She should see about any mothers or pregnant mothers groups on base. Also, her hubby's unit should have some sort of family readiness officer/group, and/or some wives in the unit that act as a support team. Wives band together in military communities. The support they can offer is amazing. She is not alone. There are lots of other pregnant women with hubbies gone or about to be gone.
Twin pregnancy is enough strain on the body without adding a deployment. She really needs to try to focus on the babies and not on the negative. Best of luck to you both.
2007-04-12 07:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad! I really feel for her. I'm 8 weeks along, too, and I know how emotional you can get. Just tell her that having twins is a blessing, and that you'll be there for her, and name everyone you can think of who will be there for her. I'm sure she must be feeling overwhelmed and scared. Poor girl! Give her a hug from me!
2007-04-12 07:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to just take it easy i know from experience that someone especially your hubby going to Iraq is hard not worrying is going to help her baby and her hubby to know that she is doing good while he is gone. Think of twins being double blessing from god not only did he think that you would be a good mother to one he thought that you were extra special to be having two. When they get into the world let them know that you never thought of them as bad.
2007-04-12 07:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by shay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it is a true blessing. Not everyone can have children. She is the luckiest woman alive in my book.
Good Luck.
2007-04-12 07:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Hedgehog888 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remind her .. she has 2 little reminders of him inside of her :)
God bless!
2007-04-12 07:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋