Why do cry over the dead?

Question

Is it becouse we won't see them again or becouse we don't like change or is it becouse we sypathize with them and we are afraid abou thier destiny after death? I mean do cry for them or for ourselves??

Answer 1

excellent question and i often wondered myself why most people cry when someone dies. I don't know if others will think i am cold hearted or not but i do not cry when someone dies. I think they may have suffered in life and i would be the first to cry with them in life but tears when they have moved past life as we know it seems selfish and petty. Sure I will miss them but that also is no reason to cry and yes i would be sad they are no longer here but that also is my own selfishness and not a reason for me to cry.
Now i am not saying that my opinion is better than those that cry nor am i judging them for expression this emotion by crying. i myself feel that crying for a death isn't for me.
here is a star because i loved your question.

Answer 2

Well, being that my grandmother died last night, I think I can handle this one fairly well.

The short answer is Yes. To all of that. Yes sometimes because we won't see them and we will miss them. Yes, we all fear change, not just in death but in life. What will life be like without them? How does this affect the world? Uncertainty is scary, no matter who you are. Many fear what happens after death, which is why there are so many religions around the world that try to answer that question. What if she was wrong? She was a Christian, what if the Muslims are right? What if the atheists are right, and she really is completly gone? Is that bad? Is she happy now? These questions, this Uncertainty causes us grief above and beyond our loss.

And yes, some part of us cries for ourselves. And most people feel that to do so at such a time is wrong, so end up with alot of guilt about their reaction. I know i've thought that and I have some.

Answer 3

I am sure all the reasons you mentioned are included in anyones grief.Finality is very scary. We are pretty much selfish as humans. Someone has taken away what we want and it hurts.We cry for our loss and sometimes for pain the deceased suffered.I believe our life here is very short and is a "school" or testing ground. Unfortunately this pain is one of the things we deal with.My dad died when I was 11.Disbelief was all I felt but time makes you realize it is permanent and I don't believe God will give us more than we can handle if we ask for the help.

Keep in mind, this comes from a person who never set the world on fire with his religious beliefs.I'm learning the mystery and game of life just like everyone else. Only one has the answers and it ain't me.

Answer 4

I suppose it's all down to empathy. If someone you love dies, how would you feel? I couldn't put into words the grief.

Yes they are dead, but no-one knows what happens for sure after death. Some take solace in religion, the belief in an afterlife, and use that as a basis to ease their grief.

When we mourn, I think it's for ourselves and for them; we would never see them again and they would never experience anymore. All the living would have are their memories.

Answer 5

Good ?. Well first we cry cause they are gone. Then some cry cause there is no more pain and suffering for that person. Some cry from the suddeness of losing them. Some cry because they don't know if that person went to Heaven or Hell. Others cry just because they want to. And then you have those who cry to gain the sympathy of those around them who are fakes.

Answer 6

i think we cry because we realize deep down that we'll never see them again.
i guess it is a little selfish because we cry because we never get to see someone.
not really for them, because if you're dead, then you can't really feel any pain or anything
we may cry for what they could have had, but once again, we cry for our lost wishes for a person.
i cry for dead people because i think that they're forever gone. once that casket is in the ground, there's not really a chance that they'll ever resurface, and that's sad.

Answer 7

We are the ones being cheated. To never see a loved one again is only hurtful to the living. Who cares where they go after death, they are dead, and we the living are cheated.

Answer 8

I cry because It is so hard to face up to the fact you will never see them again and for the pain the family has to go through...

Answer 9

I think we cry because we miss them and because we're all on some level afraid of death or dying ourselves.

Answer 10

We cry for selfish love, we cry for ourselves and that we must endure without them. If we saw with selfless love, we would see that the deceased would want us to be happy and celebrate their life instead of mourn it.