I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my second child. My first is a boy, and this one is also going to be a boy. {yay} I was wondering how everyone felt about having a shower for this baby. My first is a winter baby and this one will be a summer baby, so none of my 2 year old's old clothes will be suffecient.
2007-04-12 06:53:37 · 12 answers · asked by Erin J 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my sister had a boy the 2nd time around 4 years later she didnt register or expect anything but we threw a shower anyways and she mainly got gift cards and odds and ends we knew she needed.....i think every baby deserves a shower!!! not fair to give just one ya know...especially when its years apart! and the whole being born at diff times of the year does nothing to help you! have another shower who cares what people say its not rude or anything else its WISE!
2007-04-12 08:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every baby deserves a shower! Just spread the word (or have gal pal do so) that you still have this, that, and the other thing from your older child but you are in need of x, y, and z this time around.
Showers are usually fun for attendees and you're offering games, companionship, and refreshments, right? So it's not a burden! A great party and food in exchange for a baby gift that most people have fun shopping for and picking out? Go for it!
Of course, this depends upon the customs for your area. Check around. If it's really frowned upon, perhaps you could just put out the word you need to swap or cost-effectively obtain a few things for the new baby, sans party. Most moms have leftover newborn clothing lying around. There's also thrift stores - new baby clothes are usually hardly worn or donated new!
Another option would be a "sibling party" - with the focus being on the welcoming of a new sibling into the family.
2007-04-12 14:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having a baby shower for the second time. I have a son and this time I am having a girl. I questioned about having another shower, but realized I do not have anything for a girl. If I was having another boy then I would not have one.
There will be 5 years and 25 days between my 2.
2007-04-12 14:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by TM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the mom-to-be, you won't be planning the baby shower. However, your closest friends and family may want to do something less formal than a real party. You should let them, but not *ask* or *expect*. Traditionally, a shower is only held for the first born, as you were expected to recycle for the second.
While pregnant with my second (my first was only 17 months old then) my best friend organized the 'girls at work' to make dinners for us during our first week home. That tray of lasagne was worth more than a new pack of onesies!
2007-04-12 14:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 boys and i only had a baby shower for the first one. they were both born in april so i thought that all the clothes would fit and what not. well they didnt. my second son was/is alot bigger than my first so he doesnt fit into hardly anything my first son wore. if you still have everything from your first pregnancy then i would say no. especially if you have the bigger things that you need. if you just need clothes you can get them on your own at like walmart. they are not very expensive.but if you want to have another shower then you go for it and i hope it all goes well for you.
2007-04-12 14:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by lindz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say only give a shower for the fist baby, but I see nothing wrong with it. My friend is pregnant with her second and we are going to give her a shower. Not as big as the first one but a small shower is OK.
2007-04-12 14:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually etiquette says that one shower is enough (if you have your children close in age, to pass down their clothes). But if you think you may need one to help with 2nd baby, then that's probably fine.
I would just invite close family members and friends. And also, if others are throwing your shower, don't expect them to pay for everything, since it is your 2nd shower. Offer to help with expenses.
2007-04-12 14:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should have a shower for your second baby. I'm sure your friends and family will be thrilled.
2007-04-12 14:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by ili_31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it's not appropriate. But these days, anything goes. Just don't throw yourself a shower. That is beyond tacky.
2007-04-12 14:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if someone else were planning it, then it would be a no-brainer. Although second showers are common nowadays, I wouldn't hold one for myself. But, if I got invited to one for a mom having her second, I wouldn't think twice about going. I would feel greedy holding one for myself, and wouldn't do it. But if someone wants to have one for you, then I say go for it.
2007-04-12 14:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋