How do i know if my boyfriend is cheating on me?

Question

well, i have this boyfriend and we have been going out for 3 1/2 months but lately he has been texing this other girl he met at the park, he said he just gave his number to her even though he didnt know her. he says there is nothing between them, and one day he sent me some text she had sent. Before he sent them he was like dont get mad, but the text said "good mouring, i love u and miss u baby". I asked him why she is talking too you like that if you guys aren't going out and he said he doesn't know she is crazy. I have asked him if they are goin out but he says no and that he loves me not her she is nothing and i am everything. But i dont live near him and she lives right in his neighborhood and he is a couple years older than me. Can i trust him? or could he be doing it to get me jealousy because my other ex that really brooke my heart (My boyfriend hates him to death cause he didnt like the way he treated me) but me and my ex are still really good friends. could he jus be jealous

Answer 1

Ask to meet her so that she knows he has a gf. If he won't introduce you then somethings going on. Personally I would have already broke up with him....I think you should too!

Answer 2

Sorry so long. I copied and pasted, lol. Hope it helps.

A. It's not easy to catch a cheater. If your partner is working hard to hide something from you, it will be difficult to find out for sure exactly what is going on. Before I give you some pointers on doing some detective work, remember that just because you suspect your partner doesn't automatically mean he is being unfaithful. Some people struggle with issues of self-esteem or trust, which leads them to doubt their partners and become paranoid about being cheated on or left behind — regardless of the circumstances.

That said, there are signs that can warn you that your partner is, in fact, being unfaithful. If he is suddenly working late hours or, out of the blue, has to take clients to dinner three times a week, check to see whether he is where he's supposed to be. If your partner says he's going to be out for more than a couple of hours, make sure you have a way to reach him. If he doesn't want to give you a phone number, be suspicious.

Be equally suspicious if your guy goes away for a trip and refuses to give you a hotel name, or only wants to be called on his cell phone. If he says you're being too nosy after you request this information, ask him: What if there was an emergency and you needed to reach him? And why wouldn't he want to tell you where he is? It's normal for partners to know about each other's whereabouts.

Also, check out your man's attitude. Is he more defensive and angry than usual? Most men feel guilty about cheating, so their impulse is to find fault with their partner so they can justify their own bad behavior. If he has been barking at you, looking exasperated or storming out of the house over nothing, I'd be concerned. (Extreme behavior in the opposite direction is also suspicious, by the way. For example, if he never bought you jewelry or flowers and all of a sudden, he's acting like a gift-giving Romeo, I'd worry that he may be acting out of guilt.)

I urge you to look for signs of new vanity. Is your guy suddenly a slave to the gym or wearing Italian suits? Have you been after him to dress nicely for years and now he is doing it on his own? If he never was a peacock but is strutting his stuff now, there is a good chance that a new love is motivating him to improve his looks.

You should also check out the women around your partner. Does he have a close friendship with an attractive woman at the office or in the neighborhood? Most people don't fall into affairs far from home — if you sense proprietary behavior on the part of a woman in his professional world or among your group of friends, trust your gut.

One last thing: Remember that while you can probably find out whether your partner is cheating, you may not want to know the truth. Investigating may make you feel like a paranoid fool (if you turn out to be wrong) or a jealousy-crazed detective (if you are right). And when your partner finds out how much snooping you are doing, he will probably be furious. You need to ask yourself: Am I ready to break up if it comes to that? Only you know what's right for you. Good luck!

Answer 3

you should just trick him into admitting that he is cheating. Tell him that you overheard a conversation that they were having. If he admitts it then thats that.If he doesn't tell you than ask him why he spends less time with you if he does. I f it takes more than 5 and a half seconds for him to respond than he is making up an excuse. If he is cheating on you then leave him right there because i was in love once and i didn't know it untill she was gone and i just miss her so much. He is a fool if he is cheating on you because if you leave him he is probably going to miss your laugh,eyes,voice,beauty,and thougts

Answer 4

well if a girl is sending him those kind of trust will that mines something is diffenitly going on and is he wants less sex than he usually want, if u ask him t come over an he refuses that mines shes close and if u ask y and he starts to get upset an rude he is never trust a man they will brake ur heart over and over

Answer 5

well i think that he may be telling the truth cause i can spot a cheater anywere
i just wanna no y he gave her the number but still he wouldnt have sent it to u if he was cheatin adn there are some cases were u can meet someone and they start to obsess over the person they met

Answer 6

Yeah Gurl. Any boyfriend who knows that you and your ex are good friends is jealous. I think you might wanna let him go. Just be good friends with him. Don't do it if you trust and believe him.

Answer 7

Break up with the one who is texting with another girl!A man can't treat a ex girlfriend like that!!.Maybe that was his ex girlfriend!Get along with your ex bf!Hope it all works out!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

i know how you feel... its pretty hard to find out if he really is into you, but the way to find out is try and talk to him and ask him whats really going on... i mean i had to find out the hard way and he really broke my heart... but you just have to believe in him and trust that he loves you.

Answer 9

Well, all the clues that he's cheating are there in your description. "Met at the park, got her phone number, and nothing's THERE?" yeah, right.

Answer 10

IF I WERE YOU I WOULD DUMP HIM BECAUSE IF YOU CAN'T TRUST HIM THEN ITS NOT A PROPER RELATIONSHIP AND ALL THOSE TEXTS SOUND LIKE THEY ARE GOING OUT BEHIND YOUR BACK I WOULD SAY THAT YOU ARE BEING USED BY HIM AND HES TRYING TO MAKE YOU BELIEVE HIM